"That looks too GAY/str8!" defining str8/gay fashion.

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All I can say is that I'm glad I don;t really care about fasion--I can dress for comfort and utility, and I save a fortune on expensive designer stuff.:smile:
 

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I totally agree with that, but there ARE people whore bare flesh showing or body hugging t-shirts.

i don't understand the thing with tight t-shirts being considered gay. I reckon i've got quite a decent physique and can pull off wearing something like that, but i aint gay, and i dont think i look it. i'll upload a pic tomorrow for you to see. i think i look ok in them.
 

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For a quick walkthrough on how a straight guy to look good without having to define his sexual orientation, you might consider the following designers:

Seven For All Mankind, Diesel and (sometimes) True Religion Jeans

Monarchy, Drifter, Scotch & Soda (new favorite!!!), and of course Lacoste.

and for the summer, sandals will do.
 
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People tell me that I dress like a gay guy - even when I was not aware that I was partly gay lol.

I do dress "trendy" but I do add my own style. I have a nice build, so I do tend to wear some tight shirts...I like to show off my muscles, I have worked damn hard to get them. I think we should all dress how we want to, and just be done with the silly labels.
 

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What is this nonsense with straight men wearing earrings in both ears? I cannot begin to tell you how much this trend annoys me.

Also, I have almost gotten used to straight men highlighting or bleaching their hair . . . almost. I grew up in the dark ages of the 1970's and 1980's. Back then if a man lightened his hair he was gay. Back then darkening hair to cover gray was never considered gay. It was usually a sign of a man who was recently divorced and on the dating scene again or had been laid off mid career and was trying to look younger while job hunting.

NJ, darling............. lol (this was for the highlights - don't you think I look sexy with them though? Honestly...)

I have been accussed of everything under the sun and have been most of my life simply because of the way I dress. I am a metrosexual and damn proud. I keep up with the trends and wear lots of designer clothing. I wear them because I WANT too and I wear them because they look damn good on me.

Also, my profession tends to lend itself for me to dress more business. With that, I do have suits tailor-made, unless I find something I like from a department store. And even then, I make a statement with the accessories (tie, diamond tie clip, pocket squares) and the shirt.

To top it off... I have a full walk-in closet full of just my clothes (she has her own, too). And, well... I talk shit about people with shoes, but I have quiet the collection myself (my wife still beats me though). I like to look good and I love the compliments. I get them almost daily! Yeah, I am an attention whore.

As for the earrings... I have both my ears pierced (did it in a traditional ceremony) but have since stopped wearing the earrings. However, there was a time (about 2 years) were I sported a carat in each ear. And for the hair... well, it use to be long. Again, a cultural thing. I cut it back in 2002 and started highlighting it shortly afterwords. Personally, there is something about my complexion and my eyes that can give me confidence in highlighting my hair. Besides, it just "pops."

There are some fashion "No No" that I wish people would adhere, especially men. Clothing does not make you "gay." Society has labeled how we dress and hence, straight men tend to be conservative in their attire or dare I say, some have no fashion sense whatsoever. Sad, but true. Anyway, I say bull-shit. Give me designer and let me look GQ.

My refute to those who label... my dick is probably bigger and you are just jealous. Get the hell over it!

:)

I'm done!
 

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As much as I love wearing thongs on the beach, there is a perception that only gay men would wear one. At least, that seems to be the case in the Twin Cities.

I like wearing them because I have a good body and love showing my bulge off.

I don't know where this perception started but I wish it would go away.
 

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Something that really annoys me about people that don't know anything about fashion is when they say something negative about "labels". What people don't understand is that when you spend a lot of money on an article of clothing, there's a reason. For instance. I have a v-neck shirt from the gap that I love and adore. But, it's too square for my body. Now, when I go put on a v-neck made by Scotch & Soda, which happens to cost twice as much, it fits me perfectly. It's like someone out somewhere knew who I was and what my body shape is like. It fits amazing. Sometimes, i'll just look at it in my closet and not wear it because i'm scared i'll wear it out! Also, the quality is superb. It will outlast most other things.

I'm a huge denim fan. I think jeans could possibly make or break the whole wardobe. Gap, Abercrombie, American Eagle, etc, make me look ridiculous (the keyword is "me". you, on the other hand, could look fine). Now, a pair of meltin' pot, diesels, sevens, true religions, etc, which cost $150+ make me look like a million bucks. You just have to accept the fact that even if something is more expensive, it could actually make you look so much different, and even better. No matter if it's a label or not.
 

