This is a new one for me, and I am curious on other peoples views.
Recently I have been seeing a new girl, roughly for about 4 weeks and honestly it was going pretty good. I was taking things slower and it was really settling nicely. Obviously in the dates I was the ideal gentleman, paying for dates, complimenting her, holding her chair out and everything. This is something I always expect.
The other day though she dropped a bombshell and I am wondering how many women share this view. I always thought that when a relationship was to start it became a bit more give and take... not just with money but everything. You want each other to feel special.
This girl told me she has been brought up with the principle that she should never have to do any organising or paying in a relationship. This is everything from say days out to the cinema, taxi rides, nights out and even holidays. I was always told that these days women were much more independent and proud of their achievements and would find it unrealistic for the man to do everything.
Needless to say I am suddenly wondering what to do about this girl. I like the idea of being a gentleman and paying for restaurants or days out but she is saying literally, everything and she would never change that view. It makes me feel that the relationship would become much more one-sided.
Is this a common notion in this modern day and age or has her mother brought her up to expect the man to do everything (she told me it was her mothers influence in this case). I feel a bit used and taken for granted, personally.
Recently I have been seeing a new girl, roughly for about 4 weeks and honestly it was going pretty good. I was taking things slower and it was really settling nicely. Obviously in the dates I was the ideal gentleman, paying for dates, complimenting her, holding her chair out and everything. This is something I always expect.
The other day though she dropped a bombshell and I am wondering how many women share this view. I always thought that when a relationship was to start it became a bit more give and take... not just with money but everything. You want each other to feel special.
This girl told me she has been brought up with the principle that she should never have to do any organising or paying in a relationship. This is everything from say days out to the cinema, taxi rides, nights out and even holidays. I was always told that these days women were much more independent and proud of their achievements and would find it unrealistic for the man to do everything.
Needless to say I am suddenly wondering what to do about this girl. I like the idea of being a gentleman and paying for restaurants or days out but she is saying literally, everything and she would never change that view. It makes me feel that the relationship would become much more one-sided.
Is this a common notion in this modern day and age or has her mother brought her up to expect the man to do everything (she told me it was her mothers influence in this case). I feel a bit used and taken for granted, personally.