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First I understand this doesnt apply to everyone.. but Im curious why some guys talk "gay" (call it what you will, feminine, higher pitch, upward inflection, slight lisp.. whatever.. I hope everyone understands).
 

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I think some people do it naturally without realizing it. I've known a few people who didn't think they were feminine when they were.
 
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Because they like the way it sounds, and/or the associations/identity it provides them.
 

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I've been known to do this. I honestly don't realize I'm doing it and I usually catch myself in the middle of doing it and stop.
 

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this Forum possibly makes me act Gayer than i am, because i sort of feel obliged to respond? ha, not a problem tho.

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i think its a combination of both previous posters comments

Natural, and pretend, as in overdoing it, for effect
both acceptable in my opinion, why not'
geuss it can be very obnoxious behaviour to the over sensitive Straights no doubt?
 
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Was this thread pitched into the "Ask a Gay" forum or was it there all along?
 

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i think in a lot of ways it has to do with how different countries have different accents.... i've found that gay guys who act overly effeminate have either spent their lives around other effeminate men or around very feminine, 'girly' girls.... they just pick it up naturally the same way other people pick up accents and dialects.... it's the same way that people speak in eubonics, or how different parts of the UK have different versions of their accent.... i don't really mind the 'girly-ness as much as i do mind when gay guys talk like they're permanently on human and have a small rodent stuck in their throat.... it's very stinging to the ears....
 

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I for one don'y find it appealing at all. Seriously I'm not a stick in the mud or anything like that. But if I wanted a woman i'd get one. I'm not afraid of wearing pink. In fact I look pretty darn good wearing it. My point is. You don't have to act the part, to have the part.
 

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I for one don'y find it appealing at all. Seriously I'm not a stick in the mud or anything like that. But if I wanted a woman i'd get one. I'm not afraid of wearing pink. In fact I look pretty darn good wearing it. My point is. You don't have to act the part, to have the part.

I used to actually say the same thing you say and think until I actually became friends with more fem and flamboyant queer guys. Upon being friends with them, I realized how much of them were just being themselves and not really "faking it." The over the top flamboyant aspects, sure. But some times the ones with the lisp, the high pitch or fem mannerisms... not usually an act.

People are different from others, unless someone isn't hurting you or another in a way, I see no reason not to be accepting of other folks.
 

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I don't know too many effeminate gays, but I don't think that it is always just trying to "Act the part." The two people that stick out in my mind when voices some would find "feminine" naturally speak like that. It isn't hard to tell the difference between a person who is talking naturally and those who are putting on a show.
 

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sometimes it is an act though.... i have a very soft and higher pitched voice than most guys, but i don't think i talk in an effeminate way.... i have been known to 'flame out' sometimes when the context requires though, and when the moment is over i go back to my regularly scheduled personality.... for some people, the flamer act actually compliments their character, but in others it's just way overdone and makes the person seem really fake.... but i digress: it really all boils down to the individual....
 

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i sound far more fem than I am. it turns people off. of the men who have looked past it, they all tell me eventually that I am nothing like they thought...I'm very masculine, I just sound like a purse is gonna fall out of my mouth
 
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i sound far more fem than I am. it turns people off. of the men who have looked past it, they all tell me eventually that I am nothing like they thought...I'm very masculine, I just sound like a purse is gonna fall out of my mouth

LOL!
 

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Two reasons :

1- Mimetism
When you hang out with gay people, a lot of gay people talk this way. Without really realising it, you just take a few new habits given by your surrounding.
Just like the way your accent becomes less obvious when you've been in a new place for some time now, but returns when you spent a couple of days home.
When you hang out with people, you begin to look a little like them.
Straight people hangin' out mostly with gay dudes (a rare sight, but I know a couple of them) talk that way. Gay people hanging mostly with straight dudes got a slighter "gay talk".

2- Straight men actively try not to talk that way
Because they don't want people to think they are gay.
Openly gay people won't care, why try not to look gay when you are? So you just speak the way you like.
Even without hanging around with gay people, some people will naturally speak with a higher pitch, or with more so-called "feminine" manners.
Straight people who notice they are beginning to speak that way will try to correct that. Gay people would just be themselves.

The addition of both these reasons explains why openly gay people hanging a lot in gay bars/clubs/cruises... are more prone to talk that way


One last reason maybe?
When you hear someone "talking gay", are you reeaaaaally sure he's a homosexual? :p
When you hear someone speaking normally, are you reaaaaly sure he's not gay? :)
 

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@K.Dst: if straight guys consciously try not to express themselves with any air of effeminacy, doesn't that mean they're being fake too? it works both ways....

Yup

But it gets easier and easier for them to just be themselves as people becomes more and more tolerant for so-called "feminine" behaviors.
Sexism and homophobia are slowly but surely stepping back, eventually to be confined to the same place as white supremacy or other bullshits that kind (sure, long way ahead, but we'll get there one day).

Men becomes less afraid of being themselves. "You think I'm gay? Well I don't care about who you think I am"