Who ever ask the other person out should pay.
There is far more to this than that though. Initially I agree but it is always nice for the woman to offer or show some signs of gratitude, but further down the relationship some things should be shared.
ZyZ I agree. Me and my flatmate here said the same thing and also I am planning to give her the 'heave ho'. I was going to keep her around just to see steadily without gaining emotional attachment but after last night I think even that won't work - explained after.
I know I am not being taken for a ride - my days of falling for that due to being Mr. Nice Boy are over and I can sense it from a mile off. This girl just genuinely feels it is her right to expect it as a woman, a value brought about by her 19th century Mum.
Last night I couldn't sleep, nor could she. We ended up messaging again at 2am and I somehow ended up at hers (joys of living on same street I guess). We got down to it and it turns out that she is worse in the bedroom. She didn't do anything to me and made it very difficult to relax as she kept telling me what to do.
I've never had complaints in bed and this is the first time I have walked away feeling I disappointed someone. It just doesn't happen to me, especially with my hands but for her it just didn't work so she told me to work on my technique. She also mentioned her ex-bf also being 'bad' at first and she still refused to do anything to me even after she was done.
Funny thing is I didn't freak out because I expected it, I don't know which is worse. The act or the fact I knew it would happen.
Damn she isn't even a FB...