The "how big" question

[ExtraSausage]

So in the course of my time on the internet - from skype to chatroulette to LPSG - I have been asked one question more times than I could ever hope to count.

"How big?"

It did always irk me a little. As time wares on I find this question more irritating. Oftentimes I find myself answering "big," or "big enough," or something equally vague and catty. I don't have the biggest dick in the world, but it's pretty rare that I find someone who can truly handle getting fucked without having me slow down or take it easy on them.

I wouldn't quite consider myself a size queen, but I love me a big fat dick. I get it. But in my case, I don't think I've ever been compelled to quiz anybody on their measurements. If someone has a nice big dick, I just enjoy it for what I see (or feel, if I'm lucky).

So I'm putting this out there to get some opinions and reactions. Are there other guys who are tired of hearing this question? Are there other admirers who are happy just knowing that a dick is big and pretty? If you are someone who is fixated on measurements, what is it about knowing the numbers that is important you?

Bonus questions: Am I being a sanctimonious douche for having this jaded attitude towards a simple question? Am I being a hypocritical douche for knowing and occasionally remeasuring my own dick? Take your time with your answers - despite my irritable tone I am genuinely curious.


***

And just to beat some of you smarmy bastards to the punch, my dick is about 8" x 6.5" (maybe 8.5 if I pop a viagra). Furthermore, I don't embellish the size of my dick, and I measure it like a reasonable human being. People already have outrageous expectations when it comes to dick. It's odd that those of us in the top 1% still feel like we need to exaggerate.

 

[BWPHOENIX]

Unfortunately we live in a world where numbers are what (unfortunately) define us. Especially men.

How much $$$ do you make?

How big is your house?

How many beers can you drink?

How much can you bench?

How fast is your car?

How much was that watch?

How many people have you slept with?

Etc,etc, etc.

Whenever I get asked that by a woman I take it as a compliment and answer their question. It’s obviously when they asked you that they’re impressed, so just enjoy the ego boast.

 

[latinabella]

 

[TuckMeUnder]

I tend to reply "Less than 9" because it's vague but still answers the question, and it playfully invites them to interpret it however they prefer.

Responses are typically positive: either they readily agree upon seeing it, or they'll disagree but do so happily. ("That's gotta' more than 9 inches!") It seems to please both types, the ones who want accurate stats and the ones who want fantasy figures.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

It never bothers me, but I do have a bit of a fetish for measuring things, and discussion of size is a sort of natural offshoot to that.

So yeah, to me your for-shit attitude makes you a total douche.

Just kidding: we don't....or shouldn't....need to justify, or apologize for, how something makes us feel. Is there a reason for your irritation beyond the fact that it is repetitive? Anything else about an inquiry into your personal physical stuff that's vexing?

 

[Cum_is_Great]

I can understand getting irritated when asked the same question repeatedly. I assume very tall people get tired of being asked "How tall are you?" Though, getting a short response of "very" would be a bit grating to what seems to the one asking, as a very innocent question.

Honestly, I ask of size because I'm interested. I also like to see if I'm good at estimating size. When a dick gets to a certain size of big it's no longer just a big dick. It's huge, unique and I like to know more. "Just how long and thick is it?" I wonder to myself. It's very fascinating to me. Though I do understand I don't have any right in asking about someone, especially something so personal. I usually ask hoping the guy tells the truth and shows that huge dicks aren't all these fake 11inch measurements guys keep throwing out. 8 x 6.5, that's a huge dick, thick as hell and quite the rarity. So if I saw you on a cam site, I'd ask seeing if I could guess the measurement. (I guessed you at 8 x 6 by the way, I was close!)

Just a few thoughts thrown out there.

 

[lksbigone]

So in the course of my time on the internet - from skype to chatroulette to LPSG - I have been asked one question more times than I could ever hope to count.

"How big?"

It did always irk me a little. As time wares on I find this question more irritating. Oftentimes I find myself answering "big," or "big enough," or something equally vague and catty. I don't have the biggest dick in the world, but it's pretty rare that I find someone who can truly handle getting fucked without having me slow down or take it easy on them.

