the Death of an ex husband

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  1. Charles Finn

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    my ex husband is in the hospital dying as I type this
    I am very emotional about it but I did love him as i know he loved me too.
    I hope he goes in peace
    my sister who did not like him is also very upset.
    and life goes on
     
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    Not a fun moment.
    You probably have a million memories going through your head now.
    Good luck to you, Ch.
    And keep us informed.
     
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    yes i sure do and i have the pics i will be posting soon in memory of him.
    3 good years and 3 bad years still was very much worth it.
     
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    Sounds like a life, Ch.
    I will look for them.
     
  5. Charles Finn

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    on yahoo i am campuscharles1967
    add me and we can share pics there when i am on
     
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    I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you both right now.
     
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    thanks
    my friend Bill who told me about Gene my ex in the first place called about 8am and said
    he was told by the hospital to contact the family
    that usually means he is gone
    I will call his kids soon
    lol
    they are all grown now they were my step kids for 6 years
    sorry just rambling now.
    I will keep you posted and post pics soon.
    RIP Gene Baugh
    1954-2010
     
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    My thoughts are with you as you go through this sadness.
     
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    Oh, Charles, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope he is at peace as well as you. I would have such conflicted feelings if my ex-husband were in such a shape.
    Peace, Dear One.
     
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    Sorry to hear of your loss, Charles.
     
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    thanks for all you support
    working on a ride to get to and from Columbus from Toledo Ohio.
    I will miss him we had a very rough break up and divorce.
    but he still reached out to me and we were able to put the past behind us and remain friends.
    with all the crap he had to deal with he was a great father and a good husband.
    we were very happy for a time.
    and life still goes on
    lol
     
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    Thinking about you Charles.
     
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    I do have conflicting feelings but the ones that are really strong are sadness at has passing and happiness that he is finally at peace.
    by this weekend i hope to have a page for him of pics I just need time
    lol
    we had 6 years together and he taught me much about myself and my faith.
    about peace love forgiveness strength.
    he really was a gentle giant
     
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    It sounds like the overarching image you will carry of him is positive, and this is a great thing. I'm sorry for your loss and truly sympathize with you. I have lost two exes; one was just 32 years old and the other was 39. Just within the last year my current partner got the news that his former partner of 11 years had died of a heart attack, aged 49, and his will asked my hubby to be executor. It's numbingly hard.

    Any remembrance you create in honor of Gene will help the grieving process.

    Wishing you and his family strength at this time.
     
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    thanks for all your thoughts and support.
    this is a great group
     
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    I'll be thinking of you, Charles.
     
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    all of you here are great thanks for your support.
    it is hard in a way I did have plans to see him again but it did not work out.
    I am always running late for something
    lol
     
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    I'm really sorry to hear 'bout your ex there, CF. The loss of someone really close like a spouse will always be someone you don't wanna forget no matter what. As a closing note for you, might I suggest the way to honour his memory best would be to remember not how he died, but how he lived.
     
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    the funeral is Monday still learning details
    going to Columbus and spending the weekend.
    I need younger friends
    lol
    but this is the circle of life
    we are born we live and we die.
    I am totally blessed by the friends I have
    and yes my life is still a mess and has too much drama in it
    but over all I am very happy
     
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    Yup.
    To be born is to be sentenced to death.
    Knowing that, we can squeeze more out of life's orange.
    Anyway, I hope you get some degree of closure this weekend.
     
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