No locker room? Do you change on the gym floor? Sponge bathe at the water fountain?
There were a few 24-hour chain gyms in my area that have since close after a bunch of real gyms opened. The 24-gyms had on bathroom in which you could change -- but no shower. I actually belong to one for almost 4 years before I got a new job and joined a gym closer to work with full facilities. About the hottest thing I ever saw at the chain was one very attractive 20-something strip off his shirt (wearing only shorts and socks) to weigh himself. It was late night and no one else was there. He he had stripped nude, I probably would have dropped over of heart failure.
Haha. I wish *I* had an AG update to post.The last one was about 6 weeks ago.
We still do our “garage workouts” 2-3 times a week. It’s not the same as working out with him in person or hanging out naked with him but it’s good to have him as a motivating workout partner, it’s nice to stay connected to him and I’ve enjoyed the playful encounters.
Last week we had a playful couple of minutes. He was wearing a tank top and showed off his biceps after his last set of curls. I noted his armpits. (AG has really sexy pits with thick, black hair. As I’ve mentioned before, his bush and pits have really thick hair growth.) Of course AG went into tease mode, rotating his elbow forward and lifting it to point his pit faced the cam, running his hand over his pit, saying “you like?” in his sexy accent and sticking his tongue out and licking right at the edge of his armpit. That drove me crazy as I could almost taste his sweaty, hairy pit. He then stepped close to the camera and gave me a closeup if his hairy armpit. Stepping back and laughing he asked if that made my dick hard. I stepped back and said, “There’s a reason my hand is in my shorts. Dude that was hot!”, showing him where my hand was. We both laughed and that was the end of it.
But, UGH, since we showed off naked for each other, got hard and stroked for a little bit, nothing has happened to that extent. (AG doesn’t always have a lot of privacy.)
I look forward to being able to fly to Miami for client work again and working out with him and being naked with him in the locker room. My fear is those days may be a ways out and I wonder if I’ll still have this client and if that gym will still be in business. (Yes, there are others, but this one is a nice location and facility.)
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Hey @MarcoJock - Thanks for updating us! It’s good to hear that you and AG are keeping up with your workouts. He sounds like a good guy and the teasing sounds like it’s in good fun. If you were still traveling to Miami there’s no doubt in my mind that you would have gone down on him again and sucked another load out of his cock.
You guys developed a nice friendship because you have an interest in working out, you find him attractive, he’s bi curious AND neither of you were bashful in the locker room! I wonder if you would have developed this level of friendship if you were both towel dancers in the locker room and kept your towels on in the steam room.
Good point. I have become real friendly with a bunch of dudes at my gym because we enjoy showing off and helping each other out.
Having been in locker rooms probably for 45 years, i would note that the environment has changed dramatically in locker rooms. When I began in the locker room years ago, nudity was the rule. Now in my experience it is much less common, especially among the young men. They are quick to cover up, to do the so-called towel dance. I think that this is due to great changes in society. First, the acceptance and awareness of homosexuality has changed things. When I was young, I knew about homosexuality but it was considered very rare. Now many straight (and gay) males are fearful that they are being looked at, which obviously in the past they were, but they were not so much aware of that. Also many young guys grew up in the "safe touch" world. This made our genitalia a very private matter that we wanted to protect and keep away from others. Also the awareness of men who are sexual predators have changed the locker room experience. You now know that someone could be after you. Having experienced two very uncomfortable experiences with men (one who grabbed my butt and one who stood and stared at my package and got in the way of my trying to move away from him) has made me a little more cautious than I used to be.
Some guys are definitely more bashful than others. I think gyms tend to draw a lot of guys who are actually quite self conscious and use the gym to feel better about their bodies, even if they have fantastic bodies. It’s not surprising to me that these same guys would be quite bashful when it comes to the change room. On the other end of the spectrum, the gym also draws guys who are proud of their bodies and want to keep them in shape to show them off. Those guys are going to be the ones who could care less about being naked and will probably flaunt it. I kind of find myself somewhere in the middle. I’m confident about being naked in the change room, but I’m not going to be naked for longer than I need to be.