I wouldn't quite consider myself a size queen, but I love me a big fat dick. I get it. But in my case, I don't think I've ever been compelled to quiz anybody on their measurements. If someone has a nice big dick, I just enjoy it for what I see (or feel, if I'm lucky).

So I'm putting this out there to get some opinions and reactions. Are there other guys who are tired of hearing this question? Are there other admirers who are happy just knowing that a dick is big and pretty? If you are someone who is fixated on measurements, what is it about knowing the numbers that is important you?

Bonus questions: Am I being a sanctimonious douche for having this jaded attitude towards a simple question? Am I being a hypocritical douche for knowing and occasionally remeasuring my own dick? Take your time with your answers - despite my irritable tone I am genuinely curious.


***

And just to beat some of you smarmy bastards to the punch, my dick is about 8" x 6.5" (maybe 8.5 if I pop a viagra). Furthermore, I don't embellish the size of my dick, and I measure it like a reasonable human being. People already have outrageous expectations when it comes to dick. It's odd that those of us in the top 1% still feel like we need to exaggerate.

Ever want to answer, "you'll have to judge for yourself if you're really interested in me but if you're just interested in my dick, you should just move along!"?

 

[ExtraSausage]

It never bothers me, but I do have a bit of a fetish for measuring things, and discussion of size is a sort of natural offshoot to that.

So yeah, to me your for-shit attitude makes you a total douche.

Just kidding: we don't....or shouldn't....need to justify, or apologize for, how something makes us feel. Is there a reason for your irritation beyond the fact that it is repetitive? Anything else about an inquiry into your personal physical stuff that's vexing?

I'm not entirely sure. Maybe I find it more enticing when I speak with someone who is excited by the size, but kinda plays it cool and doesn't care enough to press for measurements. Perhaps there's also an insecurity that comes with the question for me. I love to show off but maybe I resent the idea that my draw could be completely reduced to the size of my dick. It is of course silly that I would resent a question about something I choose to make a point of focus - like a bodybuilder getting offended that someone would ask how big their biceps are. Perhaps I need to loosen up.

First world problems...

 

[Scott8361]

I will always ask the question... If I am seeing images or a webcam it is hard to tell how big it really is. One that is really thick may look shorter in a picture until you know the real numbers to put it into context.

I've had people think mine is really big, like 8" long, because of my slender girth. The see the look of length in a picture and assume it is long, when in reality, it is just a slender 6 inches.

I ask because, once I know the numbers, I can sense how big it really is compared to my own. And knowing it is a genuine big dick will turn me on all the more!

Sorry if it bugs any of you well hung guys, but appreciate the fact you can throw out the big numbers when asked. In my world I am often correcting people that it "is only 6x4.5 inches" and not the big one they sometimes initially assume.

 

[BWPHOENIX]

One that is really thick may look shorter in a picture until you know the real numbers to put it into context.

That’s what my issue is. When I look at myself I don’t really think I look big. From what I’ve been told I’m pretty thick, so my girth, at least from my POV, makes it look smaller. It’s not until I hold it next to something or measure it that I get a true representation of it.

And I don’t know why, but also based on what sexual position I’m in, the size looks like it varies as well. It’s really weird.

 

[1015610]

i understand that when someone is looking at your dick and asks you how big it is, you feel like shouting "THIS BIG! its right here!"

but...

the thing is that pictures/videos even can be misleading and make dicks are just average look massive and so ppl are to some extent just trying to tally what they see with what they empirically know..

Ppl are obsessed with stats tho, plus they love the fantasy of it being stupidly big. Like the ppl on here who say my dick must be 9" long whilst commenting on a picture of me measuring it (its not 9") !

 

[zekemasters17]

Sometimes it does irk me, to be honest, but at this point in my life, I'm just happy to have interest shown. So, I give the general answer of slightly above average (which, it is...6.5 x 4.75, and being a bit overweight doesn't help, but I'm working on that), and let it go from there. If they want more information, they'll have to find out themselves. I'm not so forth-coming anymore, since I've been burnt in a couple of situations, but it just depends.

