The bigger they are...the more likely they are to cheat?

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  1. D_Salvatore Speedbump

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    Just a question i thought of while in a previous relationship. I'm pretty devoted and have only done a bit of emotional cheating i guess (which i've heard is actually worse than physical cheating).


    Are men with larger members more likely to cheat? If you think so, then why?



    I don't think so but i just wanted to hear some thoughts on it. Seeing as how i've been accused of it constantly.
     
  2. D_Maurice Mountlilly

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    in my longterm relationships i've never cheated.i've been cheated on,but i've never cheated.i did have a girlfriend who thought that guys who were big were more likley to cheat,i asked her what she based this on? it was most likley an ex,but she didn't want to go into the story any further.so i had to let it go.
     
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    never cheated at all
     
  4. Gillette

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    It sounds like a myth based in misandry.

    I'd guess the assumptions behind it are that all men will cheat if presented with the opportunity and that having a larger dick makes a man more desirable thus increasing his opportunities.

    It's bunk.
     
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    Unfortunately, I have some experience in being cheated on. One was a ltr and the other two were serious dating scenarios. I have not noticed that cock size had anything to do with it. Only my ltr had a big cock - the other two were average.
     
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    Does my hand count as cheating? LOL
     
  7. maxcok

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    What makes you so sure it's bunk?

    Increased desirability/opportunities seems entirely plausible to me personally.
     
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    Cock size has nothing to do with infidelity. Cheating is a character flaw that gets magnified by an emotional disconnect. If a guy is disconnected from his partner, he's going to cheat no matter how big or small his dick is.

    Also, the myth that an bigger cock means better sex is sadly very untrue.
     
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    Sure, the desirability/opportunity factor will increase the chances of a man cheating IF he's inclined to cheat in the first place. I don't see that inclination being related to dick size, though.

    Also desirability doesn't depend on dick size. Personality, appearance, status and any number of other factors attract different people. Even the ones who are sizequeens and might be attracted by his size aren't a sure thing. We know men often lie about their size and crassly whipping it out as proof is going to turn off the majority of potential partners.

    Being big may offer a slightly increased desirability to a minority of potential partners. That's not enough to make such a sweeping generalization.
     
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    I think we have more opportunities or offers to cheat, but I never cheated in any of the relationships I was in.
     
  11. maxcok

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    It's possible bigger guys might be overall more baseline confident, conscious of, even fixated on their dicks though; for one reason, because they have more attention focused there by others. Let's face it, this site wouldn't exist as it does if people weren't fascinated by and attracted to big dicks. Not to mention the tendency of men to show off and try to draw attention to their large endowments, to gain pshychological and sexual advantage. The prevalence of that tendency was something I was not aware of before I started exploring this site, btw.

    I agree with most of the beginning of that paragraph, but in order to have an unbiased scientific comparison all those factors would have to be balanced out -- all things being equal in other words, except for endowment.

    I disagree with the end of your statement. If you're endowed, you don't necessarily have to "whip it out" in order for it to be noticed, even fully clothed. There's word of mouth too, and as much as women deny it, they look, and they talk, and so do men. "Whipping it out" doesn't seem to carry much stigma at all on the internet from what I've seen. As far as M/M sex is concerned, "whipping it out" is actually encouraged in some settings, not to mention the opportunities men have to see each other's dicks naturally - locker rooms, urinals, etc.

    I'm not making any "sweeping generalization", nor do I think you can say it's "bunk" either. I know that in my own experience, being well endowed has brought me plenty of easy opportunities for sex, whether I was coupled or not, without promoting myself or looking for them. It's certainly not the only reason, and I don't act on all or even most of them by any means, but if I were inclined I could be a total slut with very little effort.

    I wonder if anyone's done a valid scientific study of this question?
     
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  12. D_Salvatore Speedbump

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    Would love to see a study done on this. Could clear up some misconceptions.
     
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    From my experience the vast majority of men are fascinated by, and want attention drawn to their cock, regardless of size. This site, despite it's success doesn't prove that "people" in general are more attracted to larger cocks. If you think about the vast number who surf the net for porn then compare that to our membership numbers, it's actually a pretty small niche.

    Well to have a true comparison of all the factors you'd need multiple studies. All things being equal except for endowment, all things equal except for personality, all things equal except for appearance, etc. The point is in the real world things aren't all "equal except for" situations so a guy with a big dick has to compete with other more obvious factors like personality, appearance and money.
    Some men are showers some are growers. I do consider myself a sizequeen and having been on this site for years I've made a concious effort to try crotch watching and in all honesty haven't seen more than 20 vpls in all that time. That includes meeting people from this site whose pics I've seen and know are packing. It's really not that easy to tell in clothes unless they're fully hard and it's trying to escape.

    No denying that but then that relies on the guy cheating within his own social circle, however extended. I'm assuming the cheater doesn't want to get caught and would seek out a stranger.

    On the internet, no. I guess I was thinking more of an immediate situation like two people meeting at a bar. I hadn't even factored the internet into my consideration.

    Are you a broke, ugly asshole who happens to have a big dick?
    I doubt it. I've read many of your posts and I'm betting conversation has been what draws in your suitors with your endowment being a bonus prize.

    I think the difference of opinion we're having here is based in us arguing two subtly different points. Are hung men more likely to cheat, meaning the desire to do so? I say no. Vs. Are hung men more likely to cheat, meaning the ability to succeed? I'm at 65% agreement at most.
     
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    Not likely. Unlike an attractive female who's assets are fully visible to the world, a man's hardware is not only hard to spot, its also not a major factor for a majority of women ive known.

    THAT SAID, word of mouth is very powerful, especially in a closed social environment like work, college clique, military base, etc. Dating /banging one girl with a big mouth-or even banging a girl whose friends have big mouths-can change the status quo where a guy with a big member who's referred to positively in bed by a female's experience will become more desired by women. My ex commented in the sack that if other girls on base knew how I am in bed regarding my method and size , id have post its on my door requesting sex.That should tell you something about good old word of mouth. Keep in mind if a man is good in bed regardless of his dick size this can apply.
     
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    nah.. that's like saying the bigger the breasts the more likely a gal is to cheat. silly
     
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    You're not as devoted as you think you are.
     
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    Men with bigger dicks are not more likely to cheat. Men with commitment issues and confidence are likely to cheat.

    This site should teach that anyone can have a big dick- a devoted husband, a father, a youth pastor, a doctor, a lawyer, a CEO, a nerd(not a bad thing by the way, and to the cute nerds reading this- message me :wink:), gaping power bottom, and even the socially awkward.
     
  18. D_Salvatore Speedbump

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    Yeah i kind of got the feeling that me being honest about that was gonna be a problem. Well to be even more honest about it i own up to the emotional cheating accusation because i don't want to hide behind anything. I want to be as upfront and honest in life as possible. Anyway, when it comes to that relationship. Well someone still had feelings for me from a previous relationship. Me wanting not to completely be an ass i tried to slowly and constantly tell them that it was over, even tried to be friends. The girl i was with asked to see some things and yeah the ish hit the fan.

    So yeah i guess your correct. I wasn't as devoted, but things change. I now know that sometimes being a complete ass is a good thing.
     
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    Nope, size has nothing to do with it. Men with bigger dicks don't get more offers or opportunity to cheat.

    But I do think if you are good looking you will get more chances to cheat. :D

    Girls love good looking men. Think of Brad Pitt and Johny Depp. :p
     
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    cheating? dick size doesnt make you cheat..horniness does....
     
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