The older (mentor) / younger (student) attraction

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  1. Balance1771

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    How many people here find themselves unusually attracted to more mature men (or women)? Conversely, how many mature men (or women) find themselves attracted to younger suitors where you act in many ways like a teacher or mentor - on all levels including sexual?

    I ask because this younger / older attraction seems like it's common now and has been for centuries. Would love to find other people who share this interest.

    I have personally been attracted to mature men for a long time. It started in college when I was introduced to a teacher from a nearby school. He was in his late 40's and a goodlooking/friendly guy. He was kind, nurturing, and extremely interested in taking me under his wing regarding some of my academic interests. On a sexual note, he was one of those guys who always had a nice outline of something large in his pants which added to the allure.

    I was coming to terms with my sexuality at the time and desparately wanted to be near a male figure I could trust and who would respect my boundaries. After much probing, he agreed to let me "explore" him. Not only was it highly erotic, but that bulge didn't lie....he was over 9" cut.

    We spent a lot of time hanging out, chatting, learning from each other and, almost always, kissing and jerking off. He really taught me a lot about sex and sexuality. Eventually I had to move and I, sadly, lost touch with him over time.

    For those endowed mature men (or women) out there who have played this role (or want to)....what is the allure on your end?

    Thoughts? Other people with similar interests / curiosities / stories?
     
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    I've always heard that this was common in some "ancient" societies and it sounds like a great idea to me.
    I also a few days ago read that this is common in Afghans. We daily hear/read about the Taliban's horrible treatment of gays but that is not the whole story. If you aren't aware of it you should do some searches online.
    The problem occurs when it isn't consensual. The Catholic Church and the Vatican can educate the rest of us about those situations!
    I'm 53 and in the past several years I worked with a huge number of college kiddies. Not at college but in a retail setting. My sexuality was a weird situation. Everyone just assumed I was this very straight laced heterosexual. I never had reasons to reveal otherwise. I have never mixed my personal and work lives extensively and in this particular job I felt very little commanality with any of the other folks. I didn't want to socialize or establish any friendships with more than a handful of the staff.
    Back to the subject. I was very puzzled and surprised at the number of the guys that constantly insinuated, very publicly, that they wanted to have sex with me! There was a rumor that I have a huge dick - started by a skanky woman who never saw it- and the rumor never died! It seemed the new folks were told this in orientation!
    Many of the guys would privately ask me about sex and bemoan their troubles with their girlfriends. Some would ask if I had any ideas about guys being together. I usually suggested they rent some gay porn or visit a website because there were lots of them available. Some would then ask if I had ever been with a guy. I didn't lie. I replied that in my life I had been a trisexual. I'd tried everything. I never had anyone, male or female, ask anything more. They usually turned bright red and ran off!
    I was very often tempted to "go there" with some of the guys. They were definitely "my types" and when I was with them I often had a raging boner. Thankfully an apron covered it up and I wore really baggy pants!
    I hesitated out of fear. I worried that if I did I was dealing with a train wreck in the making. Since these guys were straight as far as everyone knew, I was sure I would be labeled as this old pervert out there recruiting young college boys. Every facet of my life would've been negatively impacted for the long term. I also feared that they guy would "fall in love" with me and, since I might not feel the same, things would've just gotten worse.
    It makes me a bit melancholy but I still feel like I made the best decision for everyone concerned.
     
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    I remember my freshman year of college, there was a girl that I was talking to, and we were very physically attracted to one another. We flirted a lot and I was ready to just lose my virginity and just go at it!

    At the time, I was really excited about this because she was far more sexually experienced then I was. Being a virgin, I want to loss it the best way possible for me to not feel regret, and for me, having someone with experience really excited me.

    Sadly, she ended up backing out and refusing to take on the responsibility of taking it.

    She wasn't that much older then me, so I'm not sure if that applies here. It Does apply to the mentor/student relationship though. I think she's 2 years older...but being young that can make a world of difference for some.
     
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    In my case I am grateful that there are many young guys who are like older men. Lucky me!!
     
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    I don't know if this is the kind of thing you're talking about, but I immediately thought of this after reading your post:

    I used to be a manager at a restaurant and there was this young girl with a cute face and basically a porn star body who was 18 and I was 24 (not a huge age difference but significant considering she was young).

    She always came to me for me to tell her what to do, which I liked, and I realized she did too. When I moved into my new apartment she offered to help clean and organize my stuff. I figured it might turn into something and when she showed up in a low cut shirt and short shorts....I was pretty excited :)

    She kept asking me to tell her what to do, which I initially took as a general just wanting to help with what I wanted done kinda thing. She was always shy around me, which I found really cute, and she was pretty inexperienced sexually as well. Things got really flirtatious rather quickly and she kept moving things with her body in sexy positions.

    I eventually told her to put something down and when she was bent over I told her to freeze. Then I come from behind and started to grind up against her. Soon the orders were "take your shirt off", "squeeze them together" (I hadn't been with a large breasted girl before, so it was the first time my cock was smothered), "open wide" and "swallow". I'm a gentleman though so I went down on her after.

    man I just got hard writing that...I should call her, it's been a while. thanks for reminding me!
     
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    I am an older in good shape and live in Palm Springs, that seems to attract the younger. Recently had the fortune of connecting with a younger man that was the best 'lover' I ever experienced. Understand he had been taught by many older - he learned his lessons well. Would have hoped to be with him today, I wish but unfortunately aspires to have a "Peter Pan life style" - damn.
     
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    It's cool to hear others have had similar experiences....do relationships ever form out of them long term?
     
