The age old question: Am I gay/bi/straight?

jnewman3

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So here is the deal: Right off the bat, I must admit that I am attracted to/turned on by muscled/fit guys - although this attraction is more an admiration of the muscles (I am into fitness myself). I can even jack off to watching a muscled guy/bodybuilder but I never fantasize about having sex with them.

On the other hand, when I see a hot girl, I imagine undressing her, fantasize about her sexual organs and imagine "doing things" to her.

Please share your thoughts on whether you think I am: Straight/Bi/Gay... actually make that Straight or Bi

P.S. I have had sex with girls but not with guys...

Thanks!!
 
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It is interesting you say, "turned on" by muscle guys. What do you mean by that? As I interpret that, it means you are sexually stimulated when you see a fit/muscle guy. I could appreciate you saying that you are an "admirer" of their physique, but wouldn't you in a sense be jealous (or something in that vain) of them rather than attracted to or turned on by them? I am not straight, but I can't imagine any straight person ever jacking off to a solely to a guy, but this is just me. How often do you jack off to men? I'm gay and I could "even" jack off to a woman if I wanted to, or have sex with a woman, but I wouldn't prefer it.

Also, how old are you? Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman? If you had the chance to have sex with, or see naked a men you "admired" would you want to?

Some people think they are straight for the longest time (even repress it, no matter what they are attracted to) and this was the case with myself until I developed feelings for another male, and knew that I likely would never have those feelings for a woman. I can never picture myself having a relationship with a woman, and that makes me gay.

In my opinion (and remember, no can answer this question for you) would you rather walk into a women's locker room or a men's? Would you rather beat off to a guy or a girl? If answer that truthfully to yourself, you will know.
 
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to answer your question "am I bi/gay/straight", the answer is yes. :) You are turned on by what turns you on. We all are. Quit trying to label it and classify it and objectify it. I still say your sexuality has FAR more to do with your emotional connection to someone than anything else. It is who you want to BE with in ALL ways that counts. If that is a woman only, you are straight. If it is a guy only, you are gay. If it is both you are Bi. If you want it all but don;t want an emotional relationship, you are ambisexual--you want sex and nothing else. The sexual acts that give you pleasure are just that---pleasurable acts. A totally straight man may like to be stimulated anally--doesn't make him any less straight. End of lecture.
 
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to answer your question "am I bi/gay/straight", the answer is yes. :) You are turned on by what turns you on. We all are. Quit trying to label it and classify it and objectify it. I still say your sexuality has FAR more to do with your emotional connection to someone than anything else. It is who you want to BE with in ALL ways that counts. If that is a woman only, you are straight. If it is a guy only, you are gay. If it is both you are Bi. If you want it all but don;t want an emotional relationship, you are ambisexual--you want sex and nothing else. The sexual acts that give you pleasure are just that---pleasurable acts. A totally straight man may like to be stimulated anally--doesn't make him any less straight. End of lecture.

couldn't agree with that more
 

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I'm a Kinsey 4.

The Kinsey Institute - Kinsey Sexuality Rating Scale

0 Exclusively heterosexual
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6 Exclusively homosexual

**The shortcoming of this scale: it doesn't factor in people who haven't tried what they've been craving. Only one way to find out**
 
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I have to agree with the other David on this. Don't label yourself. Do what feels right. If you feel like you'd be interested in something with a guy, just let him know up front that you're just exploring a curiosity. Bi-Curious I guess would be the technical term for what you're describing... But I hate labels like that.