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I’ve always struggled to please a woman with my dick. I’m not big but many women say “it’s what you do with it.” So, if you don’t mind sharing, what are you doing with it that’s getting the job done?
 
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Here's a crazy thought: how about paying attention to your partners reaction & asking what she wants?.... Instead of asking a bunch of strangers for a mythical technique that will work on all women, in spite of the fact that all women are different and want/need different things...

Just a thought

P.s. porn is not real life.
 

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Here's a crazy thought: how about paying attention to your partners reaction & asking what she wants?.... Instead of asking a bunch of strangers for a mythical technique that will work on all women, in spite of the fact that all women are different and want/need different things...

Just a thought

P.s. porn is not real life.


Out of all the posts on this site that’s what you’re going to gripe about? Maybe I’ve tried? Maybe I’ve asked? Maybe if you were offended or triggered just scroll along. No reason to write out such a long and useless post to be hateful!
 
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Do a good amount of foreplay. Go down on her, make her cum, get her worked up good...so when you slide inside her se worked and wanting to cum again. Sometimes use your thumb on her clit while fuck, or rub it with your fingers, depending on your position. All I can say is try these and other things till you see what works good. Also kiss the neck, nibble a little, suck there hard nipples all while fucking them. This helps a lot. Find every way posible to give her pleasure while your fucking. It is all worth it. Hope this helps a little anyway. Good luck.
 

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Out of all the posts on this site that’s what you’re going to gripe about? Maybe I’ve tried? Maybe I’ve asked? Maybe if you were offended or triggered just scroll along. No reason to write out such a long and useless post to be hateful!

I was neither offended or triggered.
It was a very straightforward response.
And, if you read the damn thing, the potential answers to your problem are there.
If you were looking for an answer with teddy bear emojis & unicorn smiles, because you can't deal with honest suggestions put forth in a jokey way, you may need more help than is available to you on this site.
Good luck! I hope you get yourself straightened out.[/QUOTE]
 
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I’ve always struggled to please a woman with my dick. I’m not big but many women say “it’s what you do with it.” So, if you don’t mind sharing, what are you doing with it that’s getting the job done?

I enjoy sex immensely bruh, I spend time on foreplay in many ways both during sex and after if we stop for a break
 

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what are you doing with it that’s getting the job done?

Been out of practice for a very very long time. With that said, using my entire body. Which includes the brain. Can't fuck someone's brains out if you don't have any yourself. Emotions. Most people think they have nothing to do with intelligence and nothing to do with becoming better in bed than you currently are. And yet, if you don't really care that your partner is enjoying what's going on then odds are very good they won't enjoy what's going on.

If your partner says they don't like it when you do something. Talk to them about it and listen. Seeing as how your mouth is also apart of your body. Understanding is technically a part of your body too. Apart of the motion in the ocean. To understand it helps to get that apart from genitals there are many differences between people. Sure, nature vs nurture but generally speaking a good amount of that can be boiled down when it comes to sex.

And then there's your own health. Part of sexual confidence comes from being healthy. Not just physically but mentally because again your mind is also a part of your body. Dark thoughts of a certain amount will lead to bad sex. Having a physical issue you aren't working on or are ignoring will lead to bad sex. Emotional issues you've ignored or aren't working on will lead to the same. Same goes for your partner.

Pseudo science has a point. There's a reason people gravitate to the kama sutra. Not because of the positions but because someone took the smallest amount of effort to try to find new ways of pleasing people and it has a small element of trying to understand people better.

After all of that comes practice. Trail and error. After you've established what your partner does an does not like while talking to them and listening to how far they are and aren't willing to go then you'll be able to become better at pleasing that person. When it comes to an entire gender or multiple genders though well you're shit out of luck.
 

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This is a pretty deep can of worms to open, but I can give you the general thought process I have when I'm with a women for the first time.

I pay attention to how she reacts to literally EVERYTHING that involves our bodies making contact. I use these reactions to direct what I'm doing. If I kiss a woman on her neck and she reacts positively, then I'll explore more around her neck, and ears. A positive reaction could be her lightly pressing into me, or a light moan, etc. I explore her entire body, either with my hands, lips, tongue...hell even when legs touch could give a reaction. I once dated a women who didn't know she could cum by having her thighs touched a certain way until I figured it out about her. haha.

When you've found these places, then that heightens her feeling and sensitivity once I'm inside her. Then, it's paying attention again, but you have to pay attention even more because sometimes people react during the act of of sex in a way they think they should react. Have you ever gotten a blowjob that wasn't good, but you still moaned anyway? Women do this too, no one wants to hurt the other's feelings because during sex (especially early on in a sexual relationship) everyone is nervous about something...mainly pleasing our new partner, so people will do fake things sometimes during the act of sex. You'll know when you do something she likes because she'll physically respond instead of vocally.

Once you're inside her, experiment with different angles. Even minute changes can cause a big change in the feeling for her and you. If I'm generalizing, a majority of the women I've been with, reacted more positively to angling my cock up as it enters. Most women's "g-spot" is only a few inches in, and up and most men want to fuck as hard and deep as they can, but if you enter her so you're putting pressure up and do that along the length, you'll essentially be massaging her g-spot while having sex. That, and playing with her clit while you're insider her. That can be too much stimulation for some, but they'll tell you if it is. If you notice she likes that you rub her clit while you're having sex, you could place her hand on her clit, just like she will never give you a better hand job than you can give yourself, you'll never rub her clit better than she can and she'll know how to maximize the experience with you insider her.

Also, experiment with positions, with rhythm, how hard or gently you go. And remember, the main event is going on between the legs, but there is plenty of other things going on outside of that. Where, and how you touch her while you're having sex counts, making eye contact, being a bit playful so she can relax as well, letting her feel at ease is almost as import as anything else. One women told me that when I whispered "you're so fucking sexy" in her ear, she instantly started enjoying herself more and was able to cum harder and more often than she had with other guys.

Its little things, every woman is different, and just pay attention. The other thing I've found helps is communicating beforehand, actually knowing the person, so there is a foundation of a relationship there. Making her feel at ease, and desired goes a long way. Not to say that's a one way street, you should feel comfortable and desired by her as well, sex isn't just one person's job.
 

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Stop worrying about what your dick can do.

it’s about how YOU, ALL OF YOU make her feel. Learn to eat pussy like she’s never experienced. Learn to use your hands. Your tongue, you lips. Use toys. (I personally have never used toys with my partners, but nothing wrong with it)

learn what she likes. Learn to Judge by her reactions what she likes. Learn how her body changes when you do things she likes and is getting aroused by versus what she doesn’t like but isn’t telling you.

learn her signs. Learn her tells.

change it up. Explore all of her. Taste her. All of her. Have sex. Eat her some more. Do whatever you need to do to make her cum. Again and again. Who really cares if she cums while you’re inside her. Just make her cum.

that said. I’m small. But I can tell you. I’ve never had a woman not cum while we had intercourse. My ex wife had never cum via intercourses before we had sex. She told me many times after it happened that it had NEVER happened before. She was blown away. It’s not about size.
It’s all about getting in her head. Make her want to cum. Make her need to cum. Make her know you’re going to make her cum.