1. You're reading into it too much. The guy didn't say he liked sex with men because sex in general felt good and he didn't mind where it came from. They guy said he liked sex with guys period. He didn't elaborate, so you're assuming quite a bit based on limited information.
You've obviously put a lot of thought into it but you've also missed a very important point.
2. There is NO way to tell the difference between someone who is straight with a "fetish for certain sexual acts with men", someone who is bisexual, or someone who simply has internalized homophobia and is under severe delusion which affects their sexual expression and feelings. Make no doublt about it, we still live in a world where Queer identity is stigmatized. We still live in a world where even in supportive countries, the cost of comming out has enourmous social, relationship, and self-esteem costs. Not to mention the legal, economic and political consequences for being a part of the LGBT community. Stigmatization is very powerful. You cannot assume that people's ideas of homosexuality won't be warped. Guys can and will take any opportunity to deny, obfuscate, minimize, compartmentalize their sexual feelings or otherwise delude themselves and others into thinking that they're something that they're not.
1. You're the one who hasn't read and thought through deeply about anything here at all. All the blanks I decided to include in the conversation are all the possibilities that can be considered. Anyone could say anything for or against them, but no one could debunk them. I've actually gotten messages from heteroflexible men who express their gratitude and appreciation because they say that I hit the nail precisely on the head with my essays. And the person here (who actually posted that he agreed with me previously) also replied to the same comment you responded to without anything to back his stance up; he just said "Yep." People need to justify their assertions. Simply asserting them just because they "think" the are "right" doesn't make their claims right and this intransigence for no logical reason is one of the culprits of all this conflict and misunderstanding. I am introducing much-needed nuance into this important conversation that is evidently missing because almost everyone I express these to are actually surprised with how it makes all kinds of sense and so they wonder why nobody seems to have brought them up, until I did. If we want to "unwarp" all these taboo topics, we have to discuss them openly and deeply and without dismissing views we don't understand yet outright. Sweeping them under the rug is not gonna make them clearer and fairer.
2. [There is NO way to tell the difference between someone who is straight with a "fetish for certain sexual acts with men"]
Oh yes, there is! That simply is not true. Even when I presented it comically (because it IS hilarious regardless of the context lol), the test to see if a guy gets turned on by sexual images of females 100% only is serious, logical and is guaranteed to get the most accurate answers that even the person couldn't possibly have any control over because it's an instinctive/primal response. Your dick will not get stimulated if your brain's chief center of your true sexual orientation does not agree with it. You and your subconscious may cover up for your internal homophobia (if one indeed has a genuine case of it) but your dick never lies. I also fully stand by the fact that a true gay man can simply not (or find it difficult to, except if they're THAT desperate that night lol) have sex, much less date someone they haven't seen (you ever been on Grindr?), especially since we're still males and so are just as visually oriented as the straight ones are.
Don't you wonder, for one, why a lot and I'd even dare say most (in some markets) of the male sex workers who cater to men are straight? The very reason that prompted this thread even is the testament to that! The topic wouldn't even come up if it wasn't a universal truism found both on Rentmen and Onlyfans. Well, besides the fact the straight males are 95% of the male population, which still isn't enough of an explanation for me (because if sexual orientation is as simple as we insist it is -- like if your dick went into another man's mouth and it got hard so, even if you were asleep, you're gay! Lol), because if you just couldn't have sex with men, there shouldn't be any amount offered that would change that, right? Yes and maybe, it depends on the price lol. But in reality, the reason actually includes the fact that the same obstacle could be applied to gay men as well and it actually is more applicable to us counterintuitively. It's in fact even more difficult for us to do it with men we're not into because we actually are into men, but it's NOTHING to a straight/heteroflexible guy. You may be able do it once in a while (I have lol*) but do it as a career? Lol. They can have sex for money with any client old or young, fat or thin, etc BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT ATTRACTED TO THEM EITHER WAY. They just want the $$$. That is why a lot of gay porn performers are also straight/heteroflexible. There are no "straight for pay" male performers because DICKS DON'T LIE. Lol. (Now, there may be a few homoflexibles like me or bisexuals out there but I don't think they'll last with the demands and low pay in the industry if they don't genuinely and highly love pussy.) I'm actually friends/acquaintances with some G4P stars in porn. "Jack" of Sean Cody (the huge muscle guy) says a lot of their shoots actually get cancelled and he hates when that happens because they get paid 0. He told me his last 2 shoots went that way. He gets flown to SD, wastes his time there and flies back home here with no paycheck. He said Viagra is available like candy, but the blue pills are useless and powerless sometimes when all the guys involved are straight. That might explain why the company has since decided to hire only gay performers. They've probably had it with losses in overhead and work time.
I also have to add that a lot of the fault lies in the gay community itself, like I implied with how gay men are actually dismissive of the concept of bisexuality to begin with. The biphobia seems to be more active and vigorous from us than anywhere else and we're ironically applying the same willful ignorance and discrimination to them in the same way that we have been subject to it ourselves throughout history. But to me, it doesn't come from a place of hatred but of exasperation & frustration. It's saying "Hey you, STFU and stop denying that you're gay just like us! Join us and join the struggle and fight. We need you here, you fellow queers & fags!" But that unfortunately denies any nuance and complexity that are present whether we agree that they exist or not.
*Part of the reason I can personally attest to this is that although I've had some (it hasn't been THAT many lol) unsolicited offers to have sex for money, I was wondering why I've only accepted a few of them and I've turned down most even when I was broke and needed the cash lol!! And it's so hilarious and ironic that I just got this text again from someone who keeps bugging me just now. See, I couldn't even name a price. I just don't know if I could stomach it without knowing who it is and what I'm getting myself into. Lol
