how did you tell your parents you were sexually active? i ask this because my mom stumbled upon my skimpy lingerie and sex toys in her suitcase she let me borrow a few months ago. i was totally embarassed when i saw what was in the bag she gave me (and i swore i unpacked it before i gave the suitcase back to her!). she didn't say anything, but for heaven's sake, the woman is not dumb and i'm sure she knows the purpose of victoria's secret! i'm still recovering from shock. however, i am preparing for the worst because i know the dreaded "when did you start having sex?" question is coming. so what's a young woman like myself to do? i don't know what to say, or how to say it cause it's the most awkward subject to discuss with your mom, especially because we have never really talked about sex openly. so i guess what i'm asking is... how did you all discuss it with your parents? did you say it openly, or did your parents just eventually figure it out? did they give you the dreaded sex talk? any advice how to go about this? i'm directing this question towards the women, but the men are free to join in on the discussion. any help is much appreciated!