Technique for lasting longer?

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    As long as there’s all these threads about the ideal cock and staying power and such, I have a question for the guys on this forum. Gals welcome to chime in too. First I have to give some background. The past 6 wks or so I’ve been having a lovely sexual fling with this 24 y/o fellow who is, frankly, rocking my world. :smile: He’s quite nicely endowed, knows how to move, great body, etc. A definite catch. But the thing that’s really blowing me away is the orgasmic control this guy has. In my experience and from what I’ve heard, younger men have a harder time holding their orgasm than older guys, i.e. young men cum faster. But I obviously hit the jackpot because this guy is only 24 y/o but he can last forever before he cums. I know some ladies probably wouldn’t like that but he’s the perfect fit for me because I’m multi-vaginally-orgasmic and I like very long sex, like even upwards of 30-45 mins. of intercourse or sometimes more. There aren’t a lot of guys who can last that long but with this fellow we could even be having vigorous sex for ages and he stays steel hard the whole time. Anyway OMG for me as you can imagine it’s like an orgasmic gold mine. :biggrin1: :biggrin1: So here’s the thing. I told him I love it and I asked him what his secret is (out of curiosity and so I can pass it on to future partners!). He told me this: when he was in high school and starting to have sex, he came really fast and was very nervous about not satisfying his woman. He read that he could improve his staying power by masturbating to the point of orgasm but not letting himself cum. So he started doing it and it helped, so he kept at it. He says since he was 17 he’s been doing that anywhere from once a week to every other day, and in 7 years he’s trained himself to stay hard as long as he wants. He says it’s not even difficult anymore, that he can basically decide when to cum, or not to cum at all. So my question is have other men tried this technique? Did it work for you? I’m sure not everyone would stick with it for 7 years (!!) but I’m wondering if this is an effective way for a man to last longer. But damn based on the sex we’re having it’s hard not to be sold on the idea! :tongue:
     
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    The same "technique" worked for me I think. I started masturbating very young, and I just used to hold back to prolong the pleasure for myself.

    When I started having sex, I was amazed at being told how quick some men seem to finish. You say 30-45 minutes for you to come and guys don't last that long with you? Either you're one VERY hot lady or alot of guys need a bit of solo practice. My guess is both are true.

    I know I'm probably gonna get some "bullshitter" accusations here, but I've no problem keeping myself in rein for 2 or 3 hours if the lady wants it, or of shooting in 30 secs if I want. I'd imagine alot of guys working in porn must have similar control since many "come to order".

    I have once or twice been so carried away that I've let myself go, but I really don't like to come myself until I know my lady has done so at least once.

    The only downside. I'd say, is that I do find that the longer I keep myself in check first time, the longer it takes me to rise to the occasion a second time. Any other guys find that?
     
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    Sounds like this guy has it all! Stud hunter - you're one lucky gal!
     
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    :biggrin1: :biggrin1: . I like the way you think :biggrin1: .
    Actually it doesn't take 30-45 mins. for me to cum. I get the big O faster than that but I like lots of multiples :biggrin1: so that's where the extended sex comes in.
    Glad to hear things worked for you.
     
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    Indeed, I hunted well! :biggrin1: .
     
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    It sounds like this thing I started doing a few years ago. They call it kegel excersizes. Kegels are pelvic floor exercises used to strengthen vaginal muscles and penile muscles. By strengthening the muscles, you gain control of the muscles in your gential area. For guys, it means control of your dick(keeping it hard, keeping urself from blowing and enjoying orgasm without loosing hardness.)
    For women, you can control a vital part of your body. Strengthening these muscles, help you control your vagina, and tighten the muscles which increases tightness after u have had children or a wild night or sexin' :biggrin1: ITs also pretty good to have when u are pregnant apparently.
    To learn more, check this website http://www.obgyngroup.com/Library%5Cgyn-k100.html ( it is for ladies, but u can figure out how to find ur kegels and train the kegels guys)

    Either way, it has increased my endurance, and while I am not a pro yet, there has been quite a few times where I have been able to have sex for long periods of time.
    For guys.. when you are about to cum, if your kegels are strong, you can stop the flow of cum.. feel the full orgasm, stay hard and keep on fucking. :biggrin1:
     
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    On reflection, I think some of it might not just be in terms of muscular control.

    When I feel close to the edge, I tend to slow my pace a little, rather than banging away to completion, then pick up speed again when that point has passed. Most ladies I've slept with like the variety too, so it's earned me plenty of Brownie points. After all, 2 hours of in/out at the same pace would get a bit boring dontcha think?
     