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I wear what I want. Without any concern of what people think. For example: Yesterday we had to take our poodle to Auburn University Animal Hospital. (he has cancer). Now, I don't think you can get more "straight looking" then Auburn University. Did I care..hell no. I wore a pink plaid shirt, with low rise jeans and my pink converse shoes. Did I get looks...YES....It's not my fault if I like to wear bright colors with matching shoes.
Just wear what you feel comfortable in and be happy.
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Since I was a teenager I've been confused for being gay for avariety of reasons. I'm confident enough in my sexuality now to really care less.

I used to swim with a gay swim team and a gay water polo team. I observed a couple of things of my teammates. Some had a good fashion sense and some seemed so clueless you would've thought they were straight. The sterotype that gay men have a fashions sense, much less a good one, does not hold up with experience.

Although I should say, only gay men seem to take notice my Camper shoes. HA!

Robert
 

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I don't think fashion makes it easy. Men's fashions seem almost deliberately ambiguous in some ways because people are beginning to recognize that good looking clothes are the ones that fit nicely to the body, have some sense of color scheme, and that they look and feel good. With that said, men are, in general terms, a lot more concerned with their dress and their appearance now than, say, ten, maybe twenty years ago. "Stylish" is in.

I just think some guys are naturally confused by the metrosexual fashion style and will try a little too hard to copy it either because they THINK that's how they should look or they really haven't developed a style of their own. I'll never forget the dude strolling on campus who overdid the pink shirt, ripped up jeans, sandals, and gradiented unisex glasses and spiky hair gel. I couldn't help but laugh.

I'm really tired of seeing everyone wear the same tired, boring, and uninspired brands like Hollister or Abercrombie and Fitch. Sorry if this offends, but I know I don't want to be a walking billboard for some brand. Y'all know I love Guess, but I wouldn't wear something with a big logo plastered across the front. It just doesn't look very detailed or interesting. Polo shirts and random scrawls are just that, nothing important. How many A&Fers have EVER surfed a day in their lives, anyway?

(If anything, I'd rather people like my style and say, "Hey Dee, you awesome lookin' dude with the righteous hair, where'd you get that shirt?" "This?" I query and smile, "Go to Guess. It's real nice.")

Anybody can get a damn sweatshirt and puffy-paste big bubble letters on it. It's a travesty when it looks like shit and still sets you back $50 and more. What the hell for? Fashion without value, style, or inspiration drives me up the wall.

For the rest of it, I think so long as you're not wearing a typical gay icon (rainbow flag, pink triangle) anywhere on your clothes, then you're safe. You're safe due to a lack of burden of proof. You'll either win the affection of some girl on a dress-you-up makeover project (voluntary or not) and some dudes will check you out, not your ass, though...
 

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I have a lot of Guess in my wardrobe because I work there and it's a nice perk. Besides, I'm a big fan of graphic tees and there are just enough different ones available to give me some choices.

One of my friends teases me for being metro, but I think it's because I color my hair. I don't make a huge statement about it. Honestly, it's just that straight-up black hair is kinda boring to me. I have a pretty good head of hair and a little bit of color just shows it off, I guess.

Besides that, like anyone coming into their 20s, we're trying to experiment with our image and style. I never really cared about fashion until I realized that people can be drawn to it yet not overly obsessed. I don't care for huge brands and I don't fantasize about doing the next big style. I just want to look nice, and it so happens that I need to shell out a bit of cash to get jeans and shirts that fit me better.

I experimented with the club/raver kinda clothes and oversized huge jeans in college. I traded those in for Old Navy because it was a "brand" but it wasn't overly expensive -- and then I got tired of it. I worked in retail and had to know what the hell I was talking about, but I couldn't muster up enough enthusiasm to know random details about Seven for All Mankind or Diesel. It's all denim -- nicer denim -- but it's a fuckin' pair of jeans at the end of the day. Now, I'm more interested in trying out different colors. I know that skinnier boot leg jeans look good on me. I'm just trying to figure out if I like orange today or brown or maybe green. That's all.
 

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Absolutely Dee! I often want to pick up those t-shirts brazened with a brand name and want to walk up to the counter and ask if the price on the tag is what they are going to pay me to advertise for them. I don't get the brand name culture.



I don't think fashion makes it easy. Men's fashions seem almost deliberately ambiguous in some ways because people are beginning to recognize that good looking clothes are the ones that fit nicely to the body, have some sense of color scheme, and that they look and feel good. With that said, men are, in general terms, a lot more concerned with their dress and their appearance now than, say, ten, maybe twenty years ago. "Stylish" is in.

I just think some guys are naturally confused by the metrosexual fashion style and will try a little too hard to copy it either because they THINK that's how they should look or they really haven't developed a style of their own. I'll never forget the dude strolling on campus who overdid the pink shirt, ripped up jeans, sandals, and gradiented unisex glasses and spiky hair gel. I couldn't help but laugh.

