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It was my friend's wedding, I really didn't want to ruin it with drama
Teach me how to turn someone down politely but effectively??
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Soooo with the no drama thing i guess straight up glassing him was off the cards???
It normally gets the point across quick smart
It normally gets the point across quick smart
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We donp`t think in the same way women does. They migh stop, but a guy with a woman probably keep insisting til he goes to the offensive and call her ruthless bitch. As someone else said before, she might try saying "I`ll be right back" and go to chat with someone else.
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The fact that he was drunk near the end made it even worse.
I'll work on my bitch-face and delivery, but I'm not sure even that would have had any effect.
Maybe I need to carry a stun gun and learn to use it discreetly
"Sure I'll dance with you"
ZAAAAAAP!!!
"I don't know what happened, he just collapsed suddenly" *confused innocent face*
I'll work on my bitch-face
and delivery, but I'm not sure even that would have had any effect.Maybe I need to carry a stun gun and learn to use it discreetly
"Sure I'll dance with you"
ZAAAAAAP!!!
"I don't know what happened, he just collapsed suddenly" *confused innocent face*
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I'm just so awful at this
I was at a wedding this weekend and this guy was constantly hitting on me, hovering around me and cutting into dances with me. Nothing I said discouraged him, and he just got even more persistent once everyone started getting tipsy. Some people are super effective at shutting this type of thing down but I just totally fail at it
It was a small ceremony, everyone was somebody's relative or best friend, so I was trying to avoid making a big dramatic scene and ruining my friend's wedding. Maybe the problem is that I'm always trying to avoid drama, being rude or hurting someone's feelings.
Most of the time when I'm walking or on public transit I have my earphones in and avoid making eye contact with men because it seems that whatever I say or do when someone hits on me has no effect.
Women, what's the secret?
Guys, what have women told you that made you instantly back off?
Practice and perfect this face and head motion. Guaranteed to work.
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Oh no, oh no you didn't @EllieP.
Yes, yes she did.
Its times like this I'm really glad to be a few hundred miles away.
See guys, This is why you should never sleep with a seamstress.
If it's a wedding and there are groups or tables of people around, if you don't feel confident or are concerned of what his reaction may be to your knockbacks. Make polite conversation with others at a nearby table or other guests. Become part of a group. At a wedding there are usually groups of people milled about. Go introduce yourself to them, make some new friends.
You said it was your friends wedding, then you probably would have know quite a few others who were present. As you said you are not good at shutting this down, confrontation. For me, it's usually a death stare. But I try not to use it often.
So if you are good at mingling, mingle. Others may step in and give him the hint and move along.
You said it was your friends wedding, then you probably would have know quite a few others who were present. As you said you are not good at shutting this down, confrontation. For me, it's usually a death stare. But I try not to use it often.
So if you are good at mingling, mingle. Others may step in and give him the hint and move along.
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Marks on his body will frame you, maybe not the best idea.The fact that he was drunk near the end made it even worse.
I'll work on my bitch-face
Maybe I need to carry a stun gun and learn to use it discreetly
"Sure I'll dance with you"
ZAAAAAAP!!!
"I don't know what happened, he just collapsed suddenly" *confused innocent face*
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Back off, creep!
Is that Donald frickin' Trump? LOL
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just hire @AlteredEgo as your security detail...
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just hire @AlteredEgo as your security detail...
Agreed.
Plus the awesome quotient of you two as a pair would intimidate any man.
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Most women just ignore me really. Try to make conversation and they just walk off, pretty clear there. You're very attractive so having men hit on you is the norm, that will happen, that's what we do. Avoiding might be a good start, see where they are and stay out of distance from them? hope that helps....
I'm just so awful at this
I was at a wedding this weekend and this guy was constantly hitting on me, hovering around me and cutting into dances with me. Nothing I said discouraged him, and he just got even more persistent once everyone started getting tipsy. Some people are super effective at shutting this type of thing down but I just totally fail at it
It was a small ceremony, everyone was somebody's relative or best friend, so I was trying to avoid making a big dramatic scene and ruining my friend's wedding. Maybe the problem is that I'm always trying to avoid drama, being rude or hurting someone's feelings.
Most of the time when I'm walking or on public transit I have my earphones in and avoid making eye contact with men because it seems that whatever I say or do when someone hits on me has no effect.
Women, what's the secret?
Guys, what have women told you that made you instantly back off?
You need a serious face. I have a feeling you're a smiling happy person and that gives guys wrong cues. You need to make that switch in body language when you see a guy being too pushy. I've noticed women who don't have the ability to switch like that have more issues with overly aggressive guys. Sorry it this is vaugue.
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