Technique for lasting longer?

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i go with the let your mind wander technique. i replay the days events in my mind during sex to take my mind off the immediate act, which give you more control. dont just let your mind wander to far though and lose track of what your doing!
 

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stud_hunter said:
As long as there’s all these threads about the ideal cock and staying power and such, I have a question for the guys on this forum. Gals welcome to chime in too. First I have to give some background. The past 6 wks or so I’ve been having a lovely sexual fling with this 24 y/o fellow who is, frankly, rocking my world. :smile: He’s quite nicely endowed, knows how to move, great body, etc. A definite catch. But the thing that’s really blowing me away is the orgasmic control this guy has. In my experience and from what I’ve heard, younger men have a harder time holding their orgasm than older guys, i.e. young men cum faster. But I obviously hit the jackpot because this guy is only 24 y/o but he can last forever before he cums. I know some ladies probably wouldn’t like that but he’s the perfect fit for me because I’m multi-vaginally-orgasmic and I like very long sex, like even upwards of 30-45 mins. of intercourse or sometimes more. There aren’t a lot of guys who can last that long but with this fellow we could even be having vigorous sex for ages and he stays steel hard the whole time. Anyway OMG for me as you can imagine it’s like an orgasmic gold mine. :biggrin1: :biggrin1: So here’s the thing. I told him I love it and I asked him what his secret is (out of curiosity and so I can pass it on to future partners!). He told me this: when he was in high school and starting to have sex, he came really fast and was very nervous about not satisfying his woman. He read that he could improve his staying power by masturbating to the point of orgasm but not letting himself cum. So he started doing it and it helped, so he kept at it. He says since he was 17 he’s been doing that anywhere from once a week to every other day, and in 7 years he’s trained himself to stay hard as long as he wants. He says it’s not even difficult anymore, that he can basically decide when to cum, or not to cum at all. So my question is have other men tried this technique? Did it work for you? I’m sure not everyone would stick with it for 7 years (!!) but I’m wondering if this is an effective way for a man to last longer. But damn based on the sex we’re having it’s hard not to be sold on the idea! :tongue:

Yeah it's definitely true. The guy you're banging sounds a lot like me. I started doing the edging thing in college and now several women I was with told me they'd never been with a guy who could last like I can. An hour or more is usually no problem at all, except if it's been like a month since I've had sex.
Glad to hear this guy is rocking your world. Lucky bastard!
 

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one of my first posts... when you guys earlier were talking about getting to the edge of orgasm when masturbating and then holding off, are you saying you hold off for a few times and then let it go, or just keep holding it off and not cuming?

im a college student, and when you dont have a gf and arent having sex every weekend it seems like its a lot harder to keep yourself going for a while when you get the chance. I can keep it going long enough to enjoy it for myself, approx 10 minutes, but i really enjoy rocking the girls world. I can tell 10 minutes with what i have it still good for most girls, but i really want to make it even better for both of us
 

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lapdog2001 said:
......The worst for me is when a woman wants it hard, and fast, and just in one position. I find it very difficult to control much of anything when the pace is fast......
Any ideas how to make some improvement when this is what she wants?

I'm glad that I only need about 10-15 minutes to 'recharge' so round two and beyond is always a possibility.

I think you've made a good point here Lapdog2001. Some women are more adaptable than others and are happy for you to vary the pace, pause a while, etc. Others have a fixed idea about how they want it and make demands. I must say, they're nothing like as much fun to have sex with. Probably because they're entirely focussed on their own pleasure. They don't realise that it take two to tango. ie. the girl gotta co-operate and be happy for you to stay in control of your pace. However, when a girl gets very near orgasm and her vagina starts pulsing and gripping my cock, I'll start to come too. My cock pulses and the head gets even more swollen. Feeling that happen inside usually gets a girl's rocks off nicely. If it doesn't, and I come and she goes off the boil, it shouldn't matter. It doesn't have to be mutual orgasm every time. I can bring her off with my tongue, and/or after a rest I can go again, and second time I'll last more than longh enough for her to ride my cock until she's come like an express train.

