The Bird and the Bees Talk

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  1. earllogjam

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    Did your parents give you the "where babies come from" talk? How old were you and what were the circumstances?

    Or did you first learn about sex outside the home? Sex ed at school? Friends?

    If you do have kids will you be giving them the sex talk? At what age and how will you tell your kids?
     
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    My school had the "talk" while I was in 6th grade, and my parents seemingly never got around to it.

    I will most defiantly have the talk with them, at what age though... most likely around the 6th-7th grade.
     
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    I was 8 or 9 when my older sister and brother got the "birds and bees" talk... and I immediately got their rather strange translation of it.

    I never got the talk from anyone (other than my siblings), but I was reading grown up books from when I was 10 or 11, and so I got most of my sex education from novels. I also read the Kama Sutra cover to cover when I was 15 or 16. :biggrin1::biggrin1:
     
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    The "talk" should begin much earlier than sixth grade. There have been way too many sixth grade girls hysterical at school because they are bleeding and they don't know why. Mom has gotten around to explaining about the menstrual cycle. And fathers want to explain about erections, masturbations, and wet dreams after their sons have already had a wet dream, are masturbating and sometimes have already lost their virginity.

    The "talk" should be in stages starting as toddlers. It is at the toddler stage that children should learn that men and women look different down there and the same is for the breasts.

    Little by little new information should be taught and discussed so that the youngster has developed a healthy atittude for very serious discussions later.


    As for me, my father wouldn't discuss it until I was grown. My mother though told me anything I wanted to know when I asked. My mother is the one who told me the basics about sex at around 5th grade.
     
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    My parents never gave me the talk. Everything I learned about sex was learned in school. My son is only six, so needless to say we haven't discussed sex yet, but he DID ask me where babies came from, and I told him the truth, just not vivid details. He knows that babies come from a combination of mommy and daddy, and that the baby grows in mommy's tummy and comes out of her vagina. That's about all he needs to know. :smile: I will be having the sex talk with him, but I can't say for sure what age I will be doing that at. It just depends on his maturity and development. I know this wasn't part of your question, but I'm going to throw it in anyway - I have no qualms about purchasing condoms for my son, and will do so if necessary. Now, if I'm buying a 12 pack of condoms a week, then something is wrong - and that will be a whole different discussion. :smile: But I have no issues with buying him condoms in case the situation arises.
     
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    I think my mom must have told me in stages. I think first they told me the correct names for the male and female parts. Then when she was expecting my brother she told me that She was going to have a baby and that is would be growing inside her womb which is below her stomach. Then when I was in 4th grade I came home and asked what the word FUCK meant and at that point I guess she figured she had better tell me. WHen she did I thought it was the grossest thing I had ever heard and was sure she had made it up. I couldnt understand how or why anyone would want to do that! :biggrin1:
     
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    I was 4 or 5 and I was given a book. I was a rather precocious little thing and started asking very advanced questions at astonishingly young ages. I was quite a challenge for my parents, heh heh heh...
     
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    One of my parents is a doctor, so I got my version very straight and to the point, after they got through they asked if I had any questions...lol
     
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    My mother was a nurse and my father an army man. She had the talk with her anatomy and disease texts in hand with illustrations. Brrrr. I also had Health AKA Sex Ed in school.

    I am going to have modified talks with mine semi-progressively. Unfortunately you have to educate them on some things the minute they go out the door to preschool. We are now onto "No, Go, Tell" and unwanted and improper touching.

    Still breaks my heart to have to start this so early, but it is for his safety.
     
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    I learned from school and the public labrary,my parent's never said a word!My children have learned on the farm watching horses go at it.As they have asked for more detials and info we give it,in words they understand.My 15 year old daughter is now grossed out to think of mom and dad bumping ugly's(her word's!)I won't even tell you about her reaction seeing the paddles and canes hanging on our bedroom wall!
     
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    I asked my mom at age 8 while sitting in front of the TV watching a show about a boy who builds a rocket and flies into space. I pretended to watch the TV but listened as she told me the mechanics of it. I told her that was all I wanted to know and that was that.

    My father, like many others, never said anything until I was 16! That's not terribly odd however since I tried very hard to hide my sexual development from my parents. We were driving in the car on one of his aimless drives nowhere and for some reason (likely because my mother urged him) he mumbled something about boys getting hair on their balls. I cut him off right there and told him I knew about all that. I didn't want my father talking to me about sex at all ever. It was too private. By that age I had already developed a persona for parents and one for everyone else. I had actually started puberty at 10 and had my first ejaculation at 11, sex with a girl at 12 and sex with a boy at 14. My father was, to put it mildly, too late. I had a wretched experience with my first ejaculation, running to the doctor on my bike because I was too terrified to tell my parents. I had been precumming for about a year and thought THAT was semen so all the white stuff scared me silly. The doctor told my mother I was there and, I imagined, why even though she never said anything. If she did know, she never told my father.

    I'm not going to let my son go through that should I be blessed of a son. With luck and foresight, I would hope to have a very different, more loving, more affectionate, more trusting relationship with my son.
     
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    Im very greatful my parents never put me thought that hell.
     
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    My grandpa took me for a ride in the car one evening when I was eleven and told me about the mechanics of puberty and sex, including the advantages/challenges of having a large penis. After that I was able to ask him anything and I'd get a good, considerate answer.

    I talked to both of my boys individually as they turned 11 and they will still (now in their 30's) ask me for advice.

    I'm thankful for my caring grandpa. My father had planned to take me to a whore when I was old enough.
     
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    Sadly everything I learned, I learned myself. Well, kinda...my mom had a talk with me, but I knew about sex since I was like 5 or 6. This older girl told me about it.
     
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    my folks told me the broad strokes when i was about 5 and a lot of it i picked up myself, filling in the details as i went. i actually wound up clearing up a lot of other kids' misconceptions about sex for years. i think it helped a lot and gave me a really mature and non-taboo view of sex, so i plan on raising my children in much the same way. not get into the graphic details and such, but let them know what it is and answer any questions they have along the way.

    it was also helpful for me since i hit puberty around 8, started masturbating at 9 and had my first orgasm at 10. i'd probably have been a LOT more freaked out if they hadn't given me at least the primer. lol
     
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    I remember that day very clearly. I was 12 and doing the drying up while my mum did the dishes. She all of a sudden started with: "alex, do you know what a period is?" and I said "yep, totally, no need to talk about it." My parents are unbelievable prudes and the awkwardness of the situation was way too much to bear.
     
  17. earllogjam

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    I never got the talk from my parents but apparently my sister did. I asked my mom recently why they never got around to it and she told me that boys don't get in "trouble" - meaning pregnant, so she thought it wasn't necessary. I learned most everything from sex ed in 6th grade and the gay stuff I had to piece together.

    Looking back I think it was very irresponsible for my parents not discussing this with me. I wonder if it was because they themselves never got the talk. I get squeamish just thinking about discussing sex with my folks, the topic never comes up.
     
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    Mom told me that she had put a book under my mattress about puberty. It was an Ann Landers pamphlet about puberty and sex. It was the early 60's and I was around 12. I don't think that I have talked to Dad about sex unless you count a few crude jokes now and then starting in my 40's. I learned more from books that I read in the library and magazines that I found here and there.
     
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    So am I!!:biggrin:
     
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