taking to long to cum.

[upone]

There is a medical condition that can cause this. It sounds great, but it can be frustrating and painful for both the guy and his partner.

 

[pain4anangel]

Oh there is cream you can buy to amplify sensation. You can get it at any sex store or online too most likely. I buy the desensitizing gel for guys who are with me :rant: However, I buy the sensitizing gel for myself.

 

[pain4anangel]

And I should clarify that there is a small percentage of men who do not cum fast with me. Usually they slow down or pull out and please me other ways and then go again in order to not cum so quickly.

 

[D_Chaumbrelayne_Copprehead]

Instead of cumming to fast. It takes me at least 45 minutes to cum. This has been a constant in my life. And sometimes I can't and have to finish myself off. Anyone else have this problem?

Yeah, I know what that's like. I'm always REALLY pleased when I orgasm inside my partner 'cause there are plenty of times I have to get myself off by hand.

Not qite 45 minutes, but too long none the less. Seems to be the worst when I'm with someone that I really like.

I'm conscious of it when I'm with someone I really care about 'cause I don't want to make them sore or bored or think it's their fault, somehow.

have the same prob takes 30-40 mins fuck its exhausting. is there something that can sensitize the cock head to help. the wetter she gets the longer it takes. any help would be good. as for the guy pumping someone for 4 hours do you take energy drinks and a meal at the same time. hmmmmmmmm

I hate the idea of wearing out my welcome while I'm fucking someone I like.

 

[uberhund]

I had/have this too, and there's a couple of things I found helped:

First, I'm not slow to come by myself: only with another person. If you're like this and have a regular partner you can speed up by having them hold you as you masturbate: after a couple of quick self-orgasms like this I found I was equally as quick with them when I needed to be.


Second, a lot of guys like a 'porn star finish' where they get lots of they way there inside someone, but finish themselves by hand. Once I decided I was one such guy, and that's an okay way to finish,I seemed to take the pressure off myself and found myself spontaneously finishing inside someone anyway. Somehow knowing I was allowed to finish myself off, and not judging myself, meant that I didn't have to, if that makes sense!

Good luck!

 

[uberhund]

I had/have this too, and there's a couple of things I found helped:

First, I'm not slow to come by myself: only with another person. If you're like this and have a regular partner you can speed up by having them hold you as you masturbate: after a couple of quick self-orgasms like this I found I was equally as quick with them when I needed to be.


Second, a lot of guys like a 'porn star finish' where they get lots of they way there inside someone, but finish themselves by hand. Once I decided I was one such guy, and that's an okay way to finish,I seemed to take the pressure off myself and found myself spontaneously finishing inside someone anyway. Somehow knowing I was allowed to finish myself off, and not judging myself, meant that I didn't have to, if that makes sense!

Good luck!

 

[PhallicApotheosis]

I have this problem, though its related to position etc. too. If the active party I don't finish, nor from oral, but if ridden right for a while it will go off fairly consistently. Condoms don't help, nor does being with someone you're still getting comfortable with. I also have wondered if having a foreskin makes a diff. I am more sensitive but not in terms of cumming, I'm far less than other guys there apparently as not cumming is more of a problem than cumming early. Highly desirable fuck buddies help too.

 

[123scotty]

I'm conscious of it when I'm with someone I really care about 'cause I don't want to make them sore or bored or think it's their fault, somehow.



I hate the idea of wearing out my welcome while I'm fucking someone I like.[/QUOTE]
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i couldn't have summed it up better

 

[123scotty]

Are any of you single and want to date?!?! Guys can't last long with me at ALL! It's a curse of being tight and having a "magical pussy" as it's been called lol. I would love a guy who can last. It takes a while to wear me out...and I swear I feel like crying when it happens over and over and over again when they blow their load in like 2 minutes or less.

i would like so much even once to blow my load in 2 minutes. to have cum enjoyed it and not be so tired after bucking like a bunny for 30 -40 mins hmm would be nice

 

[marcjohnson]

I think I got used to cummin laying down so maybe positions have something to do with it too.

 

[pain4anangel]

i would like so much even once to blow my load in 2 minutes. to have cum enjoyed it and not be so tired after bucking like a bunny for 30 -40 mins hmm would be nice

I can understand your frustration. I sometimes have difficulty cumming because of my meds or because he cums too soon and it's an instant turn off and I can't get turned on again. It takes a long time for me to cum then because I get frustrated. I have had guys get frustrated too because they can't cum. The frustration just adds to prolonging it. It's hard to not be frustrated when you're frustrated lol.

