The Dragon
Sexy Member
Maybe it's too far past my bedtime, but I don't understand what half these posts are saying :/
You aren't the only one, sweetheart!
I've decided it's best to put him on ignore and not ague the point with him.
Maybe it's too far past my bedtime, but I don't understand what half these posts are saying :/
I see nothing at all wrong with seeing the sex I give a man as a gift.
A gift is something that I give selflessly and of my own volition.
Sharing my body and my skill is something personal that I give to him that speaks of my desire, my passion and my willingness to pleasure him.
Whether you know it or not, you're unconsciously using it as a reward to influence your partner. Take for example the topic earlier in the thread of women keeping sex from their partners when they were mad at them. They might not be consciously refusing them sex to make them behave better, but they are definitely doing it unconsciously.The fact that women use it to manipulate their men or to make it some kind of 'reward'..this disgusts me also.
I like to tease my bf by saying things like 'maybe I'll reward you later' or things like that...but it's only just really indicating that I want to fuck him pretty bad and getting him to start thinking about it already lol.
Whether you know it or not, you're unconsciously using it as a reward to influence your partner. Take for example the topic earlier in the thread of women keeping sex from their partners when they were mad at them. They might not be consciously refusing them sex to make them behave better, but they are definitely doing it unconsciously.
Just think about it logically.
Man likes sex with woman
Woman likes sex with man
Man makes woman mad by exhibiting behavior she does not like
Woman refuses sex because she's mad
Man decides "better not do that again or no sex"
You may not be doing it consciously but by refusing sex you're denying him a very powerful stimuli. Not saying women should give up sex whenever a man wants, but you definitely are influencing behavior by limiting his access to it. Often time punishment like that influences bad behavior, but that's an entirely different topic.
But what do you expect people to do? I won't have sex with somene if they have pissed me off. I'm just not in the mood, I'm not trying to score points back.
Well, punishment like that stops behavior. Whether you meant to or not doesn't really matter. The choice to modify behavior may have been his, but he was lead by you to make that decision when you limited access to something he enjoys. The last part of that sentence didn't really have anything to do with with what I said so I have no response.But what do you expect people to do? I won't have sex with somene if they have pissed me off. I'm just not in the mood, I'm not trying to score points back. The choice to modify the behaviour is the other person's and I would suggest that if they keep pissing you off, you are in the wrong relationship anyway.
Well, punishment like that stops behavior. Whether you meant to or not doesn't really matter. The choice to modify behavior may have been his, but he was lead by you to make that decision when you limited access to something he enjoys. The last part of that sentence didn't really have anything to do with with what I said so I have no response.
Whether you know it or not, you're unconsciously using it as a reward to influence your partner. Take for example the topic earlier in the thread of women keeping sex from their partners when they were mad at them. They might not be consciously refusing them sex to make them behave better, but they are definitely doing it unconsciously.
Just think about it logically.
Man likes sex with woman
Woman likes sex with man
Man makes woman mad by exhibiting behavior she does not like
Woman refuses sex because she's mad
Man decides "better not do that again or no sex"
You may not be doing it consciously but by refusing sex you're denying him a very powerful stimuli. Not saying women should give up sex whenever a man wants, but you definitely are influencing behavior by limiting his access to it. Often time punishment like that influences bad behavior, but that's an entirely different topic.
No, this is how behaviorists look at things.Of course this is how a guy looks at things...
Look at this this way... if you don't feel like drinking a glass of milk because you drank a glass earlier in the day and it made you feel sick, will you then drink it? Probably not. You are not trying to punish the milk by not drinking it, you simply do not feel in the mood for drinking milk at that time.
I'll refer you back to my original post when I saidThat's ridiculous. What is person suppose to do? Fuck when he/she doesn't want to? Look, if a side effect of pissing me off is that we don't have sex then so be it - I don't get laid either. If we make up and everything is cool (regardless of whether I was right he was right or a little of both) we're probably going to fuck. If there is still an issue then we probably aren't going to fuck - that's not completely up to me. He may not feel like sex either. Or I may feel like it and he won't.
What neither of us is going to do is require the other to have sex when the other doesn't feel like it.
No, this is how behaviorists look at things.
Your analogy here is a really bad one. Mostly because your analogy deals with a person and an inanimate object. The topic is dealing with a person and a person. Unless you're saying men are inanimate objects.
Anyway, you don't seem to be understanding what I'm saying so I'll be blunt
YOUR INTENTIONS DON'T MATTER
Keeping someone from something they enjoy is a punishment
REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU MEANT IT AS ONE OR NOT
I'll refer you back to my original post when I said
"Not saying women should give up sex whenever a man wants, but you definitely are influencing behavior by limiting his access to it."
It basically asses all of your ranting
That's ridiculous. What is person suppose to do? Fuck when he/she doesn't want to? Look, if a side effect of pissing me off is that we don't have sex then so be it - I don't get laid either.
No, it isnt. Not even close to the same concept. A glass of milk doesn't naturally behave in the same way a person or any animal does. Obviously.It's the same god damn concept..I just dumbed it down for you.
Did your friend really want to talk to you? What if your friend really needed someone to talk to and you turn her down because you dont bloody feel like it.For fucks sake, it's not punishment if you don't personally want to do something. Same thing as if I don't feel like talking to a friend on the phone, I'm not punishing them...I just don't bloody feel like it!
And no, I've already addressed this multiple times, in fact, it was in my original post. You don't have to fuck a man whenever he wants to fuck. I'm just saying when you do that it influences his behavior. That's all I've been saying for the entire conversation. I'm not on some male agenda to make women submissive out of fear that they'll change someone for the worse.Does this mean that all women must fuck every guy that wants to fuck them...apparently how we feel about things doesn't matter..it's all about pleasing the guy, right? Grow up.
Yes it is. Obviously I'm just stating how any normal person thinks and reacts to things. If I'm upset (like most people) we don't do things intentionally to make the other person suffer, we act on our feelings.No, it isnt. Not even close to the same concept. A glass of milk doesn't naturally behave in the same way a person or any animal does. Obviously.
dumb was a good word for it though.
How am I supposed to know if something is wrong? Dude it's not punishment if you just don't feel like doing something. You're getting off topic. What is wrong with you?Did your friend really want to talk to you? What if your friend really needed someone to talk to and you turn her down because you dont bloody feel like it.
sounds like a punishment to me
Grow some balls.And no, I've already addressed this multiple times, in fact, it was in my original post. You don't have to fuck a man whenever he wants to fuck. I'm just saying when you do that it influences his behavior. That's all I've been saying for the entire conversation. I'm not on some male agenda to make women submissive out of fear that they'll change someone for the worse.