The "I'm into you" look gay guys have

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  1. D_BarryBunwarmer

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    I've seen this on TV and I guess it happens in real life too. You know where you're out in public and you'll see a hot guy and you'll be checking him out and he'll see you and your eyes will lock and he'll give you a nod and then go into the nearest restroom and you follow and then fuck?

    You know what I'm saying right?

    I'm really bad at this. I'll be looking at a guy I find attractive and if he looks back at me I immediately look away so he doesn't think I've been staring at him. I always assume that he'll be offended and be like "what the fuck you looking at faggot?"

    Is this just me? Does anybody continue to look at a guy if they look back at you? Or does this just happen on TV/porn?
     
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    I'm really forward and confident so if there's a little bit of intense eye contact I'm liable to make a move on the guy. Sometimes I've picked up the wrong signals over the years but not often. Mind you I'm not a fan of the whole eye contact but no chat thing, and I don't fuck in toilets.
     
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    I do. But here's what I don't do is duck into the nearest restroom as a follow-up. I actually talk to the guy. :rolleyes:
     
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    I do it all the time. If he's not interested he'll look away and if he keeps looking !!!!!!!!!
     
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    I don't mean always go from looking to fucking.

    But yea, I have a problem making eye contact with a guy if I'm not sure if he's gay or not. I have a fear of getting beat up or killed
     
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    Unconciously, I do the exact same thing and for the same reason. Plus, as mentioned in the other thread, I have absolutely 0 gaydar :frown1:
     
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    i'm actually the exact same way but I CAN tell you this, when I make up in my mind to hold eye contact I've always had positive results which is good considering I've got the gaydar of a Jewish mother.(haha totally not offensive just an allusion to the new movie 'Oh Vey, My Son is Gay')

    also, as an actor, I do a lot of people-watching, and I can tell you, generally when a person holds eye contact they come of as confident, and can be in control of the situation. So i say, as hard as it is, just find the courage to hold it every now and then!
     
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    These days, gay bashings don't seem to go that way. Based on the experiences of me, my friends, and friends of friends: You stare at some guy on the bus or in a bar or shopping mall and NOTHING HAPPENS, but you walk down the street minding your own business and some dumb fuck who is drunk or on drugs, and a total closet case, merely perceives you as gay and rushes over and beats the shit out of you for no reason for being in the wrong place at the wrong time, and when you least expect it and couldn't have predicted it.....
     
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    I'm not gay and I really wouldn't go for a hook up on a street, but I always wonder if a guy stares at me "that way" and I always look away. Because he could not be that way, forcing me to look away so he doesnt get the wrong idea..... or in the case HE DOES make that look, I look away to show I'm not interested, but so far there was no sure case anyone gave me that look...
     
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    This thread is funny but true! I guess if you catch one and other looking at each other and then look away, just look back and if you catch each other's eye again a nod or a smile will be enough to show you are personable... if he smiles back then up the courage and do what ever comes naturally to you. However, if he looks as if he's up for a fight... run like hell but like a man and try not to scream ;-) Saying all this, I tend to look away but as I have become older my courage to look again, smile, nod etc has meant that there are far more guys liking guys out there than people think ;-) Have fun and enjoy life but step away from the freaks!
     
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    It's called cruising, but in reality all you are doing is overtly staring at someone. It is uncomfortable as it is not a culturally/socially accepted behavior (staring, that is).

    And I also think that after you make eye contact, you can (if it continues or if he looks back) smile and then perhaps speak or say hello. Works for me.
     
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