Most guys tend to adjust their behavior based on the environment. In the 80s, no one wore a towel to the showers -- most would hold it in front of them -- somewhat covering their junk on the walk to and from the showers. There are still guys who do that today -- they tend to be old, retired guys -- but occasionally a young jock will do the same (some sport teams still shower the old-fashioned way).
But guys who've never had to get naked in front of others while they were growing up will probably never be comfortable being nude in front of others.
But guys who've never had to get naked in front of others while they were growing up will probably never be comfortable being nude in front of others.
I'll have to admit that I've been guilty of doing the towel dance, but that was like 20 years ago. Back then, I had a job where I could leave at 430pm and by the time I got to the gym (at the time it was the Q which was then acquired by 24 Hour Fitness) it was 5pm. Yeah, I was a bit self conscious about my body then, but now I really don't feel that way....maybe it's due to age (I'm 51 now). The funny thing is that when I went on a cruise back in 2018, I had no problem taking it all off in the locker room or going to the showers - I guess the way I looked at it was that I more than likely wouldn't see any of these guys again and they probably didn't live in the same city as I did. Earlier this year I had hoped to join a gym, but then the virus came along and I had to put that on hold.
I think a lot of it has to do with how culture is portrayed, for the last 20-30 years - gen X and millennial same sex has been portrayed as gay and gay had been portrayed as perverse, it's forbidden, I think it's a lot to do with the US and Hollywood (no distrespect). But last couple of years, political correctness has changed a lot of things, let's hope this "same sex" culture would be changed as well, probably need another generation.
Chiming in here again. I think the reason for the "towel dance" can be attributed to a few factors. There's modesty. I know, I know. I've read plenty of posts on here about the origins of the gymnasium, the nudity, etc, but this modesty probably has its roots in the Victorian era. Then there could be a mixture of self esteem / self confidence / shyness in one's own body and exposing it to others. Most guys want to looked toned, muscular and have that good sized cock, but there are guys out there who aren't and don't and probably feel inadequate in the size of their cock. Finally, there's that thought that nudity means sex. Yes, I know that's not true, but somewhere in my readings on this site I recall someone from Europe stating that nudity does not equate to sex and that's probably why Europeans are more relaxed and liberal about being nude around each other. Here in the U.S., there's almost a tag of eroticism that gets placed on being nude. Again, I know this not to be true, but I'm playing devil's advocate here. Maybe a guy who does the towel dance is afraid of getting erect if he doesn't cover himself up?
I would like to hear from Europeans, Asians, Latin Americans, especially ones who have traveled to the US and experienced beaches, locker rooms, etc. My view is from the US traveling abroad.
I have traveled to Europe many times. I’ve been in saunas, eg, in the hotel where I was staying, where men and women are naked and there is absolutely nothing sexual about it. I’ve been to nude beaches and there have been fewer “lurkers” and people seemed to know how to act around naked people. I’ve been to clothing optional beaches where folks were sunning in swimsuits next to people sunning naked. I’ve seen men and women naked or partially naked while changing on the beach. I’ve seen a (really hot) naked guy on the beach kicking around a soccer ball with a girl who was wearing a bikini bottom and t shirt. For the most part, I have found that Europeans do not sexualize nudity.
(Yes, there are exceptions to the above. I’ve been to (usually gay) beaches where guys flash their hardons or activities go on behind the rocks or in the wooded area next to the beach. And I’ve had full on sex on a few secluded beaches with no one around. But these are exceptions.)
I have been to several countries in Asia. The Asian and European men in the locker rooms of gyms were very comfortable with nudity in the saunas, steam rooms and whirlpools.
In Latin America I have only been to Mexico City. I stayed at a high end hotel for a week on business. The hotel had a really nice fitness center. The locker room had a sauna. I got several eyefuls of hot, naked goodness from several good looking Latin guys. But there was nothing sexual going on. Just naked guys sweating in the sauna.
Granted, this is a relatively small sampling and these are just my observations. I have travelled globally much more than the vast majority of Americans but I’m not an expert on multicultural nudity.
I believe modesty and towel dancing feed on itself — meaning the more it’s done the more novel it is to see naked guy in the locker room and that naked guy is therefore surprising, shocking or wrong vs him just being another naked guy and it’s OK.
