The Ins-and-outs Of Vagina Size

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I'm one of those insecure jerks who hates and resents riducule of smaller men. I know, it's a weakness, and something I've definitely not been able to turn into SPH.
So recently I had this discussion with my girlfriend about vagina size. She is looser to me than any woman I've been with previously. Because I don't think vagina size carries quite the same potency as penis size (I know, probably an ingrained chauvinistic view) I told my girlfriend this point and she just chuckled and said: 'Well it's the pussy you're working with, so if you're not happy, let me know.' Of course I'm blissfully happy and it makes no difference, I was just curious, besides she's felt comfortable telling me I'm one of her smaller boyfriends as we have a wonderful relationship. But it did lead me to thinking - is this a thing for women as it is for men? Like when men (even elsewhere on these forums) talk about vagina size preference, and a guy says he definitely knows a woman has had children because she's looser, is that offensive to you as a woman, or just purely incidental and of no relevance? Or is it a fact that woman don't tie up their genitalia size with their womanhood the way that men tie up their manhood with their masculinity?
 
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Is gross. Is often rude. Can be cruel. Is tied in with shaming women who like sex and/or are promiscuous. The whole "when she says is 1st time" meme and then a pic of like, the Grand Canyon. Because is cleaaarly how women's genitalia work : unamused:
 
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I think the effect of any one particular unflattering observation or comparison is diluted by the fact that since a young age I don't think there is a single part of my anatomy that hasn't been held up to some level of scrutiny/ideal/unattainable standard.

And there was nothing wrong with me, being "attractive" is no protection.

Well, perhaps my wrists escaped unscathed.

As a woman I grew up bombarded with so many messages about how I should/shouldn't look or how I should/shouldn't behave it would be impossible for me to zero in on any single "flaw" the way some men obsess on penis size. Although a comment from a boyfriend about my "chunky" thighs niggled me for years.

These days I wouldn't let myself dwell on anything of the sort on principle, I'm secure in myself and anyone who has a problem with the size of my vagina, the concavity of my armpits or the density of my eyelashes can quite frankly fuck right off.

I can easily brush off a tactless comment and think no more of it, but something designed to undermine confidence would get a guy the boot. Not because it's tied to my sense of womanhood but because it outs them as an asshole
 

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Some men can’t even comment on their own genitalia honestly, they sure the hell aren’t qualified to comment on mine.

And those dumb stereotypes about what causes a less than vicelike grip, are just plain ignorant. It’s like when they say “a woman can pass a baby through her vagina, my big 12 inches can’t possibly hurt her”. It shows such a lack of knowledge and ignorance that a man like that wouldn’t have the faintest hope of ever getting near me.

So I guess it does bother me. Bothers me enough I’d never date a guy who believed such garbage.
 

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So I guess it does bother me. Bothers me enough I’d never date a guy who believed such garbage.
The thing is that some men I know DO believe that but would probably not comment to their partner or to any other woman because they're happy with the sex and the relationship in general, and quite frankly in some cases are just surprised they are lucky enough to be dating/married to a woman where the fancying goes both ways.
I recall one comment about vagina size from a particular friend who is promiscuous, and it was never said judgementally, just factually (at least that was how I perceived it). I also recall a young mother who came onto the Naked Attraction TV programme and very eloquently pointed out that she was looking for a hung guy because childbirth had left her needing size. One anecdote on a planet of 7 billion to be sure, but it feeds into the Neanderthal viewpoint on vagina size, unfortunately. But I suppose my point is that because of the notion that men are generally dogs and women generally have higher standards about who they have sex with, saying a woman has a looser vagina might not be as offensive as ridiculing a man's manhood because a man will probably just be happy he's having sex regardless of body part sizes.
A lot of my beliefs are received wisdoms and preconceived notions, which is why I wanted them challenged - which has been successfully achieved above. Glad I asked the question, and thanks for the insightful answers.
 
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Further thought (is ramble/sorry if no make sense, am sleep deprived) but. As general thing, is pretty offensive to be talking bout/calling woman loose. Not so much because anything is wrong with women body having variety, but the thought process/implication/etc is gross. Is no always the case, but the implication is strong that woman is lying/hiding amount of partners, is used up or worn out, etc.

No, to me as individual? Is not offensive cuz give no fuck what someone is talking shit about or try to insult me. But as a commonly thrown around thing, least, as something seen often online to demean/degrade women? Make me no have respect for dudes who do this. No respect for ppl who belittle for less endow dude, mind you. Not a double standard. Try no to be a shite person to someone for something they can no do something about, no matter what in they delicates.

Dun buy into that shit, kegels are a thing, etc, but also kinda give inner giggle. Cause had no problem grippy any kind o girth, whether finger or dick. Length, ya, can be a lil tricky for some thing, depend on what you do. But feel like for the average woman, plus all the women or otherwise identify who have vulva type thing have been with? Dude who complain about lady be loose, have a small dick. Which no a bad thing, but is more like to be an anatomy thing on they end than on lady end in my mind. Not necessarily true, but is something pop up in my head. And no to be mean about it, had sex with micropenis and no penis and all kind of people. No shame or discriminate for small or smaller dick.
 

