The other night, my husband was on his way out the door to band practice, and came into my office to kiss me goodbye. I had just written the following into a post: I like to feel taken...okay, I love it. But my tendencies can be just as aggressive as submissive. In fact, I have a fantasy of tying him up, licking and sucking him until he almost cums (evil, I know), and touching him wherever I want, however I want. Ultimately, I would finish it by riding the hell out of him. I love a good, hard ride. He wanted to see what I was writing, and I was like..."No, you won't like it, I'm embarrassed," etc. etc. Well, he got me to read it to him anyway, and his reaction shocked the hell out of me! His cock was so hard it looked like he was about to burst out of his jeans, and the heated look on his face said the rest. The reason I was shocked is that we had tried a few bondage experiments (him putting me in bondage) and although he did it to please me, he just wasn't all that into it. So I assumed (never assume!) that he wouldn't be interested in doing it the other way around. Wrong!!! He told me that he has fantasized for years about being restrained, teased, molested, and fucked, but he thought I would never be interested in doing it to him! Anyway, the poor man had to leave for band practice with that enormous hard-on! But he called me from his cell phone, while driving, and told me more about his submissive fantasies, which run even deeper than mine. How could I have been with this man for 17 years, married for 14, and not known he was (to a great extent) a sub? It's a good thing I can go either way. Anyway, I'm going to buy straps and cuffs that will fit male wrists, and surprise him one day this week. Has anyone else had this happen -- you and your partner wanting the same things, but not being brave enough to ask??