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We've all had that fantasy. Well, many of us anyways. Having roommates where everyone is completely open, porn is playing on the TV 24/7, masturbating, and even fucking, right out in the open.

A few months ago I ended up seeing this guy on Scruff who was a hairdresser. No idea why, but I ended up asking him about giving me a haircut - he agreed and I went over to his place. He had an old house he had restored, and to make the mortgage payment had roommates. So yeah, the guy was a total horndog, there are picks or naked guys all over the refrigerator, his roommate is walking around in his underwear, and talk is refreshingly open and sexual. We never did hook up, but he gave me a tour of the place. Basically he created a mini-bathhouse. Upstairs was all pictures of naked guys (very artistic though). They had one shared huge bathroom - 4 shower heads, set up just like a bathhouse. He admitted he an his ex-partner used to host parties.

I keep thinking about building my own house, and know that to pull that off, I am going to need a roommate or two. I'm pushing the half century mark, and, thinking about what I really want. Is wanting something like that wrong? There is a big part of me that does, and yet there is also a part of me that feels a) guilty, b) like it is a pip dream, and c) worried that I will end up in an awkward situation with guests and/or at resale time.

What are your thoughts on such a living situation?
 
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Nothing wrong about it. Everyone should be there for the same thing and be very happy.

At resale time, you would just get the bathroom put back to normal and take the photos down
 
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Sometimes what is a fantasy is not so practical in reality.

eg would you be comfortable bringing family home to visit, if you met someone special would they get the wrong idea about you, share households mean compromising what you want with what everyone wants, how will your neighbors react to a gay frat house next door etc.

One good way to tell how you really feel is soon after you've cum. Sometimes being horny makes bad ideas sound good.
 

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i think that is a great idea, not only for the readily available sex but also on a purely financial level. the frat house scenario is not what you are proposing i hope! at the half century mark the party is starting to recede in the rearview mirror quickly but the need for sex at anytime with anyone is still strong, or at least for me!
If you were closer i would entertain the idea.
 

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We've all had that fantasy. Well, many of us anyways. Having roommates where everyone is completely open, porn is playing on the TV 24/7, masturbating, and even fucking, right out in the open.

Ugh. Not me. Even on the face, the idea of such an environment sounds revolting and extremely uncomfortable.

Is wanting something like that wrong?

I think so.

But I wonder what the purpose in your asking is? My simply stating my view on a matter of morality isn't going to do much for you. Figuring out what is right and wrong is something we each do for ourselves.

What about it would make you think it is "wrong"? And what does it mean for it to be such?

There is a big part of me that does, and yet there is also a part of me that feels a) guilty, b) like it is a pip dream, and c) worried that I will end up in an awkward situation with guests and/or at resale time.

Why guilty?

Practicalities are certainly worth considering. A typical bathhouse is a business; there are transactions that occur between the customers and the vendor. There are contractual aspects to the dynamic that are more complicated than with a small, free sex party. You would have to be prepared to consider these complexities and take responsibility for what goes on at your place. If you kept it non-transactional, that would simplify things a bit, but there would still be a number of ethical and legal issues to stay on top of (for example, taking responsibility for ensuring all interactions remain consensual).

What are your thoughts on such a living situation?

My main thought is that I strive to live a balanced life, and I feel like being constantly confronted with carnality would be a major distraction and get in the way of other endeavors.

It would take a very specific type of temperament to thrive in such a situation.
 

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I've fantasized about a gay men only tropical island or town where everything is catered only to gay men. It would never happen of course.
 
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What about it would make you think it is "wrong"? And what does it mean for it to be such?



Why guilty?

Practicalities are certainly worth considering. A typical bathhouse is a business; there are transactions that occur between the customers and the vendor. There are contractual aspects to the dynamic that are more complicated than with a small, free sex party. You would have to be prepared to consider these complexities and take responsibility for what goes on at your place. If you kept it non-transactional, that would simplify things a bit, but there would still be a number of ethical and legal issues to stay on top of (for example, taking responsibility for ensuring all interactions remain consensual).

Those are some very good questions - why DO I feel guilty or "wrong" about the situation? I guess it really is an attitude adjustment more than anything, about what constitutes a proper living situation.

Personally I am not envisioning a "transactional" setting for myself. I guess maybe it is building place that is comfortable for my sensibilities and lifestyle and a place where I can feel open, and also feel that other people can be open, too.
 

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I think that asking yourself how you feel about the idea a little while after you cum is a great idea. See if you are still interested in such a setup then. Also, if you have not had roommates for a long time, give some serious thought to whether you can live with other people. Do what you want and what pleases you, but don’t think solely with your dick!
 

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I knew a guy that had a play room set up in the basement (with fuck benches, a bed, a bar a huge tv for porn and large bathroom). It had a separate entrance and he would host groups every weekend. It was a lot of fun and separated from the rest of the house so security was less of an issue.
 
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