The Infamous Double Standard

[Tattooed Goddess]

Throughout history men have been allowed and even encouraged to have more than 1 female sexual partner. When a woman does the same she is treated differently. A man can have a harem of fuck buddies but if a woman does she gets asked by so many men "How many people are you fucking?" I remind them it's none of their business and I dont ask what they do with who when I'm not around. I got asked twice today how many men I'm bedding. I'd never dream of asking someone that.

The whole lock being opened with many keys being a bad lock philosophy is bullshit. I had a man tell me that no guy wants to fuck or eat another man's load. I reminded him that the dudes always want their cock sucked when many of them have had their raw dick in a woman's ass.

A true women's issue. Let's talk about it shall we?

 

[Enid]

That whole lock/key metaphor is sexist garbage!! There's a difference between an object and our genitals. You could say, a pencil sharpener can sharpen all the pencils but a pencil only gets sharpened so much before becoming useless, but do we say that about penises?? NO. Because we recognize the faulty, sexist logic behind these analogies. It's slut shaming at the ugly core, and I hate it.

I also loathe the "hotdog down a hallway" phrasing to describe a woman who has lots of sex. Really, guys?

It's all fucked up nonsense meant to reinforce notions that men are “naturally” more sex driven and women should remain pure, virginal, etc. Bullshit patriarchy.

I'm an angry drunk tonight.

 

[693987]

I've run into this some, back when I had a few FWBs. The men who got shitty about my having fun? They were the ones who had zero chance of ever getting in my bed even before they were rude about that particular topic. None of the people I was actually fucking had any problem. I didn't ask how many other people my FWBs were involved with, except for a single exception. I knew I wasn't the only one they saw and vice versa, which was as much as they needed to know for adhering to safe sex practices and sharing my company.

The exception was my sweetie. We started out as friends, then FWB so I knew beforehand he had several women who got to enjoy his attention. It was sort of a running joke. Sometimes we would be playing a game co-op but he would have a later engagement, so I'd tell him to go have good sex.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

A guy today said "i dont like chicks who drink and fuck a bunch of dudes" I said "I dont drink" lol

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

When people call me a whore or question my "number", I laugh in their faces.

I practice safe sex. I got consent from every partner. I'm completely honest about intentions.

Judge me all the fuck you want society, I'M GETTING OFF.

 

[693987]

Oh, and the asking Rem how many women he was banging wasn't when we were FWB. It was before, because he was busy so often, but I knew he wasn't dating So. Sort of an exception to my thing, but not really?

 

[ChanelleNo5]

I hate this so much. Guys want you to be a slut...but only for them. Then if you actually slut out they get jelly and now you're just an awful person.

My ex accused me of cheating on him because I tried some new stuff while giving him head that I had seen in porn.

"Oh where'd you learn that?" I'm like "I'm trying to learn how to please you and you just think I'm cheating"

Cannot win.

 

[Mule]

Ah the shitty, one-sided assumption of ownership. You and I are getting it on, so now you are mine and I have exclusive rights to you. Doesn't work the other way, of course, but that's because it's my destiny to be a stud and yours to be a dedicated, fawning caretaker for my studliness.

I'm so tired of these self-serving, traditional gender roles and the bullshit of those who propagate them for their own ends.

Life is too fucking short. Have some fun and love one another. Stop trying to control one another.

 

[LaFemme]

Before we have sex, the only number I’m concerned with, is how many people are you fucking right now. And are you practicing safe sex with them. I need to know your sexual practices. This is my health we’re talking about. I could not care less about your past and you better not care about mine. Are you healthy? I’m monogamous. I’m not risking my health until I get a complete clean bill of health from you and I know that you know who your sexual partners are and that they are healthy as well. Get cagey about your current sexual practices and I have no reason to trust you.

 

[PlumTip]

This is my health we’re talking about. I could not care less about your past and you better not care about mine.

This. I'm 42 yrs old. We both have pasts, but you're currently getting naked with me. There was a great BMW Certified pre-owned ad on a Billboard that was so great. It was a super hot girl in bed biting her lip sexually and the tagline was "you're not the first, but do you really care?" Best advertising I've ever seen.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I am up front with dudes, listen, I am not exclusive with anyone. 1 sex sesh or 2 in and during a hard fuck they say "goddamn woman I want this pussy all to myself" and I damn near come out of the moment stone cold sober. I get it, the sex is great, but you arent getting me to stop getting great sex elsewhere. Each guy hits a different target for me. Some are for kink play. Some vanilla. You get what I'm saying. Not one guy can meet all my sexual needs. I tell them that upfront. As soon as we fuck he wants to claim me as his.

