Why doesn't this surprise me at all? :tongue:
Ah, the joys of the teacher/student relationship. Fun, isn't it?
You could also make it a game. One evening you can be his love slave and do whatever it is he wants and switch roles the next evening.
Create your own erotic world with him. Above all, be honest with yourself and him. You won't regret it.
Hehe, yeah, you guessed it right MB...I caved, and it was soooo worth it. I love your suggestions...sounds as if you may have done this a time or two :wink:. There have actually been times that he continued to focus on me while he recovered, but the problem is that once I'm
that turned on, only one thing quenches it, and that is him, inside me. I do like the love slave idea , and like you said, he will be running marathons soon enough, with enough practice :wink: :tongue: :biggrin1: .
I think the way you might want to go about it is, next time, maybe try a little light bondage. Tie him up and then, you'll be in total control. Go on and tease him slowly. Do some stripping if you have to. That way, you can teach him about building up slowly. Then, that just might set the stage for explaining to him about slowing things down a bit. I hope that helps.
This is a wonderful idea, and one I think he would like. I've always enjoyed a little bondage, and teasing is right up my alley:biggrin1: . Great suggestion, thank you.
Congrats on this friendship curiousgirl first of all...
Second:
Talk. About sex. Things that would turn you on, things you want, etc. Not DURING the act itself, because then it may be misconstrued as critisism. In simple conversation, discuss things. Us men can be dense and insensitive at times, but make no mistake dear: Any man who aims to please you WILL LISTEN. His mind will be like a sponge.
I am old enough to know alot, but I am never too old to learn or learn about a woman. I am completely selfless in bed. With that in mind...any man worth his salt will know when to put pride aside and LISTEN AND LEARN.
Good luck...have fun!
...OB
Thank you OB. This is the first time I've ever had a friendship turn sexual, and so far, it is one of the best connections I've ever felt. I take your advise very seriously. All I can hope for is an open mind on his end. I know he is worth his salt, and not prideful at all.....so perhaps my fears are mostly unfounded paranoia. Thanks again for your input.
Excellent advice, Bliss... but I would expect no less from you.
Curious, several things you could do... including showing him what you posted here.
You should have a conversation with him, and not during a possible tryst. Go out to dinner, explain that things have been wonderful from the beginning, are still getting better, and you think that periodically sharing with each other things you think would make it better yet. Present it in the context of continuing education. Nirvana, in this case, is the journey, not the goal.
Of course, in the heat of the moment, how you ask for something is also important.
"Oh, yah, that's great... mmm, move your finger in circles, I think that would feel great!"
as opposed to
"Oh, that nice, but it would be better if you moved your finger in circles."
Encourage him to ask you questions about making things better, too. Say something like "I love giving you head, but I bet I could be better. Every man is different; what would you like me to do? I like it when you move your tongue real fast over my pussy lips, would that feel as good on the end of your cock?"
Then of course, you could always steer your relationship in a direction in which I developed my own relationship - both my partner and I understand that before, during, or just after sex, any suggestions are just that... suggestions, and not criticisms. Open honesty and understanding are so much more likely to get you satisfied than assumptions and innuendos. There is no formula that works for every person, and assuming that one thing works for everyone is bound to disappoint. For instance, TattooedMamaMeg just posted a thread about nipple sensitivity. Some people have 'em, some don't. It's a waste of time to spend an hour playing with someone's nipples if they just don't get it. It's so much easier to say "my navel is much more sensitive than my nipples" and spend the time wisely. If one person doesn't know, and the other doesn't tell, who is at fault? Learn to be open and honest with each other, without either taking offense, and I PROMISE that sex will be much better and much more satisfying.
DC_Deep - Excellent advice from you, as always. I'm a little reluctant to show him this post (he knows I post here, but vowed not to surf around because it is my special place, hah). I trust him compeltly on that too, he's not the type to snoop around or lie to me. You may be on to something though. If he knows it was something important enough to me to post on this site, he'll know I was concered about it and his feelings and not just being selfish or expecting too much. We do talk about sex A LOT...what we want, like, desire, etc. And I do express my desire for the making out, necking, etc...but his response is that he can't stand much of that for too long before he needs to "take me". Not a bad thing, for sure, sort of a catch 22, I guess. If I do decide to show him this, maybe I'll post a follow-up and let you know how it went.
"Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself."
Probably not the context that the advice was intended, but it has always worked in bed for me both ways to learn new goodies.
I would be horrified if he wasn't nearly dead after 2 to 3 hours of hot sex with you CG :biggrin1: - use his well earned recovery time for him to explore your kinky side. And have some oxygen on hand for the young stud.
Hehe. I do have tendancy to wear one out.....but then again, I always return the favor, ten fold, if I can. Anytime you would like to test the waters, you know where to find me :wink:.
Thanks. That was beautifully written. Whew!
Now ya'll scuse me. I gotta go take care of sumpin'.
Hah! Well, not my intention, but glad I could be of service:tongue:
Well, I guess I'm the right one to come to your assistance with this problem.
First of all, in my experience young guys are less sensitive towards the difference between criticism and teaching than you imagine. In fact, I think some are really eager to please, and grateful for any advice they get, and highly eager to put it into action here and then. So, I wouldn't worry about that too much.
My last young fuckbuddy, the one who took the messy exit in January, I've had a fling for about a year, and without modesty, I turned his raw talent into some sexual cunning that will please every woman who succeeds me with him. Especially things like oral, procrastinating, rhythm changes were on our "curriculum", and among the first things I taught him. Foreplay, good kissing, the right way to touch the right spots (well, mine that is) were also on the list, in addition to some hot positions. Let me say, he never complained that I was critisizing him or mentioned that I was hard to please. In fact, he was a bit like a puppy dog with my advice: Tell him, and he'd follow it. Hey, I even taught him how to work around an old problem of men: If you tell them, "Oh, that feels so good...", they do their best and immediately put in more power or speed, or do something different. Guys, there's a reason why we say that that feels so good!!
Even in the later state of our fling, he was still eager to learn, even though he did most things just right then. I mostly found things that he still could improve, do a little better or give a little more of. Nothing dramatic, but just now and then.
Heads up, girl. Just go for it with him, teach him what you know, I'm sure he won't be turned down by taking some motherly advice of the other kind :wink:
Claire, THANK YOU. This is precisely what I needed to hear. And I have actually used some of the things you mentioned. Like letting him know when I say THAT feels so good, it doesn't mean start going faster or harder, it means STAY JUST LIKE THAT. He does a lot of research on his own, and is very into pleasing me, so that is a great thing IMO. I'm actually very excited now about this whole teaching thing. Ain't learning FUN?? :biggrin1: Thanks girl....
, because I have to admit, being "taken" has it's perks! 
