Is quite a daunting task! So I've been going out recently and getting pretty drunk at the clubs or bars here with people I work with. I'm still pretty much terrible at talking to girls, and I'm afraid to look like a retard. But when I get tipsy and I see one of my friends talking to a group of girls by himself, for some reason that gives me some confidence to join him and be like "what's up!?". I did that a bunch of times and every time I got nice responses like "hey cutie! What's your name!" And stuff like that. From that point we would talk a bit, my friends doing most of it, and depending on who I had joined up with, my friend would somehow ask for a phone number or to take them home or something like that, and everything always went sour and the girls would be like "oh I gotta go!" Lol. So I pretty much saw all my friends get rejected and it was sort a funny, and I hope I didn't help them get rejected, I think it was their fault for asking to takes girls home too soon or whatever. Anyways, that little story is just to say, I thinked I gained a bit of confidence from the nice responses I would always get from joining in conversations. I'm actually starting to believe I'm actually cute in the eyes of women. (I think I've been called cute by a lot of gay guys but they don't count) So after the club or bar we always want to go to the strip club. The strippers are hot of course, but it seems here I have sort of learned how to talk to girls, for at least a couple minutes. The strippers like to talk to you. I probably had like all the strippers in the club sit and talk with me for a while, and the conversation always sort of went in a certain way. "Where are you from?" what do you do?" "Where are you headed?" "Are you from this town or did you grow up somewhere else?" "Do you like your job?" "What are your plans for the not so distant future?". And this bring me to my main point. Is this how I'm supposed to talk to women at a bar or club or anywhere for that matter? I know how you al grew up with nice lives and know all what to do and think shit is easy but please suspend your disbelief for a little while. I always thought you were supposed to be original and shit when talking to women. Can I just use a simple guideline like those questions above? I'm not good at thinking of shit to say on the spot. Are women looking for some guy to just come up and amaze them with smooth talking or are they just looking for a guy who like, knows the rules and the order of the game to play? It seems like a game to me. And I don't know how to play. Is that what sets us loser guys apart? We don't know to ask her name and where she's from and various other topics? Or is that just boring uninteresting and I still haven't got a clue? So when I run out of questions, and things go silent, and nothing of similar interest between me and a girl comes up in our conversation, can I just be like "well nice to meet you cya later" and walk away? Also, what happens on that rare occasion where we have something in common, and we go off on another topic we both enjoy. How do I go about trying to get her number or giving her mine se I can see her again? Thee way my friends did stuff seemed wrong because when they tried to give or get numbers the girls would suddenly remember their gyno appointment or something lol. Any tips for me ladies and gents? I feel like I'm almost at a fucking scientific breakthrough. If you read all of this. Thanks, I tend to want to give background story so I think shit makes more sense.