I think a lot of this is down to how secure you feel. It all gets better with experience.
 

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Regarding the first post, I could be wrong about this, but I remember hearing that it could be dangerous for a guy to stimulate himself to the point of cumming but then holding back the cum. Perhaps what the guy meant was driving himself as close to orgasm as he could but then stopping before climax. A lot of times I think guys simply aren't able to slow down or control themselves once they start to get close, and just go all the way. I dated a guy that had problems lasting very long a few years ago. One of the things we figured out is that sometimes changing pace and rhythm from time to time, changing positions, angles, or just having him hold it inside me and grind with his hips or pull it out and rubbing it against my clit were ways to keep him from going as fast. After a while, he slowly started getting better and better at knowing when he was getting close and holding back or changing it up so that he could keep it going. There were also certain positions that helped him last longer. Whenever he did me doggie style he couldn't go hard for very long at all, but missionary he could last longer, and if I rode him, and especially did it where I had him all the way in me and I rocked back and forth and would grind on his cock, he could last a lot longer and it helped me get closer to orgasm myself. I think the best way to improve stamina is really just practice practice practice. Its all about mental and self control, at least in my experience. There are certain men that are truly stallions though and can just go forever with no training.
 

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lisa_2662 said:
Regarding the first post, I could be wrong about this, but I remember hearing that it could be dangerous for a guy to stimulate himself to the point of cumming but then holding back the cum. ........

I think the best way to improve stamina is really just practice practice practice. Its all about mental and self control, at least in my experience.......

There are certain men that are truly stallions though and can just go forever with no training.

(your point 1) I think it's one of those modern myths Lisa. If you squeeze the base of your cock so the semen can't come out it goes into the bladder instead. This is called a retrograde ejaculation (guys who have prostate surgery often end up with that problem). If you do that frequently I guess you might cause problems, but you're talking about stopping just before you come. I can't think what harm that might do.

(point 2) Yes. Practice!
(point 3) It's a combination of being very fit, and having practiced point 2.
 

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Riven650 said:
(your point 1) I think it's one of those modern myths Lisa. If you squeeze the base of your cock so the semen can't come out it goes into the bladder instead. This is called a retrograde ejaculation (guys who have prostate surgery often end up with that problem). If you do that frequently I guess you might cause problems, but you're talking about stopping just before you come. I can't think what harm that might do. .

Hmm, thats what I was wondering. Hopefully somebody around here has a more definitive answer on the subject. I was talking about doing it all the time mostly, as I can't see how every now and then it would do much harm either. But I really don't know of any scientific data to uphold or debunk that myth.
 

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Still trying to answer Stud hunter's question:

I don't think it's a just matter of mechanics and technique, etc. I don't know about you guys but a really long fuck can get boring. Alternatively, if you're both really 'in the zone', time can fly by and when you're finished it's like: 'Have we really been at it that long?'

I think its about who you're with and how much you like each other, how tired you are, etc. There's a long list of factors, but if they're all in your favour it can add up to a very long fuck.

I want to ask you though Stud hunter: Do you ever come quickly? I ask because my wife never had an orgasm through fucking alone until I made it happen for her. After that she got quicker and quicker. Eventually she didn't want any more foreplay than a nice smile and a suggestion, and she'd come within the first 5 minutes of the fuck. She can't do that now because, since having breast cancer a couple of years back, she's on a drug called Tamoxifen which suppresses oestrogen. This has really impacted on her ability to get excited and come. She can still do it, but it takes much longer now. The sad thing is that without the oestrogen her vagina is more fragile so she can't stand as much sex as she could.
 