I'm really tired of seeing everyone wear the same tired, boring, and uninspired brands like Hollister or Abercrombie and Fitch. Sorry if this offends, but I know I don't want to be a walking billboard for some brand. Y'all know I love Guess, but I wouldn't wear something with a big logo plastered across the front. It just doesn't look very detailed or interesting. Polo shirts and random scrawls are just that, nothing important. How many A&Fers have EVER surfed a day in their lives, anyway?

(If anything, I'd rather people like my style and say, "Hey Dee, you awesome lookin' dude with the righteous hair, where'd you get that shirt?" "This?" I query and smile, "Go to Guess. It's real nice.")

Anybody can get a damn sweatshirt and puffy-paste big bubble letters on it. It's a travesty when it looks like shit and still sets you back $50 and more. What the hell for? Fashion without value, style, or inspiration drives me up the wall.

For the rest of it, I think so long as you're not wearing a typical gay icon (rainbow flag, pink triangle) anywhere on your clothes, then you're safe. You're safe due to a lack of burden of proof. You'll either win the affection of some girl on a dress-you-up makeover project (voluntary or not) and some dudes will check you out, not your ass, though...
 

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As much as I love wearing thongs on the beach, there is a perception that only gay men would wear one. At least, that seems to be the case in the Twin Cities.

I like wearing them because I have a good body and love showing my bulge off.

I don't know where this perception started but I wish it would go away.

I couldn't agree more. I bust my ass to look good in a thong and I absolutly love wearing it,:biggrin1: (as you can see in my avitar). About six years ago I finally got the courage up to wear my thong at the beach when my wife dared me to do it. It was such a rush and so exciting that I became addicted to wearing thongs whenever I could. I was hanging out at a club my wife works at one new years eve and they had an amature strip contest and my wife and her friends talked me into participating. I had sooo much fun, I was getting money from women in front of me and groped by the women behind me. What I don't understand is male strippers can wear sexy erotic clothing and it's cool but if a male wears a thong at the beach and looks good in it then he's gay! It' bullshit!! I now wear my thong anytime I go to the beach and I don't give a shit what people think! One time I got chased by some rednecks who were fly fishing on the beach, they were calling me a fag and wanted to beat my ass. But I guess that what happens when you run across ignorant, narrow minded people that are insecure about their sexuality and want beat somebodies ass for exposing them to something that makes them confront their own sexuality.:mad:
 

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I bust my ass to look good in a thong and I absolutly love wearing it,:biggrin1: One time I got chased by some rednecks who were fly fishing on the beach, they were calling me a fag and wanted to beat my ass. But I guess that what happens when you run across ignorant, narrow minded people that are insecure about their sexuality and want beat somebodies ass for exposing them to something that makes them confront their own sexuality.:mad:
You hit that nail right on the head. Many guys hanging out in a group on the beach get nervous when they see a guy in a Speedo for the same reason. They make comments amongst themselves that Speedos are gay and they would never wear one, especially if there are women in their group. Athletic, fit guys look great in sexy swimwear, yet that double standard for guys and gals is so ridiculous. The fashion industry offers clothes for the fit guy - the important thing here is for guys to buy these styles and wear them. I'm anxious to see what this summer will bring on the beach. If nothing else, the hem line has to go up with board shorts by about 12". I'm going to look for board shorts made from nylon and have them hemmed. I run and cycle and want to show off my legs, not hide them.
 

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About six years ago I finally got the courage up to wear my thong at the beach when my wife dared me to do it.
That's what I've noticed.

Women don't have any problems with us wanting to look good or sexy but WE do.

We're afraid about what other guys will think.

and

We're afraid of looking weak. (which somehow translates into looking gay, though it really shouldn't)

I hope soon we can get over these silly stigmas.
 

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Avoid feather boas.
:tongue: Personally i think Gillete has it covered. Its not what you are wearing, its who's wearing what. regardless of orientation some guys will come off looking gay and some guys don't. But feather Boas will pretty much do any guy in!
 

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Absolutely Dee! I often want to pick up those t-shirts brazened with a brand name and want to walk up to the counter and ask if the price on the tag is what they are going to pay me to advertise for them. I don't get the brand name culture.
I'm not a big fashion hound, so I don't really know... but it seems like the first one I remember doing this (and starting the whole nasty trend) was Tommy Hellfinger. (Typo intended.) It seemed so crazy to me. He gets a $5 t-shirt, silkscreens his name all over the front of it, sells it to gullible, insecure customers for $50, and they walk around advertising for him, to other gullible, insecure folks.

Back when I was learning about marketing, I had always been under the impression that you had to purchase advertising for your product, not that people would pay you to advertise it for you.