I have seen my friends naked in locker rooms. I have been to nude beaches with my friends. I have met new friends at nude beaches and pool parties where most of the guys were naked. None of these were sexual activities. There is something about talking to friends and meeting new people when you’re naked that removes boundaries and is very natural and freeing.
How we got to this whole new level of towel dancing fuckedupness is beyond me.
I honestly believe it is directly related to the realization that gays are everywhere.
Decades ago, most men were aware of the existence of homosexuality, but very few actually knew any gays because they were all closeted.
Now, with the realization that gay men are a significant portion of the population and "they are everywhere!", many straight guys are freaked out by the possibility that someone might be looking at them in "that way".
Decades ago, most men were aware of the existence of homosexuality, but very few actually knew any gays because they were all closeted.
Now, with the realization that gay men are a significant portion of the population and "they are everywhere!", many straight guys are freaked out by the possibility that someone might be looking at them in "that way".
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And now that The Gays “are everywhere” so are easily accessible gay porn and gay “dating” apps so guys don’t have to go into the locker room to see some dick.
I have to admit when I’m in the locker room I enjoy seeing a hot naked guy, always discreetly. A little eye candy. However, I’m always focused on the primary mission — change, maybe steam, and shower. I’d never intentionally make anyone feel uncomfortable by trying to see them naked. I hate trolls like everyone else.
On the flip side, I’m a bit of an exhibitionist and don’t mind if guys — straight, gay, bi — check me out “that way.” But I don’t linger around naked.
I see the point. I wonder how much validity it has. There is also the argument of technology, e.g., everyone has a smartphone in their hand and that smart phone has a camera on it. I see that point too. I wonder how much validity it has. Said another way, have the openness of being gay and the prevalence of smart phones caused a large number of guys to fear being naked in the locker room?
I think there are several factors at play as to why guys evolved to towel dancing and there is not just one root cause.
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Being discreet is the best way to do it. That means on some days -- I don't see anything even though a guy is standing next to me naked. The only comfortable way of looking at a guy naked is if you are having a conversation -- and the guy isn't overtly trying to hide anything. Even then, if you're standing too close --- you can't really look down without being obvious. You need a good 6 feet or more to be able to taken in everything at a glance. I'm an ass man, so it makes it easier to enjoy the view.
You do know that it is talk like this that may cause the straight guys on this and other sites to towel dance, right?
You just told every straight guy out there that there are gay guys in the locker room trying to get a good look at their goods.
Ha! Well, I don't think that's a news flash.
I've been on the other side as well --- when someone is trying to sneak a peek at my dick. I'm not an exhibitionist, but I don't cover anything up when I'm changing. If someone does -- that's his business. Most guys with whom I converse aren't that hung up over being nude. There are a few that are -- and that's fine.
I've been on the other side as well --- when someone is trying to sneak a peek at my dick. I'm not an exhibitionist, but I don't cover anything up when I'm changing. If someone does -- that's his business. Most guys with whom I converse aren't that hung up over being nude. There are a few that are -- and that's fine.
Being in high school in the 1970s, it was rather uncomfortable to have to change and shower after gym class. Most boys back then seemed a little self-conscious and covered up quickly.
Fast forward to a company gym where the locker room had shower stalls, whirlpool, and sauna. Now, we're talking about management people whom you saw everyday in a business environment as well as working out in the gym. Only the older guys (60s) seemed to care about keeping a towel wrapped around them when shaving at the sink or leaving a shower stall. Everyone else pretty much left it hang out.
I think what you realize is that dicks come in all sizes. Some guys obviously sport a bush and some trim and/or shave. The main thing is to enjoy what you have.
Fast forward to a company gym where the locker room had shower stalls, whirlpool, and sauna. Now, we're talking about management people whom you saw everyday in a business environment as well as working out in the gym. Only the older guys (60s) seemed to care about keeping a towel wrapped around them when shaving at the sink or leaving a shower stall. Everyone else pretty much left it hang out.
I think what you realize is that dicks come in all sizes. Some guys obviously sport a bush and some trim and/or shave. The main thing is to enjoy what you have.