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stud_hunter said:
As long as there’s all these threads about the ideal cock and staying power and such, I have a question for the guys on this forum. Gals welcome to chime in too. First I have to give some background. The past 6 wks or so I’ve been having a lovely sexual fling with this 24 y/o fellow who is, frankly, rocking my world. :smile: He’s quite nicely endowed, knows how to move, great body, etc. A definite catch. But the thing that’s really blowing me away is the orgasmic control this guy has. In my experience and from what I’ve heard, younger men have a harder time holding their orgasm than older guys, i.e. young men cum faster. But I obviously hit the jackpot because this guy is only 24 y/o but he can last forever before he cums. I know some ladies probably wouldn’t like that but he’s the perfect fit for me because I’m multi-vaginally-orgasmic and I like very long sex, like even upwards of 30-45 mins. of intercourse or sometimes more. There aren’t a lot of guys who can last that long but with this fellow we could even be having vigorous sex for ages and he stays steel hard the whole time. Anyway OMG for me as you can imagine it’s like an orgasmic gold mine. :biggrin1: :biggrin1: So here’s the thing. I told him I love it and I asked him what his secret is (out of curiosity and so I can pass it on to future partners!). He told me this: when he was in high school and starting to have sex, he came really fast and was very nervous about not satisfying his woman. He read that he could improve his staying power by masturbating to the point of orgasm but not letting himself cum. So he started doing it and it helped, so he kept at it. He says since he was 17 he’s been doing that anywhere from once a week to every other day, and in 7 years he’s trained himself to stay hard as long as he wants. He says it’s not even difficult anymore, that he can basically decide when to cum, or not to cum at all. So my question is have other men tried this technique? Did it work for you? I’m sure not everyone would stick with it for 7 years (!!) but I’m wondering if this is an effective way for a man to last longer. But damn based on the sex we’re having it’s hard not to be sold on the idea! :tongue:

His technique makes a lots of sense to me...:wink:

What i know from my experiences is that they use some kind of tecnique but i never had the curiosity to ask the details about it...soo very happy they last until i cum because im unlike you like fast fast and im very participative in moving and moving...and although i do not long last i think is still hard for a man to not cum sooner with me with all the tecnique he may have...well..only if he wants me kind of torture me...:redface: oh my good ...:tongue:

Here we go Stud!!! Girl you are for sure having a great time with him!!!
 

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Any guy who is an unselfish lover can learn ejaculation control. In my case I manage it by concentrating (if I can!) on the other person`s needs rather than mine (although I am bit older than the average around here which might help).This is not easy but appears to work and the rewards come back in great volume.
The technical "tricks" mentioned elsewhere such as kegalling, jelquing, etc are all likely to help as well.
But my view is not to get too carried away with longevity as an end in itself.
Sometimes a "quickie" is very rewarding. Just have fun. That`s what is all about.
Good luck.
 

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I second philboy's motion. ie. Bigger, longer, further, faster, etc. doesn't necessarily mean better. But the question 'how does one last longer?' has fascinated men and women for many thousands of years. I think it's one of those Zen things: The more you want it, the further out of reach it becomes.

When I eventually stopped worrying about how long I'd last, and got my sex partners to join with me and just enjoy what it feels like, right now; that's when the great sex started to happen, and sessions just started to get longer, naturally.
 

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Wow that technique sounds rough for the guy, but I guess if it helps him last longer yeah! Stud hunter - I didn't used to like long sex but now I've started having orgasms during penetration so I love it when he can last. Good thing is he's pretty good in that department!
 

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maroon said:
one of my first posts... when you guys earlier were talking about getting to the edge of orgasm when masturbating and then holding off, are you saying you hold off for a few times and then let it go, or just keep holding it off and not cuming?

I've heard the best way to do it is hold off a few times and then eventually let go. That's the way I've done it too. A few yrs. back I was with a woman who liked long sex and that technique helped me make it happen. Good luck, man!
 