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    I find myself only attracted to older guys - I've never even been aroused by any of my peers or to that matter anyone within a 7 year gap above me.

    The problem I find is that due to the age difference, there's very little we seem to have in common (aside from the wanting to have sex with each other), which is a shame. Maybe one day I will find the right guy ;)
     
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    I've been lucky in this respect as well. I always paid the young men a good amount of attention because I found them attractive. When I started college, my sex partners were still in High School, and I guess that was the start of a pattern of my partner being anything from 2-10 years younger than me.

    The odd thing is that I've wanted each of them to dominate me in bed, and this has always been an issue because it seemed to conflict with their view of me as the older, worldly mentor-type.

    There's just no explaining how people are wired.

    HB
     
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    I was always the 13 going on 30 kid growing up, so generally, an older woman for me feels the same age. And generally, the dominant role comes naturally - the women I've been with have all seemed to enjoy submitting (sexually) to a much younger and very baby-faced man.
     
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    I am attracted to a younger guy. I generally find them interesting, I like to share my experiences in life, and hear theirs. Its very cool to find a younger guy that appreciates an older man. I find the boldness, the cockiness and confidence to be attractive as well as anything physical.
     
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    Well, I just turned 25 and I used to host a youth group for young gay/bi guys under 24. At first I would feel embarrased or slightly wrong for my attraction to some of the guys that I worked with... but then again, there wasn't that much of an age dfference... But the idea of mentor/student relationship turns me on alot actually...
     
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    As I have gotten older, I find that young men are attracted to me. I notice that those who are attracted to me, usually are much more mature than their peers. I actually have been in touch with a twenty something man, that wants sex with me. He is "straight" but loves cock. I have told him only when he is ready.
     
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    Well, this kinda relationship is common in the gay bdsm community--not the only type of relationship, but common. I have a Sir, who is 21 years older than me. He has taught me a lot and enjoys mentoring me. It is a Daddy/boy relationship. But then I also have relationships, where I am mentoring the young man, now. Nothing as long term as my Sir and I, but I am hoping to find someone who wants to be my long term boy.

    There is a certain pleasure that comes from this sort of relationship. My Sir, is very proud of my abilities, and brags to his friends about some of my exploits. I also want to show the community we are involved with, what a good teacher he is, and I am very proud and honored to have been selected by him as his student.

    It is funny, because I am not physically his type, but he saw in me the desire to learn, to develop, and that I took great joy in our play, so that turns him on rather than just my physical looks.

    Also we compliment one another on our approach to life. He helps me see the larger picture in work, friendships, life in general. I think I help him get out of his comfort zone and experience different activities then he would without me.

    We obviously do not have an exclusive relationship--neither of us were looking for one. We also fiddle around what to call our relationship, but it works for us and is good for us and that is what matters.
     
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    I was very lucky in my late teens and early 20s to have met and formed relationships that I've referred to elsewhere as "casually intimate" with men in their late-30s through mid-50s. They taught me not just how to get the most out of sex but kept me on my intellectual toes, too; no laziness or selfishness was ever tolerated.

    I would not be the man I am today without such brilliant, invested mentors who understood precisely how hard to pull the reins and when to let go. They were also elementary to the eventual peer-partnerships that I developed in my mid-20s and 30s.

    I get a lot of offers by younger guys, but I usually don't find them interesting and have little or no interest in breaking anyone in; I prefer a man with some road behind him.
     
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    i find myself attracted to younger girls usually, maybe it says a lot for my maturity level or lack of it. I don't set out to meet younger girls, it just seems to happen that way. I do think some of the girls may have had 'daddy complexes' but i look a lot younger than i am and most of them have been surprised that i'm not closer to their age when i tell them how old i am. Almost all the girls i've dated in the last 10 years have been from 7-10 years younger than me. There was one girl that was my age and my Mistress who was 1 year and one day older than me. The biggest age gap being 14 years when i was 36 and met a 22yr old. so yes i'm attracted to younger, but it's never been as a mentor/student type of attraction.
     
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    My first and only long term partner was fifteen years older than me, i was fifteen and he was thirty when we met, he had just left the priesthood and it was ''first-time'' for us both, we were together. and faithful to each other, for eleven year's til he was killed in an auto wreck six years ago. In all that time he only wanted to bottom, which was ok with me, but I would've loved to have had him inside me. Now I've been on my own for six years and in that time have only 'connected' with 5 or 6 guys, and still have'nt bottomed. one day...
     
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    My first long term partner, when I was 23, was 19 years older than me. Apart from the hot sex we had he taught me about myself. I thought I knew it all but he showed me that even though I had plenty of experiences I still had much to learn. In his patience with me, in and out of bed, I think that I became a much better rounded person.
    A few years later my partner was 8 years younger than me and I think that I was able to be as much a teacher to him as I was a lover. He was actually a revelation to me also as I didn't think I would be able to have such strong feelings for someone so much younger than me.
    Now I find that even though the age of my sex partners does not worry me I do prefer to become involved with men younger than me where apart from the sex I find that I can help them grow to know themselves and other people as well.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your partner. Your relationship was out of the ordinary in several ways, at least when it started -- it must have been a challenge at times to deal with how other people viewed it.

    From your words, it sounds like you treasured him dearly, and I'm sorry for your loss.

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    When I was young all the men I was attracted to were 10-20 years older than me. In my late thirties for a while I had two lovers, one 12 years older and one 12 years younger and really enjoyed experiencing both sides of the age-difference dynamic. Now, in my mid-fifties, I've got a youngster of 40 learning from me, lol.
     
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