The guy next door.

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  1. viking

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    Wow, I know I'm bold but I asked my neighbor if he wanted to hang out and masterbate.

    I'm married and bi-sexual and usually keep it to myself. My neighbor Tom and I have become good buddies and like to talk about sex, porn, jerking off and such. Well, Tom's got a big old package and most of the time you can see the outline of his big mushroom head in his pants.

    So I figure, we're both hung, like porn, like to jerk off a lot. We should do it together "it'll be fun and erotic too." Well, he aparently wasn't thinking the same thing.

    He said no but did say he admired my frankness. It didn't hurt our friendship after he got over the shock but it made me feel a bit embarrased. I mean, I know I'm a horndog but I sometimes assume that others are too.

    Has anyone else had an experience like that?
    Has it worked, backfired, made things different between you??

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    Your neighbor is a cool guy, ebviking. His saying he admired your frankness attests to this fact. You made your offer, he took no objections to it, and it seems your friendship won't suffer. Life goes on and, who knows, after some time he might give it more thought and then feel free to make an offer. Have you thought of having a few drinks with your neighbor? Let us know how your relationship progresses.
     
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    So it's been 6 months since I propositioned my neighbor Tom.
    Like I said before, he graciously turned me down.

    Last night, he came over and we headed out back to the hot tub with a couple of beers in hand.
    I finally got to see him naked and I was right. He's got a big fat dick and some nice nuts too.

    I know he doesn't want to mess around but, damn I sure do.

    I just kept thinking about seeing him jerking that big fat bone.

    Does anyone else have issues with separating friendship from intimacy.
    I find that I really want intimacy with my close friends.
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    yeah, that's the main reason I learned not to have close friends :mellow:
     
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    Aw, c'mon Rock.
    Friends are worth having, even if they won't let you have your way with them! :evilgrin:
     
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    Sure, ebviking, I think being 'close' includes knowing what the friend packs and some amount of sexual play. Could you tell if he looked at your equipment as you looked at his? I'm glad you were cool to patiently wait 6 months and finally got to see his big fat dick. The vast majority of hung guys do have lots of interest in size, hence dicks on other guys, too. Did either of you get semis or hardons in the hot tub? Keep us informed re. advancements in this enticing encounter. Congrats, man :excl:

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    Cool post, I understand the intimacy with people you are close to. I have had a few gay friends and just a couple straight friends over the years that had an aspect of physical closeness. One of my straight friends always kisses me hello/goodbye. It is so uneffected and sweet. Right on the lips. It never stirs anything in me...but just a nice contact you know. I have also have a straight buddy that is emotionally intimate in that we talk of really sexual things...along with lots of other topics. We are totally comfortable naked in a hot tub and it stops there. It is never physical but somewhat boosting to the male ego we both have. I'd love to treat him to a night of fun and if he needed it, he would say lets go. Oh, and Viking, if I lived next door, you and I would still be friends after you asked...but you might have a new sense of relief after that hot tub scene
     
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    Aw, c'mon Rock.
    Friends are worth having, even if they won't let you have your way with them! :evilgrin:
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    I said CLOSE friends :p
     
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    Aw, c'mon Rock.
    Friends are worth having, even if they won't let you have your way with them! :evilgrin:
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    If close means you can't have your way with them, I'd rather keep them at a distance!

    Hey Dr. Rock, I'm waaaay over here, can I be your "friend"? :evilgrin:
     
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    Sure, ebviking, I think being 'close' includes knowing what the friend packs and some amount of sexual play. Could you tell if he looked at your equipment as you looked at his? I'm glad you were cool to patiently wait 6 months and finally got to see his big fat dick. The vast majority of hung guys do have lots of interest in size, hence dicks on other guys, too. Did either of you get semis or hardons in the hot tub? Keep us informed re. advancements in this enticing encounter. Congrats, man :excl:

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    Yea, he checked me out a couple of times. We were in and out of the tub getting beers from the fridge etc.. Plenty of time to compare goods.

    No boners were produced RT. sorry to report.
     
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    So ebviking - is your wife cool w/all this...From reading some of your posts it seems that you guys are pretty open w/each other...Pretty much all my friends are self-proclaimed "straight" guys...But I have mentioned this before I have been hit on in subtle ways by some of my straight friends and a lot of time I try to avoid the situation...Guess I am not as comfortable as them right now with the so called closeness...It is funny because when I feel like some one is pushing up to me - I really avoid eye contact or say I need to make a phone call...Now I know how chicks feel when they are not interested which is funny...
     
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    I was waiting for this one.

    Some of you know, some don't.
    My wife is very ill. She has severe Lupus and spends a great deal of her time in pain.
    I am her caregiver and best friend. Our sex life has been severely limited.
    She knows I've been with guys before (everyone that knows me knows).

    What I do to get off, she doesn't want to know.
    My situation is not usual and I am almost always in the service of my wife's illness.
    What I do sexually is a time for me to focus on myself and have a little moment of escape.
    Truthfully, it usually involves me getting a blowjob from some friendly chap here in SF.

    I get attention, admiration and a little relief and i go on my way.
    It's not for everyone and it's not particularly fair, but it helps me cope.

    I can't imagine doing the same thing with another woman.
    It's a steriotype but it seems easier to avoid emotional entanglement with men.

    Wham Bam thanks buddy.

    It feels great to have a cute, sexy guy say " I'll take care of you whenever you need it Stud!"
    It's not something I get to hear very often.
     
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    Okay I think I have seen you mention that before...Definitely familar w/the lupus thing...I have a female cousin that actually has lupus too...Totally can kind of understand where you are coming from now...
     
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    What is it about the closeness that makes you uncomfortable?
    Are you interested but nervous?
    Affraid you'll be wrong about their intentions?
    Or-
    are you truly not into physical intimacy with guys?

    Either way, it's probably helpful to think about why it makes you uncomfortable because I'm sure that your friend is not trying to make you feel that way.
     
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    Hmm...Not really nervous about physical intimacy w/guys...Like I said I have done that before in the past...I am more concerned w/intimacy w/a good friend...Lets face it - sex can complicate relationships and friendships...I think I am in a point in my life where I can put friendships above my selfiness...

    I had a friend that happened w/on a drunken night about 2yrs ago...I was alright afterwards but he felt really guilty and kind of started this whole religious thing afterwards and didn't want to discuss it and dismiss it as we were just really drunk...The guy actually moved to another state soon after that w/o really telling anyone...I can't but think that had to do w/our one encounter...He did seem to have some emotional issues too...

    Plus I only get really comfortable emotionally and physically w/females...And I am really close w/my male friends - just not sexually...We travel together and we commonly sleep in the same bed - with nothing sexual crossing our minds (I think)...My friends are "straight" and all are married or in long term relationships and I like to look at the whole picture and not just me...But some have been curious in the past and now and we have discussed it and we are comfortable w/that...

    That being said...Have I thought about it - I have to be honest and say yes...Like I said I have been into a lot of situations lately that I could act on but choose not to...But I don't fixate on it too long...There are way too many people I can have sex with than a friend...
     
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    It sounded like a qualified yes to me. That's exactly what I would have said if I had casually mentioned all the stuff you two discussed. The proposition was probably a bit too abrupt. The drink idea seems to get you and your friends a bit closer to your true feelings and wishes, so that's what I would suggest. If I move next door to you, remember to offer the drink first and after the third 28 ounce margarita you can probably get a more positive answer than thanks for your frankness if you can decipher gibberish from a semi-conscious drunk.
     
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