I have never ever posted anything on this site, mostly out of fear of being taken as a "annoying guy who problematizes everything"... But here's my first shot...
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This format of porn seems to strive for a reproduction of a sexist male over female domination, power, control, in which both parts have somehow predetermined roles, in which the guy/top fucks, gets pleased, do whatever he has/wants to do, even in disregard of the female/bottom pleasures - even pain cuz "you gotta take the dick and be happy/grateful that you are getting fucked"; so sucking and jacking off to the partner is a bottm/female thing, thus not meant for the top/male; while the bottoms are meant to be submissive, to take it and not complain, to suck, to ride, and not demand to be touched or have desires if they aren't what is expected of them, or if they are not what the tops want from them;
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These roles are perpetuated through culture, and through porn, which is hwere most boys "learn" or assume what "sex" is like, and internalize it, so, it's not even open to questioning most of the times... "it's how it is, then it becomes a cycle in which porn is made out of these assumptions, and for people who have these assumptions, so that they will understand them as correct and like it as it's what they grew up idealizing and liking...
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that's my guess to which it's so rare to see some let's say, "equality" in the mutual pleasing and acts during sex in porn, and in real life too cuz as said, its a cycle of perpetuation of such notions...
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// A not necessarily related matter is the taking it off and jacking over the botto to cum, well, i guess that's just more graphic for the video purposes... but also maybe that's because you know best how to make yourself cum from years of masturbation, and being overly active sexually speaking, your sensibility tends to deteriorate (well, mine tends to; and many boys i've known, even my boyfrined who used to be/still is... addicted to masturbation); also sometimes the ass is too swoolen...? i mean, not judging wahtever people do to their asses, but if someone is used to taking too large a dildo regularly, an average penis won't get the same pressure as it would form a "normal ass" let's say...; i have fucked some boys whose asses i could barely feel a thing cuz my dick is average and well, i barely touched his walls...
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Then as a personal statement, i get so very turned off when i get to have sex with someone (being versatile as i am) and they have htese pre conceveid limiting ideas and preferences that they never ever happened to question, of top and bottom; like tops that wouldn't touch my dick; or bottons that wouldn't let me touch theirs... Of course i respect their agency over their bodies and desires, but it surely was frustrating... =/
I love to fuck and see the bottoms dick, suck it, jack it off, sawp from fucking the ass to sucking it or the dixk or both; and as the bottom the same, i love a top that sucks my dick, licks my ass, jacks me while fucking me etc. or even better i love swapping roles;...
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Sorry i wrote too much, i didn't mean to offend anyone. Nor be annoying, but surely have been. If I broke any rules, please let me know.