The Feminine/Masculine Mystique

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  1. Ethyl

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    After reading through threads on the subject of how many women here at LPSG are really men (and vice versa), many comments from others pertaining to the listing of one's gender (as well as sexual orientation) in their profile and experiencing the phenomenon we all know and love as Spladle, I find it interesting how important the subject of gender is to all of us in varying degrees. I can understand wanting to know if we're posting to a man or woman but it begs the question: Why is this so important to us?

    What would happen if we were not given the option of listing our gender in our profiles? While it might be a little frustrating for those who like to immediately categorize others, it's interesting (to me) to think about how our interaction with each other online would change (or not) if we did not list our gender in our profile. Aside from telling others outright, would our individual feminine and masculine qualities eventually surface through our posts? Is it a matter of defining "masculine" and "feminine" qualities or the distribution of percentages, or both?

    Questions, comments, protests?

    Note: Mods feel free to move this wherever you see fit.
     
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    Fist off I LOVE Ioan Gruffudd.

    To answer your question I'd like it better (save the enjoyment of looking at cock) if I didn't know the gender of any of the individuals here.
     
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    Wouldn't not knowing genders, confuse people based on their perspectives.
     
  4. Ethyl

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    That's where the fun begins.:tongue: Maybe I didn't illustrate my point very well. I've always been fascinated with Jung's concept of the Anima/Animus and wondered how certain individual characteristics are labeled as "masculine" or "feminine" . For instance, one might think of the word "soft" and label it feminine or the word "hard" and label it masculine, and so on. What exactly ARE masculine and feminine characteristics? Is it just another way to label each other or are there characteristics which are unique to men and women?
     
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    I do believe there are characteristics which are unique to men and women in a personality sense. But it's my sense it's largely socialization and the result of role assignment for millenia.

    I simply don't think of men and women differently until I'm told I have to.
     
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    I agree with you there. Does that mean posters would feel pressured to express themselves in a certain manner so that others can distinguish their gender? Or would it naturally surface with the discussion of sexual orientation?
     
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    You wouldn't be able to tell on here.

    Unless...

    Someone was saying 'so yeah...I fucked the shit out of her pussy with my huge cock, bitch was screamin aiyeee papi like a pro.'

    That's a male characteristic.

    A female might say 'he made my pussy go into spasms, it was so amazing'

    Even then, it could be a man pretending to be a woman or vice versa.

    Masculinity is usually dominance, sexual aggressiveness, competiton and a more phsyical persona (eg a lot of guys like to wrestle, like contact sports etc)

    Women are generally more timid, gentle creatures. Who would talk about the metaphysical and ponder the metaphysical whereas masculinity is all about the opposite really.

    Read up about it on wikipedia.
     
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    Thanks for the dismissive comment, but i'm aiming for a much deeper discussion than what one can get out of reading from an online encyclopedia:rolleyes:
     
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    What is your position on this issue Mercurialbliss???
    ( to you??)

    Would there be no change?or would there be a change??
    Can you elaborate?
     
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    I don't know if there would be a change and that was my point. I was asking what everyone else thought. Jeff Black said there would be confusion and I agree, at least initially. Men and women often adjust their tone or mannerisms when speaking to someone of the opposite sex in public. I feel there is similiar adjustment on the internet and this particular site as well because one of the first things we feel we must know about the other person is their gender, whether it's social conditioning or not.
     
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    Great topic, MB, sorry it's not getting as much attention as some others today. :rolleyes:

    I think gender is so important to (many of) us because it consciously and subconsiously structures the way we evaluate ourselves and others on fundamental levels. In my opinion, that's an unhealthy thing more often than it's healthy.

    I think removing the gender option in the profiles would cause discomfort for many of us. And I think that's by and large a good thing. No pain, no gain.:tongue: Seriously, I think it would help many of us develop as human beings.

    FYI - When the pink/blue poster thing began, several of us removed the gender in our profile at that moment.
     
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    Why are the colors considered necessary? Obviously if you post on this site, you can read at least a little. :confused:
     
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    In person, when I need help from strangers, I find that my voice softens, gets higher in pitch, and (as much as I am naturally a very smiley person) I smile even more. I'm trying to cut out that shit with the girly voice.

    On the internet... I use the tone I ordinarily use (except for when I'm trying to get help from strangers) in person. I use it with everyone. At least I think so.
     
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    Are you sure about that??? LOL!

    As for the colors, they were institued by the site owner.
     
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    For sue I do belong in the group of those who would be frustrated...i do like clear expresions from people, any people..and in the net we already lack the physical expressions and the looking in the eyes and etc...

    But anyways 'real' realtionships can start in the net but for sure will be really real in the real world outside the net..until them let experiment almost anything (that will not harm another person). And would play the ones who like the rules of the new game.
     
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    Same here, although I have to emphasize "I think so".
     
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    Interesting. I've spoken with two people I know from LPSG on the phone. One sounded exactly as I would have expected, and the other was somewhat of a surprise.
     
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    I thought about Big Poppa Fury's thread on what LPSG'ers are like IRL when I was kicking this around in my head. Sometimes I think the assumptions we make about others grow with more information, not less.

    I'm sure it's been suggested but i'd rather pick my own color:tongue:
     
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    No doubt. Unfortunately, the Mods can't do much about it; that one's in Rob's domain.
     
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    I'm Hickboy. I'm eat up with the masculine mystaque.

    I am going to get my thoughts straight and post a serious reply to your question. It's a good one. Important, even.

    ***edited because i made a mistique
     
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