Happiness is one of many significant notches on the barometer.
Is it going to rain RB?
Happiness is one of many significant notches on the barometer.
What is self-actualization? Sorry not very keyed into this stuff.
The long term forecast is... yes. :wink:Is it going to rain RB?
Abraham Maslow coined the term. It's used to describe the hierarchy of human needs ranging from fundamental to higher needs.
Lots of truth here, ManB. Expectations have a lot to do with happiness. .Yup - it's all about expectations. If you expect hapiness you will be disapointed when you, invariably, do not achieve it. If you expect less whatever you have feels better. Finns are among the most stoic of people I have ever met. Listen to your Finnish friend - he's just happy he's not having to fight the fucking Russians in the snow like Daddy and Granddaddy and so on. He has the right attitude.
I am beginning to believe that this is not a sustainable state .... I am beginning to feel that this is once again some more bullshit that we have bought into hook line and sinker .... He asked me why I thought it was necessary to be happy 24/7 and then asked me if I was an idiot.
Abraham Maslow coined the term. It's used to describe the hierarchy of human needs ranging from fundamental to higher needs.
Happiness doesn't just happen. It requires some planning to attain and some effort to maintain.
The long term forecast is... yes. :wink:
I also think a lot of people have unrealistic ideas about what "happiness" is. Many tend to think of it as something like the manic phase of a manic depressive person. I don't think true happiness is that top-of-the-world sort of thing, although that's nice to have in small doses from time to time. True happiness, though, is a little more subtle... probably closer to what you are calling contentment.
Finally, if you don't have some variance, you will never appreciate happiness. The 24/7/365 "ideal" really is not ideal. Variety, with balance, should be the goal and the ideal.
I feel that partly an image of permanent happiness has become established as a marketing norm to assist sales for drug companies among others.
I consider happiness to be a state of minimum divergence of reality and desire - zero being nirvana.
In other words;
Happiness = (Reality - Desire) * (10/idealism)
Where Desire and reality are non zero values between >=1 and <=10, with desire always being greater than or equal to reality and idealism (how realistic we are about achieving our desires) is a positive number >=1 and <= 10 Where 1 is totally uncompromising, 10 is totally pragmatic.
Thus, in a given reality, the more we desire and the less realistic we are about achieving those desires, the unhappier we are likely to be.
Sorry, it's been a long day.....
That happiness equation seems familiar. Have you posted it here before? I always have the difficulty of taking the zero desire Buddhist idea to heart. Aren't most of your joys tied into your desires? If there were no desires we would be emotionally flat, no? Not sure I would enjoy that. What would motivate you if you had little or no desire?
I've learned that those who are "happiest" and appreciate life most are those who have struggled and endured much pain.
I used to be miserable. I grew up without both parents around most of the time:a only child with no siblings or playmates. I was repressed and did not even know it. Then, slowly, I started to love myself. Not all at once, little by little. Over time, as I loved myself, saw myself as someone worthy or good treatment and love and tried to be a positive person, more and more good things began to happen for me.
Today I am truly happy, not just content. I am thrilled with my daily life and have a joy within me that I wish for everyone.
It's not easy to be happy. Our society is predicated on people being afraid and miserable. Feel sad: listen to sad music, watch hopeful movies, buy things to make yourself feel better. They have built an entire economy based on our collective misery.
Once you TRULY love yourself deep down, you free yourself from the thoughtless and (often) warped opinions of others and you allow yourself to be who you were born to be. You will refuse to allow ANYone to treat you less than you feel you deserve and you begin to radiate an energy that draws like people to you.
Good luck with that.
Thanks, Lex. Valid points all and as you can probably tell from today's events in another thread, I do exactly as what's in bold above.
Actually what I was thinking when I wrote that post were the people I know who have overcome physical as well as emotional obstacles. Things you and I take for granted everyday. I have a friend who has one leg that is three inches shorter than the other. She's suffered from a myriad of medical problems all directly related to her handicap and she's one of the happiest people I know. Her husband adores her and everyone, including me, lights up when we're around her because she's funny as hell and always looks on the bright side, even during the rough times. Makes me think twice when I feel like complaining about my bum knee when it hurts.
Viking, have you ever felt that it is OK to be sad and you should just feel sad and be OK with it untill you get it out of your system? Kind of just burn it all up completely.
I am very seldom ever happy. I range from okay with things for a few days and on occasion a week or two. To not okay with things (which is most of the time). To just plain unhappy (which is a lot of the time). To downright sad to the point of crying (happens often enough).