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I have a particular compulsion to exhibit myself to one particular person. Our families are very close and we spend a lot of time together; she has never seen me naked, but I have purposefully shown off in sweats/swimsuit/bike shorts/etc etc... and she has noticed. and stared. and she knows I am well endowed: she has made two comments in which she basically let it slip that she knows (huge turn on, but another story). and she found Magnums at our house. and it is possible that she has seen pics on our computer of my wife and i having sex, although I am not 100% sure.

this fascination/compulsion/whatever has been going on for years and has not lessened at all. I dont think she has ever been with a very well endowed man; I can tell she is fascinated by it; and I bet she would LOVE it.

anyone else experience anything else like this? all my exhibitionist fantasies end up centered around this one person... I find my self going out of my way just so she'll get a good look when we are together... even changing clothes if I know she'll be there
 

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I used to walk around in red basketball shorts around one my ex gf's sister and mom when she lived at home and I would come visit. And at this age my dick would hang so god damn well and be very noticeable in clothes like this. The younger sister was always kind of secretive about checking it out and never made any comments.

The mom however would blatantly stare, smile at me, look down at my dick, back at my eyes, then down at my dick again, and made it obvious what she was doing.

the grin on her face was always such a turn on and she got me very hard on a few occcasions and I had to excuse myself, and she would usually giggle. A lot of this stuff would happen when I would visit, my gf was at work, and I was just home with her mom. Nothing sexual ever happened between us but that isn't what it was about. And I remember she did make a few comments but the direct quotes have slipped my mind.

There was one about borrowing a bathing suit from her older brother who was basically the same size as me, waist and height wise, and she said something like "I don't think u'll be able to fit into these" as they were kind of on the short side lol.

fuck I wish my dick still hung like that
 

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Then what? Do you want to fuck her? Aren't you married?

Yeah, reality check.


I would never fuck her even if I could, though she is very attractive. I am happily married, great sex life etc. etc. but cant get past this compulsion. it wont go away
 

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no. I think she is also happy with her situation.

jhm, I think you should resist your compulsion if you are happily married as you think she is. Sometimes fantasy is better then the actual act of exhibition, well maybe. I think since she is a close friend she probably seen enough.
 

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that's not what being an exhibitionist is about. It's about someone enjoying looking at ur bulge or naked body, and u obviously loving it also.

No, looking at someone is not "being an exhibitionist". An exhibitionist is the one showing not looking. Also I have yet to exhibit my body here so I don't know where you get "u obviously loving it also."

Now if your saying that I like looking at the bodies of men I find attractive you're absolutely correct. However that's not what's at issue here and what I've addressed in my post. I just think if jhm wants to show this women his body and his wife finds out about it, it could be disastrous. Jhm decided to take a vow, made a promise, and has admitted here that he's happily married. If that's true than I think this little fantasy of his need to come to a full stop. I don't have a problem with consenting adults doing whatever kink they choose but when there's a unbeknownst third party involved, especially one you're committed to and supposedly love, you need to pull your head out of your ass and take a good look at the reality of the situation. The reality being he could potentially destroy 3 relationships (his, hers, theirs) all for a kinky compulsion that he need to get in check. He sees nothing beyond this compulsion and is convincing himself that he could get away with just that. I personally think it could lead to other things. Even if it didn't if his wife found out she'd be devastated. It's dangerous and he's deluding himself. That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it.
 

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No, looking at someone is not "being an exhibitionist". An exhibitionist is the one showing not looking. Also I have yet to exhibit my body here so I don't know where you get "u obviously loving it also."

Now if your saying that I like looking at the bodies of men I find attractive you're absolutely correct. However that's not what's at issue here and what I've addressed in my post. I just think if jhm wants to show this women his body and his wife finds out about it, it could be disastrous. Jhm decided to take a vow, made a promise, and has admitted here that he's happily married. If that's true than I think this little fantasy of his need to come to a full stop. I don't have a problem with consenting adults doing whatever kink they choose but when there's a unbeknownst third party involved, especially one you're committed to and supposedly love, you need to pull your head out of your ass and take a good look at the reality of the situation. The reality being he could potentially destroy 3 relationships (his, hers, theirs) all for a kinky compulsion that he need to get in check. He sees nothing beyond this compulsion and is convincing himself that he could get away with just that. I personally think it could lead to other things. Even if it didn't if his wife found out she'd be devastated. It's dangerous and he's deluding himself. That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it.


