days of old, prior to Women gaining there rightful place beside the manipulative male (some of us)
altho now i get mightly pissed off' when i courteously, for no nasty reason at all, let a lady go first, and she gives me the most filthy of looks.............. just a common courtesy thing, and she takes it the wrong way grrrrrrrrrrrrr
I never did understand getting pissy at a kind gesture! I will speak up if I see this happening.
the man. THE man. our first meal, i sneakily paid while he wasn't looking. he was less than happy. after that he would grab my wrist if i reached for my purse.
some guys like to take the lead.
i'm happy either way. it depends on the relationship. i don't expect or demand, i wouldn't accept it on a casual basis... but...
for the right guy, if it made him happier AND it was within his means to do so without suffering and hardship, i would.
aaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh............ms. dolfie---new love! i think relationships are give and take. relationships differ--age, gender, socioeconomics, and education--all play a part.
Just so were clear I do like to take the lead, and I think it is a nice gesture that reinforces why I would make a good partner (at least in one sense) but it is when the girl announces that she expects it and thinks she deserves it that it becomes a bit of a sour topic.
I'd rather do it for someone who appreciates and therefore would want to do something back than someone who expects it and doesn't think anything of it.
The "I deserve it or demands this" is crap!
You should never -expect- someone else to pay for things for you, regardless of gender. However, considering how difficult my financial situation has been the last couple of years, the people I dated knew that if we went out/did anything, I typically couldn't afford to pay. If it was something at home/cooking together, you bet your ass I helped out. I declined going out sometimes too, because I felt bad that I couldn't pay for my share. Those who did pay for everything on dates with me, it was because they could afford it. I certainly didn't demand it or expect it.
i'm unemployed at the moment, and, understand this. not enough cash flow.