PartitiveHiss
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I really hate the fact that this is constantly referred to as a lisp. It's not a fucking lisp for god's sake. Sibilance is not the same as lisping. Moreover, it is also about given emphasis upon words and intonation that bears no relation to lisping either.
Now, when it comes to this particular way of speaking, for some I do believe it is purposeful. It is camping it up, and we can all do it. But it's not true that all those with so called feminine traits in their voice do it on purpose.
As for myself, for all my life, I was deemed gay simply by my mannerisms and my speech. This is not to say that I am overly ostentatious or extravagant. I am not. But the so called femininity that is traceable in me was never done on purpose. Never was I willingly 'feminine'. It is just the way I am or was. How do I feel about it? I hate it. Hate it with such a passion I cannot express. I have tried so hard to analyse it, to get rid of it, but I just can't seem to. No matter how many times I record myself and listen to it, I can always trace it in me, and it is always this sibilance that I just can't seem to get rid of.
What is the nature of my hate of it? It's about self-hate. It's about learning from society generally that gay people are hated and taking it on board, internalising it. I hate it in myself precisely because it 'sounds gay'. I also hate it in other men for the same reason and because I hate it in myself.
Now, when it comes to this particular way of speaking, for some I do believe it is purposeful. It is camping it up, and we can all do it. But it's not true that all those with so called feminine traits in their voice do it on purpose.
As for myself, for all my life, I was deemed gay simply by my mannerisms and my speech. This is not to say that I am overly ostentatious or extravagant. I am not. But the so called femininity that is traceable in me was never done on purpose. Never was I willingly 'feminine'. It is just the way I am or was. How do I feel about it? I hate it. Hate it with such a passion I cannot express. I have tried so hard to analyse it, to get rid of it, but I just can't seem to. No matter how many times I record myself and listen to it, I can always trace it in me, and it is always this sibilance that I just can't seem to get rid of.
What is the nature of my hate of it? It's about self-hate. It's about learning from society generally that gay people are hated and taking it on board, internalising it. I hate it in myself precisely because it 'sounds gay'. I also hate it in other men for the same reason and because I hate it in myself.