I had a talk last night about my part in failing in long term relationships.
Basically I look around me in long term relationships and there is always one side that's taking shit from the partner, as in when an argument arises one will always back down for the greater good.
I don't know what the long long long term effects of this are, logic suggests this is a doomed relationship but when looking around these people in my environment are still together and starting to get married and getting children.
I on the other hand have a very confronting nature, one example is when an ex of mine was talking about her social anxiety, I added that I read up on that subject and might have ways to help her out but before I could finish my sentence she interrupted me and said hussh I don't want to hear about it!
It made me furious but I swallowed it at the moment untill she was happily talking about her day and then I did the same to her, to show how rude and unpleasant that feels.
Or one time I was in a club meeting with a girl who invited me there to see her and she ends up giving me her purse and then dances away on the dancefloor. I look to left I look the right and I see all these old saggy men holding purses while their gf's are having fun on the dancefloor.
I politely declined, gave her back her purse and headed out the door.
Next day my friends tell me, I should have had less self respect and held the purse so at the end I might have had the possibility to have sex with her.
Obviously a relationship is a two way street, and I think my inability to take shit has stopped me from either having long term relationships or just miserable relationships, I'm not really sure which one it is yet.
What are your toughts and experiences of taking shit in relationships?
Basically I look around me in long term relationships and there is always one side that's taking shit from the partner, as in when an argument arises one will always back down for the greater good.
I don't know what the long long long term effects of this are, logic suggests this is a doomed relationship but when looking around these people in my environment are still together and starting to get married and getting children.
I on the other hand have a very confronting nature, one example is when an ex of mine was talking about her social anxiety, I added that I read up on that subject and might have ways to help her out but before I could finish my sentence she interrupted me and said hussh I don't want to hear about it!
It made me furious but I swallowed it at the moment untill she was happily talking about her day and then I did the same to her, to show how rude and unpleasant that feels.
Or one time I was in a club meeting with a girl who invited me there to see her and she ends up giving me her purse and then dances away on the dancefloor. I look to left I look the right and I see all these old saggy men holding purses while their gf's are having fun on the dancefloor.
I politely declined, gave her back her purse and headed out the door.
Next day my friends tell me, I should have had less self respect and held the purse so at the end I might have had the possibility to have sex with her.
Obviously a relationship is a two way street, and I think my inability to take shit has stopped me from either having long term relationships or just miserable relationships, I'm not really sure which one it is yet.
What are your toughts and experiences of taking shit in relationships?