 

[mountain2]

I have had the same problem and she always gets sore or dry after a long time.

For the first time ever though this weekend I hooked up with a girl who I could go all the way in and she loved every bit of it which made it so much better and I was able finish.

You might just need to find that right girl.

 

[123scotty]

I can understand your frustration. I sometimes have difficulty cumming because of my meds or because he cums too soon and it's an instant turn off and I can't get turned on again. It takes a long time for me to cum then because I get frustrated. I have had guys get frustrated too because they can't cum. The frustration just adds to prolonging it. It's hard to not be frustrated when you're frustrated lol.

i think you have summed it up. i think because i know it takes a long time i get frustrated and yes that slows me down. my gf likes me taking longer so she gets wet even more making it harder for me to cum. i am a guy i love to blow a load. i would just like to be a bit quicker

 

[Sirramm]

I have been known to literally goes hours and even days on end (weekend marathons) without even getting close to an orgasm myself while she has SEVERAL. It isn't that I don't like the sex, the one I'm with or that the sex isn't any good. Of course I can "force" myself to "give-it-up" if I really concentrate and flex my leg and back muscles while I bang away and tune out the requests to slow down or even stop. I've heard that it is a mental thing for guys who jerkoff too much but considering I've never really had to resort to that on a regular basis I find that highly flawed thinking. I've also heard that there is a mental block that forces the body to shutdown and not allow orgasm but considering, to be blunt, when I fuck I'm there to have fun and get off and nothing other than wanting an orgasm exists in my mind. And to cover that WANT AND PRESSURE issue...I could care less if I really cum myself so I'm not really thinking about that final finale. I personally would and do love getting her off until she is so weak and worn out that I can simply have my way while she just enjoys everything I thorw at her so it can't and isn't that. Finally I have heard "trying to hard" will also shut down the process. Considering the fact that I don't actually see sex as "work", I get paid to "work", I enjoy fucking!, I don't think that is an issue. So what is my issue? I don't know and yes it bothers me...so if any of you out there have an answer please let me know!!!!

 

[phIN]

I had that and still suffer from it from time to time. Its usualy a trust, selfesteem issues, they call it retarted ejaculation. There are excercises you can do with ur partner to over cum it. It takes some time but well worth it.

 

[123scotty]

what leg and back muscles do you flex and how sounds a great help

 

[TopDudeFtl]

At times, it can take me a long time to cum as well. When I was a wee boy & realized that I had this wonderful toy hanging between my legs, I began playing with it. Some years later, I began to train myself to last longer. I was able to get myself off quite quickly when I needed to but was concerned that when I was to have sex, I might not last long enough to satisfy him or her (I identified as bi back then). I trained myself by edging, a term that I wouldn't learn to use until several years later. Fast forward to now, I can bring myself off pretty quick or hold off indefinitely. It is a blessing & a curse. A blessing because my boy likes to be fucked for long periods of time & a curse because he feels bad when I have passed what I call the point of no return. He feels that it's his fault that he didn't get me off, when in all actuality, it's my fault for training myself this way. Of course, different situations give different results. When it's just me & my boy & we have all night, I can usually last a long as I want. If I have had some chemical enhancers or too much to drink I may not last as long. Or if I have been overly stimulated (visually mainly), I may not last as long as I'd like. I'm not quite sure what steps you need to take to remedy your situation, but at least try to make the best of it in the meantime.

 

[dre101]

i wish i was like that!! i cum in 2 minutes

 

[Belly_Dancer]

if the women are getting sore, then either get them more stimulated so they naturally lubricate...

I'm sorry, no amount of lube will protect me from the soreness induced by being fucked for a long time, especially with a thick cock.

My husband has had intermittent issues with inability to reach orgasm.

I will admit that when he can't come, it is a blow to my ego. I don't know why, but I feel inadequate when that happens. No matter what he says, I can't help thinking that I am not enough in some way. So it is a huge relief to me, actually, when he comes relatively quickly.

I know I need to get over feeling like a failure when he doesn't come, but so far I haven't quite managed to do so.

I know sex is about a lot more than orgasms, but as a sub it is very hard to feel satisfied if I haven't managed to get my Dom off. I am trying to learn that sometimes he can still have a lot of pleasure with me, and feel satisfied with a session, even when he hasn't had an orgasm.

 

[Gecko4lif]

45 minutes isnt too long at all

Try several hours >.>

But yeah there is always the option of just pulling out and going to sleep when your tired instead of trying to cum.