taking to long to cum.

[tgirlsrgreat]

i come, sometimes quickly, sometimes i can last forever. my partner's enjoyment is important, so i want a lot of foreplay or a lot of oral and or finger play to finish or until i can go again. slow and gentle or hard and crazy to make her happy. its all about fun and satisfaction, work together and be flexible. one friend liked to give me what she called special days, which were just blowjobs when she was having her period. occasionally i could convince her that i still wanted intercourse and we could deal with the mess together. sometimes she wanted that other times not. it was all good.

 

[123scotty]

I'm sorry, no amount of lube will protect me from the soreness induced by being fucked for a long time, especially with a thick cock.


I will admit that when he can't come, it is a blow to my ego. I don't know why, but I feel inadequate when that happens. No matter what he says, I can't help thinking that I am not enough in some way. So it is a huge relief to me, actually, when he comes relatively quickly.

hi yes thats how i feel somtime that she likes me to take a long time but wants me to cum before it gets sore or i am well fucked. really should have used a better word there, so still looking for help here

 

[Jason]

Frankie Goes to Hollywood got itself banned by the BBC back in 1984 for talking about sex. Specifically they told a guy how to cum when shagging and described an orgasm (lyrics below). If you are shagging and you want to cum you have to slow it down. Guys (mostly) need the increase in speed to actually get off. If you are going at it full pelt and not spunking you are stuck - to get off you need to go still faster which isn't possible. So slow it right down, relax, then speed up for shooting the laser beams.

Oh oh
Wee-ell-Now!

Relax don't do it
When you want to go to it
Relax don't do it
When you want to come
Relax don't do it
When you want to come
When you want to come

Relax don't do it
When you want to to go to it
Relax don't do it
When you want to come
Relax don't do it
When you want to suck to it
Relax don't do it
When you want to come
Come-oh oh oh

But shoot it in the right direction
Make making it your intention-ooh yeah
Live those dreams
Scheme those schemes
Got to hit me
Hit me
Hit me with those laser beams

I'm coming
I'm coming-yeah

Relax don't do it
When you want to go to it
Relax don't do it
When you want to come

Relax don't do it
When you want to suck to it
Relax don't do it (love)
When you want to come
When you want to come
When you want to come
Come-huh

Get it up
The scene of love
Oh feel it

Relax
Higher higher

Hey-
Pray

 

[yellowman]

I have that problem, too. Not having a lot of partners in my younger years I spent a lot of time "preparing" by edging, stop and go method etc. when jerkin off. Now I regret it haha

I have the same issue. I my wife is my second person I have ever slept with. and I've edged about 9 years cause I didn't want to sleep with no other woman until marriage. Now I go for ever. It was never like this, but now it's kind of annoying. My wife will start off soaking wet and then after about an 30 minutes it begins to be uncomfortable for her. She limits me to an hour and if I don't get off.. then I just don't.

If any one has any methods to bring back sensitivity to the penis, I would love to know!

 

[bobbydrizzle]

Same thing as the post above. Soaking wet for about 30 minutes then sand paper. However, I've discovered that surprising them with a nice firm smack on the ass when they start to dry up can help.

I also find it helps to masturbate while giving oral before sex. Whether she plays with your cock before penetration or not, you know your body better than anyone else.

 

[bigsmile]

wow this does sound like a nightmare...pumping a way while your girl is looking up in the air or filing her nails or in pain and dreading fucking you. sorry to say but I cant stand even watching a "porn star ending"...often asking what is up with these dudes who have a beautiful woman in front of them sucking their dicks, letting them fuck their pussies and ass but have to jack off to cum. who knew...frigged men??

as others have said through edging men can learn to hold back ejaculation and some myself included have learned to have multiple orgasms without actually cumming. it is actually more satisfying for me to have an orgasm without cumming. but this is far different from simply not being able to achieve orgasm OR ejaculation. sounds like something that should be discussed with your doctor really.

it is hard to find that balance isn't it. men seem to believe in extremes...with most wishing they had a donkey dick and able to fuck for hours .. not first imagining the possible number of women who would not prefer to be warped for hours with a big dick. and then these men who wish for this have not imagined how frustrating it is for dudes like the OP. being compatible with your partner is what we ought to seek...not easy I know. I would imagine, don't know since i have not been with enough women personally to say definitively, that there are as many women who cum fairly quickly and therefore would like their man to cum shortly thereafter as there are women who take a long time to cum and need their man to last at least that long...and of course those in-between.

human sexuality....not a simple thing is it.

 

[TheDeTour]

Ita very reassuring to see quite a few with the same "complaint" It takes me about 15 to 20 mins at least and in some instances a lot longer!!

 

[vibrator]

Probably due to desensitization from too much masturbation. Should consider taking a break and taking some time off from pleasuring yourself, this may help.

 

[bobbydrizzle]

I was just thinking the same thing as the post above. You're probably jacking off too much. What are we talking here....1...2....3 times a day? Try going 3 days without choking your chicken, and let everyone know how it works out.

 

[delmarvaadmirer]

Got the same problem and and i h8 it iv never been with some1 with the energy to go the xtra mile and get me off i always end up finishing myself off.
my 1st time lasted 4 hrs.

Damn stud, I would luv to accept that challenge, mmm

 

[giantguy23]

bro same problem... people cant endure ''hammering'' for that long

 

[Hunter7100]

bro same problem... people cant endure ''hammering'' for that long

Perhaps you aren’t happening the right people? I volunteer! #giantguy23

 

[erpap]

Love a guy who doesn’t cum fast! Especially when bottoming. My jaw can get sore when sucking but it’s still enjoyable.

 

[erpap]

Instead of cumming to fast. It takes me at least 45 minutes to cum. This has been a constant in my life. And sometimes I can't and have to finish myself off. Anyone else have this problem?

That can be hot with right partner, I love a guy who takes long to cum and it can be hot if you have to finish yourself off! You partner can enjoy watching you jerk off on their face or wherever.

 

[1141702]

I take at l least 30/45 minutes most times, and go more than once if I have the time. I have to admit, short and one and done sessions are very strange to me. I never understood short sessions

No one has complained.