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stud_hunter said:
As long as there’s all these threads about the ideal cock and staying power and such, I have a question for the guys on this forum. Gals welcome to chime in too. First I have to give some background. The past 6 wks or so I’ve been having a lovely sexual fling with this 24 y/o fellow who is, frankly, rocking my world. :smile: He’s quite nicely endowed, knows how to move, great body, etc. A definite catch. But the thing that’s really blowing me away is the orgasmic control this guy has. In my experience and from what I’ve heard, younger men have a harder time holding their orgasm than older guys, i.e. young men cum faster. But I obviously hit the jackpot because this guy is only 24 y/o but he can last forever before he cums. I know some ladies probably wouldn’t like that but he’s the perfect fit for me because I’m multi-vaginally-orgasmic and I like very long sex, like even upwards of 30-45 mins. of intercourse or sometimes more. There aren’t a lot of guys who can last that long but with this fellow we could even be having vigorous sex for ages and he stays steel hard the whole time. Anyway OMG for me as you can imagine it’s like an orgasmic gold mine. :biggrin1: :biggrin1: So here’s the thing. I told him I love it and I asked him what his secret is (out of curiosity and so I can pass it on to future partners!). He told me this: when he was in high school and starting to have sex, he came really fast and was very nervous about not satisfying his woman. He read that he could improve his staying power by masturbating to the point of orgasm but not letting himself cum. So he started doing it and it helped, so he kept at it. He says since he was 17 he’s been doing that anywhere from once a week to every other day, and in 7 years he’s trained himself to stay hard as long as he wants. He says it’s not even difficult anymore, that he can basically decide when to cum, or not to cum at all. So my question is have other men tried this technique? Did it work for you? I’m sure not everyone would stick with it for 7 years (!!) but I’m wondering if this is an effective way for a man to last longer. But damn based on the sex we’re having it’s hard not to be sold on the idea! :tongue:



Your fellow is absolutely right. Solo practising can really help a lot. I've heard from guys who can control their
cumshots for a period of 4-5 hours. It may sound a little bit corny, but thinking of something completely
different than sex, especially when it's something unpleasant, helps staying in control of one's own
ejaculation. For me it works. I can stay hard for a few hours when I'm absolute horny.
Practice is the keyword. Masturbating-techniques can really do a lot for you.
(I hope my English was ok, since it is not my native language).
 

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Riven650 said:
I want to ask you though Stud hunter: Do you ever come quickly? I ask because my wife never had an orgasm through fucking alone until I made it happen for her. After that she got quicker and quicker. Eventually she didn't want any more foreplay than a nice smile and a suggestion, and she'd come within the first 5 minutes of the fuck.

Well obviously it depends on a bunch of things - how turned on I am, how focused I am, how in tune the guy is with my body and my cues, and yes, for me it can depends on his size, or not, depending on the type of orgasm we're talking about. Of course it depends on skill as well. Sometimes I cum quicker than other times, but in general it takes me a few minutes, like at least 7 or 8 minutes of the guy in me for me to have my first orgasm. It could take longer if we haven't have sufficient foreplay to warm me up :tongue: But after that 1st orgasm hell yeah I can cum quicker. I don't know exactly why, maybe I'm just more relaxed. But usually I can have multiple orgasms more quickly than my initial orgasm.
 

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Check out Dr. Barabra Keeslings book 'how to make love all night' and another called the 'multi-orgasmic man' by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams. It took me about 6 months to really get the hang of it but it worked. It seems that there are plenty of guy's on this site that have this ability based on the respnses to another thread called 'Multi-orgasmic?'
Sounds like you having FUN FUN FUN!!! :wink:
 

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a guy my age with my control.
happy for you.
I just use my PC muscles to contract when I feel like cumming. I almost cum a good 5-6x during sex, before I let it fly. I make sure to cum the same time she does.
 

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Oh I think I used this technique then for a very long time.

When I was younger I found out that I could come more powerfull and intense, when "edging" how some of you people named it.

I think this word describes it very well, cause its basically a one step more situation (mean one step more, and there you go....to climax)

I liked to call it charging. Because when I got myself in this one step more situation for 3 or 4 times and broke up shortly before cumming, the climax in the end was so intense I can tell you.

Since then I got total controll about my climax. As stud hunter described it, this guy has to be a pro.

In some cases, training is everything
 

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With enough and right training I think every man can achieve a long lasting.

My record would be 1 1/2 h with my first gf. But a condome helped me.

And one friend I hooked up with a few years later (just for fun after a party)
told me that she don't know anyone that can last this long (and is that big).

Nevertheless a condome helped me again, but i still got the technique right.:biggrin1: