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returnofseht
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I wasn't entirely sure where to post this. Please move it to a more appropriate forum, if necessary.
I find the obsession with comparisons to be quite overwhelming on this site.
Of course, everything is a matter of preference. So I'm not trying to frame "comparing" as something bad; we all do it. But when I start reading a thread about a woman's first experience with an uncircumcised penis, and it snowballs into a heated exchange about circumcision and lord knows what else, it's quite obvious the obsession with comparisons spills over into validating narratives, which are tied to insecurities and such.
I can't blame women for being sensitive and reactive when this happens, because it happens a lot. My personal fave is on the "Ask a Woman" forum when men respond, or when women have to preface their posts asking men to not respond.
Sadly, the obsession with comparisons is all too related to projections, particularly projections onto women. Women's opinions and preferences are solicited, but when the "right" answers aren't tendered, the subject in question turns into a debate about what's right or wrong, better or worse. The fact that there's a thread dedicated to women talking about the number of times men have made them feel uncomfortable is even sadder.
Obviously, men don't understand women. So it stands to reason that men try to understand women using their own paradigms and subsequent narratives. I think that some guys understand that women don't care nearly as much about their penises as they do (and NEVER will), but others definitely don't - enter the dick bomb. But there's part of me that thinks that while comparisons are a normal thing, there's a line that gets crossed far too often here. But does the site itself, as a public forum and platform of sexual expression perpetuate this? I think it does in many ways, though I'm not sure what I'd change, honestly.
I just find the obsession with comparisons here to be overwhelming. And I totally get the purpose and nature of the site, but for a guy who's pretty open and accepting of most stuff, it's strikes a cord with me.
Because women are subjected to far more comparisons than men, I thought I'd post this here. And secretly I probably just wanna hang out in the ladies forum. But in all seriousness, please move the thread if it's inappropriate there....
Love to hear your thoughts....
I find the obsession with comparisons to be quite overwhelming on this site.
Of course, everything is a matter of preference. So I'm not trying to frame "comparing" as something bad; we all do it. But when I start reading a thread about a woman's first experience with an uncircumcised penis, and it snowballs into a heated exchange about circumcision and lord knows what else, it's quite obvious the obsession with comparisons spills over into validating narratives, which are tied to insecurities and such.
I can't blame women for being sensitive and reactive when this happens, because it happens a lot. My personal fave is on the "Ask a Woman" forum when men respond, or when women have to preface their posts asking men to not respond.
Sadly, the obsession with comparisons is all too related to projections, particularly projections onto women. Women's opinions and preferences are solicited, but when the "right" answers aren't tendered, the subject in question turns into a debate about what's right or wrong, better or worse. The fact that there's a thread dedicated to women talking about the number of times men have made them feel uncomfortable is even sadder.
Obviously, men don't understand women. So it stands to reason that men try to understand women using their own paradigms and subsequent narratives. I think that some guys understand that women don't care nearly as much about their penises as they do (and NEVER will), but others definitely don't - enter the dick bomb. But there's part of me that thinks that while comparisons are a normal thing, there's a line that gets crossed far too often here. But does the site itself, as a public forum and platform of sexual expression perpetuate this? I think it does in many ways, though I'm not sure what I'd change, honestly.
I just find the obsession with comparisons here to be overwhelming. And I totally get the purpose and nature of the site, but for a guy who's pretty open and accepting of most stuff, it's strikes a cord with me.
Because women are subjected to far more comparisons than men, I thought I'd post this here. And secretly I probably just wanna hang out in the ladies forum. But in all seriousness, please move the thread if it's inappropriate there....
Love to hear your thoughts....