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@masqued.visage Yes I think we're on the same page. I've heard guys in school and college describing promiscuous women as having loose vaginas. I've only ever used the insult once, when a young friend of my sister's complained about the disappointment of a small penis and I snapped back that maybe the guys she slept with complained behind her back about her large vagina. Not like me at all but I took her small dick comment personally and struck out. She was quietly furious but I felt a sense of vindication. I think it's in poor taste to link a looser vagina with promiscuity and I don't believe the two to be connected - I think it's a trope encouraged mostly by men among themselves, very possibly as a deeply subconscious reaction to counteract penis size anxiety, which not only small men suffer from. Because of my own issue, I've never allowed myself the latitude to consider the comments we've all heard about vagina size actually affected women at all. I'd like to think I'm developing empathy in that area, it's all part of growing emotionally I think.
 

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I'm one of those insecure jerks who hates and resents riducule of smaller men. I know, it's a weakness, and something I've definitely not been able to turn into SPH.
So recently I had this discussion with my girlfriend about vagina size. She is looser to me than any woman I've been with previously. Because I don't think vagina size carries quite the same potency as penis size (I know, probably an ingrained chauvinistic view) I told my girlfriend this point and she just chuckled and said: 'Well it's the pussy you're working with, so if you're not happy, let me know.' Of course I'm blissfully happy and it makes no difference, I was just curious, besides she's felt comfortable telling me I'm one of her smaller boyfriends as we have a wonderful relationship. But it did lead me to thinking - is this a thing for women as it is for men? Like when men (even elsewhere on these forums) talk about vagina size preference, and a guy says he definitely knows a woman has had children because she's looser, is that offensive to you as a woman, or just purely incidental and of no relevance? Or is it a fact that woman don't tie up their genitalia size with their womanhood the way that men tie up their manhood with their masculinity?

I'm a woman who's large in many respects hunni, and guess what? I couldn't give a fuck! I'm blissfully grateful I don't have hang ups about anything sexually or otherwise, if you judge the book by it's cover, its size, it's age, the way it's been bound or where it comes from then you're missing out!
 

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This obsession with "vice like grip" it's pussy not a GI Joe action figure, dudes.

I totes blame heavy masturbation. Same as ladies can become dependant on a vibrator for orgasm, spoiling any chance of orgasm at a less intense level of stimulation, dudes get hand dependant.

Dude, put ya dick down and step away from the electronic device.
 

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This obsession with "vice like grip" it's pussy not a GI Joe action figure, dudes.

I totes blame heavy masturbation. Same as ladies can become dependant on a vibrator for orgasm, spoiling any chance of orgasm at a less intense level of stimulation, dudes get hand dependant.

Dude, put ya dick down and step away from the electronic device.
@MickeyLee Not sure if I'm from a different planet but the act of sex with someone you fancy - anyone you fancy - is a gazillion trillion times better than masturbation. I can't comprehend or understand or even begin to contemplate how someone could rank masturbation above consensual sex.
 

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This obsession with "vice like grip" it's pussy not a GI Joe action figure, dudes.

I totes blame heavy masturbation. Same as ladies can become dependant on a vibrator for orgasm, spoiling any chance of orgasm at a less intense level of stimulation, dudes get hand dependant.

Dude, put ya dick down and step away from the electronic device.
@MickeyLee Not sure if I'm from a different planet but the act of sex with someone you fancy - anyone you fancy - is a gazillion trillion times better than masturbation. I can't comprehend or understand or even begin to contemplate how someone could rank masturbation above consensual sex.
 

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@MickeyLee Not sure if I'm from a different planet but the act of sex with someone you fancy - anyone you fancy - is a gazillion trillion times better than masturbation. I can't comprehend or understand or even begin to contemplate how someone could rank masturbation above consensual sex.


That’s not what she said. She said she blames over self stimulation for the need of certain grips, in penis possessors who use them, and for women, buzzy things sort of numb the nerves.
So put them down for a while, and let the body reset.
 

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That’s not what she said. She said she blames over self stimulation for the need of certain grips, in penis possessors who use them, and for women, buzzy things sort of numb the nerves.
So put them down for a while, and let the body reset.

What she said I said. Cuz she nailed it!
 

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That’s not what she said. She said she blames over self stimulation for the need of certain grips, in penis possessors who use them, and for women, buzzy things sort of numb the nerves.
So put them down for a while, and let the body reset.
That should say, “vagina bearing women and men”.
 
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umm... what? I’m agreeing with what the poster said based on my experience of having sex with women. I’m posting in “ask a woman” yes.... it’s not called “women only”

yes, it is. Ask Someone are for anyone to ask the original question. Respondents are only the group listed in the Ask A (whatever).
It is women’s issues that allows male answers in threads.

we even have a sticky about it.
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