Disclaimer: I don't give a shit about what people do in their relationships, it's their choice and if they are happy and not hurting anyone why should anyone else care. So that's my disclaimer that I'm not passing any judgement and I think its cool whatever you decide to do. I was speaking to an online friend and he was telling me about a few of his "friends" (his term) with who has regular hook ups. He and his boyfriend are happy and in an open relationship. I wanted to ask him more about the dynamic of their relationship but I thought LSPG would provide a wider scope for feedback. I am really curious to hear from people in open relationships about how they operate and what are their ground rules (which I presume are important). My friend for example does not tell his boyfriend about these hook-ups, its very much a case of don't ask, don't tell. If you are in an open relationship do you have to talk about your relationship a lot more? For example how do you approach the discussion when you have to tell your partner about any other sex you are having? When it comes to the physical act, does your other half know where you are and what you are doing at that precise time? If you are someone in an open relationship how does it feel to be the partner not hooking up at a certain time? I suppose the practical side is just a case of setting some rules and sticking to them (or not setting rules as the case may be). What about the emotional side of things? Do you find that you are talking about your relationship a lot and reassuring one another etc? In short, I'm nosey and want to know the inner workings of how this all works. I have lots of questions and I'd be really interested to see different peoples approach and outlook on this.