Recently I had a long conversation with my cousin 14 years my junior. He had the courage to ask me what to do when having sex with a girl to make her happy. This question boggled me because of its honesty and openess. My cousin admitted to being a virgin but he also admitted that he didn't want to do anything to mess up his first time, he was more concerned with making the girl want more than whether or not he was getting off. I, being the family whore have had many chances to do both and decided to tell him the small fragment of knowledge I had learnt over my sex life, like foreplay being mandatory not an option, and that it in fact could be more enjoyable than sex itself. I told him about taking it slow and easy and that it wasn't over until the woman said it was. Strangely enough after our long chat he seemed happy that someone would actually tell him what he should try. This topic reminded me of a scene in the Kevin Smith Movie "Chasing Amy" where one character admits that he gave up on giving oral because women never told him whether he was doing it right or not. I feel that the women of this next generation or in all generations should take a hint, tell your men what you want and how you want it, its much better to seem bossy then to let a guy think he's doing the job well. So thats my two cents, any opinions?