This is something you often see in dictionaries... that suck....
Because its not true.
Its in dictionaries because people keep using the term to refer to something that seems contradictory, but is true.
While common usage is enough to get it in the dictionary... it doesn't make it correct usage.
For example... no matter how many times people use the term, "all told" ... they are still making a mistake.... its "all tolled".
The term paradox is technical and refers to a logical fault.
While I agree with you that dictionaries can make mistakes, and that usages that are common can nevertheless be, relative to certain considerations, incorrect, you are wrong several times over in this particular case.
First, the dictionary that I cited was the
OED the
Oxford English Dictionary, the greatest historical dictionary ever produced. That does not mean that it is infallible, but it does mean that anyone who describes it as a "dictionary that sucks" either is not speaking seriously or doesn't know what he is talking about.
Second, your particular illustration of commonly accepted error is itself an error. "All told" comes from the use of "tell" to mean "count." You can verify this historical fact
here (The Word Doctor), or
here (
The American Heritage Guide to Contemporary Usage and Style), or in the
OED itself (entry for "tell").
Third, there is just as much historical ground for regarding the meaning that you attribute to the word "paradox" as incorrect as there is for so regarding the meaning or meanings that you object to, as all those meanings are deviations from the original meaning of the word. That meaning, in Greek (from which the word derives), from Latin, from French (from which it came into English), and originally in English, is the first one that I cited "contrary to received opinion."
Fourth, even if the word has been given a technical meaning in certain fields, that technical meaning has no authority over common usage because the word is not of technical origin. When a word is of a technical origin, like "deconstruct" (originated by the pseudo-philosopher Jacques Derrida), there is reason to object to the distortion of its meaning when it is taken up in popular language (and especially when the term was pretentious and obscure to begin with, like that one). But this is not such a case. "Paradox" was a term in common usage before it was a technical term.
As I said earlier, I share your aversion to the phrase "Monty Hall paradox." And I can understand why you would consider it desirable to confine the use of the word "paradox" in the way that you suggest, as it is better to have a word with one clear meaning rather than a loose bundle of different meanings. But the fact is that those meanings are at least as well founded in current and historical usage as the one that you favor.