I've noticed also there are some guys who think if they plan to be with me often enough I won't have any time to fuck others. I'm catching on and no one is going to monopolize my schedule. Except Majors, I'll take him on the daily if I could it's so good.

 

[LaFemme]

This. I'm 42 yrs old. We both have pasts, but you're currently getting naked with me. There was a great BMW Certified pre-owned ad on a Billboard that was so great. It was a super hot girl in bed biting her lip sexually and the tagline was "you're not the first, but do you really care?" Best advertising I've ever seen.

I may disagree with the use of sexualizing females to sell cars, but I get your point.

But this whole topic is why I hate the virgins or sluts thread in Ask a Straight Man. Like that’s the only two options. There was a time when I was non-monogamous; now I am. Neither time has been better, they’re just different. Each time fits a different time in my life. At no time have I ever been a “slut”. I have life experiences. I choose the man, I don’t judge his sexual past. I only care about the current situation.

Tattooed Goddess is the same. Non-monogamy fits her life right now. The men in her life can choose to accept that or not. The only thing she “owes” them is a clean bill of health. She doesn’t “owe” them her lovely pussy or even her time.

 

[ChanelleNo5]

I may disagree with the use of sexualizing females to sell cars, but I get your point.

But this whole topic is why I hate the virgins or sluts thread in Ask a Straight Man. Like that’s the only two options. There was a time when I was non-monogamous; now I am. Neither time has been better, they’re just different. Each time fits a different time in my life. At no time have I ever been a “slut”. I have life experiences. I choose the man, I don’t judge his sexual past. I only care about the current situation.

Tattooed Goddess is the same. Non-monogamy fits her life right now. The men in her life can choose to accept that or not. The only thing she “owes” them is a clean bill of health. She doesn’t “owe” them her lovely pussy or even her time.

Yeah...i mean I just think people should do whatever they want as long as they don't hurt other people. If you're not monogamous and they know that, you're not responsible. Have fun. This life is too short to not have amazing sex.

 

[PlumTip]

I may disagree with the use of sexualizing females to sell cars, but I get your point.

But this whole topic is why I hate the virgins or sluts thread in Ask a Straight Man. Like that’s the only two options. There was a time when I was non-monogamous; now I am. Neither time has been better, they’re just different. Each time fits a different time in my life. At no time have I ever been a “slut”. I have life experiences. I choose the man, I don’t judge his sexual past. I only care about the current situation.

Tattooed Goddess is the same. Non-monogamy fits her life right now. The men in her life can choose to accept that or not. The only thing she “owes” them is a clean bill of health. She doesn’t “owe” them her lovely pussy or even her time.

I'm not gonna front, I tend to get jealous if I really like a girl and we are monogamous. If I know were are strictly casual, no worries. I knew what it was when I went it. Discussions in the beginning are very important.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I love calling myself a hoe bag now. Shit, call me whatever you want. I'm having a blast. Hoe bags unite.

 

[PlumTip]

I love calling myself a hoe bag now. Shit, call me whatever you want. I'm having a blast. Hoe bags unite.

Do your thing, chichotas!

 

[693987]

I love calling myself a hoe bag now. Shit, call me whatever you want. I'm having a blast. Hoe bags unite.

Back when I had multiple FWBs and such (so basically before monogamy with Rem) I had zero qualms about saying I was a slut. I still freely admit to being a slut in an earlier part of my life, too

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I've never been able to enjoy the words slut or whore. But hoe resonates with me. Takes me all the way back to the early 90s. Lol

Ain't no shame baby do your thang just be sure you ahead of the game- missy elliot

 

[ChanelleNo5]

I've never been able to enjoy the words slut or whore. But hoe resonates with me. Takes me all the way back to the early 90s. Lol

Ain't no shame baby do your thang just be sure you ahead of the game- missy elliot

I like the word slut more. I think just because it has been thrown around mor in my life rather that hoe. (Except for my music preferences lol. Hoe or bitch is way more prevalent but I am not a bitch)

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I'm more of a bish than a bitch.