 

[Geoffrey2_0]

I only really get tired if its the first thing someone says--Hi, how big are you?--it makes you feel that they see you as a cock with a person attached instead of the other way around . . . I generally ignore those people anyway . . .

 

[ExtraSausage]

I only really get tired if its the first thing someone says--Hi, how big are you?--it makes you feel that they see you as a cock with a person attached instead of the other way around . . . I generally ignore those people anyway . . .

I'd say this is the case about 80% of the time. This brings up another good point though. If somebody takes a little time to build a rapport then I tend to be nicer, more engaged, and much more generous with such details. Perhaps it's not that so many people ask the question, but that so many people lead with that. It's tactless and boring.

 

[zekemasters17]

Agreed @ExtraSausage and @Geoffrey2_0.

 

[Shepardson]

From the many years of watching this stuff, I'd say there's not much point to asking that. Everybody exaggerates to some degree (sometimes insultingly so), and even if not trying to, they're probably not going to give you the distance that it sticks straight out off their body (and you'd be sort of a jerk for specifying that), so it kind of puts everyone on a different playing field. One guy's 8 inches "laying on his back and measuring the underside of his dick" is another guy's 7.5 inch "sitting on the toilet with his legs spread out and his dick pushed down to the floor", and both their dicks might stick out off their body when standing by the same 6.5 inches.

If it's a relatively honest guy who has common sense about how length is measured, you're kind of putting him on the spot by asking him to "keep up with the Joneses" and give you a commonly accepted number in the range that all the guys his size say they are, or to make himself look bad and give you his actual size which is likely to be less impressive, even when the guy has a big ass dick.

TLDR- 1) It's a somewhat rude thing to ask someone. 2) Numbers don't mean squat at this point, and it would suffice to simply say small,average, or above average/big. If you answer "huge", you're probably a dick even if it is.

 

[905339]

I like to ask "how big" because pictures online or webcams can be deceiving. For example, I've been asked "how big" and I respond with 6in (because that's what I am) and I get responses saying "no way that's easily over 7in." Sometimes it's hard to tell with just 2 or 3 pictures without seeing it in person or measuring it

 

[rayray]

Maybe, just maybe you are spending to much time on Skype, Chateroulette and LPSG if you are tired of people asking how big your cock is . After all they're all sex sites . What if the first question out of your fellow Skyper was... Nice hands, how big are they? You're going to think to yourself, well what the hell? What about my cock . Lol . You said you like to show off, so why get irritated by being asked how big that monster is .? And yes in that setting such as camming they're usually not trying to get to know you . As for being hypocritical about remeasuring yourself? No I don't think so .

 

[hypolimnas]

I don't say anything specific. Lots of guys think they want a massive cock in them but then have trouble taking it all. So I'm very focused on finding out what they have to offer, I'm more interested in checking out their hole with my fingers to see what they have to offer.

 

[ExtraSausage]

Maybe, just maybe you are spending to much time on Skype, Chateroulette and LPSG if you are tired of people asking how big your cock is . After all they're all sex sites . What if the first question out of your fellow Skyper was... Nice hands, how big are they? You're going to think to yourself, well what the hell? What about my cock . Lol . You said you like to show off, so why get irritated by being asked how big that monster is .? And yes in that setting such as camming they're usually not trying to get to know you . As for being hypocritical about remeasuring yourself? No I don't think so .

Maybe, just maybe you are spending to much time on Skype, Chateroulette and LPSG if you are tired of people asking how big your cock is . After all they're all sex sites . What if the first question out of your fellow Skyper was... Nice hands, how big are they? You're going to think to yourself, well what the hell? What about my cock . Lol . You said you like to show off, so why get irritated by being asked how big that monster is .? And yes in that setting such as camming they're usually not trying to get to know you . As for being hypocritical about remeasuring yourself? No I don't think so .

I don’t spend a ton of time camming these days, but you have a point. Nonetheless, I think it makes a little more sense to lead with something like “how are you?”

I mean, you could argue that Grindr is focused on sex and hooking up but the same thing applies there - if somebody leads with “how big” I’d probably assume they’re not worth my time. I find that people who are interesting, fun to be around, and/or sexually engaging have a touch of class even while being direct.