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    Nice EG.. but I beat ya to it :cool:
     
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    Sorry JB, you've lost me
     
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    A lot of guys don't last 30 minutes. Most of them are only concerned about how they feel and are not interested in prolonging the experience. Having sex like that it's easily possible for a man to finish in 5 or 10 minutes, if that. I have never had a problem controlling my climax... I think this is because I focus most of my attention on my partner and how they are feeling. Of course it feels great for me too, but if I don't focus on it then I won't cum. I can finish whenever I want to, within minutes or after hours. A lot of this I think is just a willingness to try, most guys simply don't care and only want to get their rocks off. A lot of this I also think is knowing yourself sexually. Taking the time during self-stimulation to experiment with different ways of bringing yourself to orgasm, trying to hold out longer et cetera, which I spent a lot of time doing when I was younger. Some guys are also more sensitive than others. In this case it might be a good idea to try using a condom if you aren't already or perhaps even double-bagging it to reduce sensation. If there is still an issue with premature ejaculation, I've found one good way to hold off an orgasm if I feel that I'm about to is to stop and press two or three fingers firmly into my taint- the patch of flesh between the scrotum and anus. Pressure here can avert an imminent orgasm. If after that the guy still feels like he's going to climax and can't control it, you could always switch to some cunnilingus or just slow down a bit until he has time to cool off, and then resume intercourse.
     
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    Its called kegel dude. Its an excersize you do... to strengthen your penile muscles. when you take a piss, try and stop the flow. The easier this is for you to do.. the stronger your kegels are. The ability to loosen or tighten kegel muscles gives u more control over ur arousal and erection and orgasm.
     
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    Kegel's old news my friend, and yes we're referring to similar things, but you'll find there'e more to it than that.

    Still, good to see you read Cosmo:biggrin1:
     
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    MY girlfriend did.. she is the one that told me to try it.. Wonder what she was insinuating :biggrin1:
     
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    As Nine Inch said above, part of it is shifting your attention elsewhere within the activity you're engaged in. Doing so effectively allows you to modulate the level of stimulation your brain is aware of so removing the focus from ejaculation. It's not dissimilar to meditation.
     
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    Edging does teach a guy how to control
    his ejaculatory response...he learns
    to recognize the signals of approaching
    climax and backs off before he gets to
    the point of no return.

    Women can learn to edge too, in a way...
    I know, as I do it all the time when I am
    going solo or alternately you learn to
    keep going (female) after you climax to
    build it into another, bigger one and so
    on.
     
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    Well, I'm not sure I'd ever call sex boring. :tongue: But indeed a little variety can make it better. Fast and slow, shallow and deep, straight and at an angle, variety is the spice of life... and sex! And then there are those times when I'm thoroughly horny and I've been teased enough, and I just want the guy to be able to really bring the wood for awhile and still stay hard for more!
     
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    You would think double-bagging condoms to reduce sensation or extra protection is a good idea, but its not - the friction will cause them to break! This happened to me once and I was scared shitless that I got pregnant because I was a few weeks late. Never did that again, went on the pill instead.
     
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    Stud hunter yes i actually do that. I was wondering if anyone else did. I came across it when i was in highschool also when i would J/O i didnt want a mess to clean up so i can actually get the same feeling as an orgasm i have to slow down afterward but i wont cum and ill stay hard. At the same time i can hold off also. but it only lasts so long when u gotta let it go its gonna GO! LOL



    Yes to anwser your question i do that, it build up endurance to the feeling i guess.
     
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    I find that varying the pace, and changing positions can help me last longer. The 'edging' technique used while masturbating also does help you learn to recognise when you are getting 'close' without going beyond the point of no return. Using these techniques, I can usually last about 15-20 minutes, which is great for most women. The longest I went with continous fucking was about 40-45 minutes, but we changed positions (and even rooms!) quite a few times during that session. :biggrin1:

    The worst for me is when a woman wants it hard, and fast, and just in one position. I find it very difficult to control much of anything when the pace is fast.
    Sometimes I've been able to hold out for almost 10 minutes
    Any ideas how to make some improvement when this is what she wants?

    I'm glad that I only need about 10-15 minutes to 'recharge' so round two and beyond is always a possibility.
     
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    To tell you the truth, I often fight holding it back when I am not having sex on a regular basis, and then all of a sudden I am involved. If I am in a relationship, in time I can continue for rediculous amounts of time.

    I have found that certain positions are good or bad if I am struggling...if she's on top, I can hold back well. In missionary, I don't know what it is but the evacuation alarm is sounding off loud in my balls LOL.

    Why is it that I can hold back while getting head, but when I am having sex I am on the brink quickly? Hmmmm

    This isn't feasible for most of you here, but I have found that if I take my sleep meds and then have sex, I can stay rock hard but I can delay orgasm indefinitley.

    Ill have to try the "taint press" or whatever. I guess I should at least take solace in the fact that I am filling her up well and I can go 5-6 times per day :)

    Always a silver lining in every cloud I guess...

    OmahaBeef
     
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