Pretty sure he meant that it's about enjoying how that other person enjoys looking at his body. He wasn't saying anything about you.

Honestly OP I have similar fantasies. My wife has a fairly attractive best friend, and I like to think about her catching me exposed or walking in on us as we make love or whatever. She seemed really impressed when my wife told her about my size, and she has complained that her ex-fiance was very lacking in that area. And generally she seems curious about large penises. So I think it's fun to think about her seeing it and getting all googly-eyed etc. It's fun to feel that you are still appealing in some way to beautiful single women such as her.

However it's important that your fantasies are just that, and that they aren't damaging the health of your marriage. As hot as my little exhibitionist fantasy is to me, I would never actually try to bring it about with any targeted "oops" acts. To me that's crossing a line. Others may feel more lenient about such things. Don't do something that would hurt your wife in any event.

Though you can hardly be blamed if she likes to spy your bulge through your sweats or something. Satisfy yourself with the idea that she likes doing that way more often than she probably really does. ;)
 

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No, looking at someone is not "being an exhibitionist". An exhibitionist is the one showing not looking. Also I have yet to exhibit my body here so I don't know where you get "u obviously loving it also."

Now if your saying that I like looking at the bodies of men I find attractive you're absolutely correct. However that's not what's at issue here and what I've addressed in my post. I just think if jhm wants to show this women his body and his wife finds out about it, it could be disastrous. Jhm decided to take a vow, made a promise, and has admitted here that he's happily married. If that's true than I think this little fantasy of his need to come to a full stop. I don't have a problem with consenting adults doing whatever kink they choose but when there's a unbeknownst third party involved, especially one you're committed to and supposedly love, you need to pull your head out of your ass and take a good look at the reality of the situation. The reality being he could potentially destroy 3 relationships (his, hers, theirs) all for a kinky compulsion that he need to get in check. He sees nothing beyond this compulsion and is convincing himself that he could get away with just that. I personally think it could lead to other things. Even if it didn't if his wife found out she'd be devastated. It's dangerous and he's deluding himself. That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it.

Definitely wasn't referring to u loving it.

I was saying that the person who is either naked in front of someone or bulge showing is loving that they are on display. And again this has nothing to do with u, but exhibisitionists and how they like being looked at.

I also don't think the OP wants to have sex or do anything with this girl, he just loves the thrill of being on "display" for her, bc she enjoys it and he really really enjoys it.

As for me I consider myself a bit of an exhibitionist and have been to nude beaches, gotten naked in front of people etc.. But I tend to agree with u about posting pics online. Not sure what ur exact reason is but mine is once something is online it might be online forever.
 

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Perhaps you should discuss it with your wife and your neighbor's husband and see if you can recruit them to your cause. If they are both in on it your chances of success are greatly increased, and you can be sure there are no ethical issues that might reduce the quality of your life, or that of your family and neighbors. Get a hot tub and invite them over for a nude soak in hot water later in the Winter. I've been to parties like that, and everybody knew what to expect.
 

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I have a particular compulsion to exhibit myself to one particular person. Our families are very close and we spend a lot of time together; she has never seen me naked, but I have purposefully shown off in sweats/swimsuit/bike shorts/etc etc... and she has noticed. and stared. and she knows I am well endowed: she has made two comments in which she basically let it slip that she knows (huge turn on, but another story). and she found Magnums at our house. and it is possible that she has seen pics on our computer of my wife and i having sex, although I am not 100% sure.

this fascination/compulsion/whatever has been going on for years and has not lessened at all. I dont think she has ever been with a very well endowed man; I can tell she is fascinated by it; and I bet she would LOVE it.

anyone else experience anything else like this? all my exhibitionist fantasies end up centered around this one person... I find my self going out of my way just so she'll get a good look when we are together... even changing clothes if I know she'll be there

Yes. I have found myself showing off to a particular person years ago. A woman who lived down the street from me - both of us single. We would just hang: picking up trash from the neighborhood or talking about random things. I'd go over to her place to hang and chill. Never had sex and never seen each other naked. However, when I went over I would wear clothing that really showed my cock. One summer night she called me to come meet her at a spot in our subdivision so I put on shorts that allowed my cock to swing freely and walked slowly towards her - allowing her time to see, stare, whatever while I pretended looking at my phone. I could see her looking - even after approaching her and just standing having idle conversation I could see her take a look every once in a while.


This happened a few times: she enjoyed looking and I enjoyed being seen. This went on for a long time. No one ever hurt by it.


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