The one night stand..

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  1. D_Gregg_Ghorian

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    How did your one night stand happen? What was the guy doing that gave you feeling you wanted to be them that night?
     
  2. dolfette

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    dunno. i've never actually had one.
    just never had the urge.
     
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    Uhm, you got horny, fucked them and if you stay in a small town you continue to run into them for the rest of your life.
     
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    Always wondered what you say on the morning after a one-night stand.

    Goodbye? It was nice?
     
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    Sometimes you have breakfast and say "Well, i should get going...."
     
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    One night stands are stupid. If I'm gonna fuck someone, I fuck someone I'd want to fuck more than once.
     
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    This strongly rings true for me as well. I might not have that much sexual experience, but I'm not going to fuck someone if that's going to be the only time we fuck.
     
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    i've had my share...in most cases, it was a mistake, so i wouldn't have fucked them again anyway. lol. in one, she was just in town for the night and a mutual friend had set it up. we had an amazing time, got breakfast the next morning, i kissed her good bye and she drove off. it was kind of awesome, lol!
     
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    I'm in the minority. I've had more than a few one night stands. When I'm not having regualr sex, I end up in bed with someone. It's a weakness I'm not proud of.

    The only one night stand with a complete stranger was in Las Vegas. I picked him up in a casino bar. He was very well dressed and was carrying a very expensive bag. I sat down next to him and struck up a conversation, which was easy, since we were both alone. He was charming, well-educated, well-spoken, older, and he looked a little like Jeremy Irons. It was one of those "I'm in Vegas" sort of experiences. It was a bit awkward, and definitely not the best sex of my life, but it was memorable.

    All the rest of them were with longtime friends or very good lontime acquaintances, men I knew for years and spent a lot of time with socially, and almost every single one of them remained my friend afterward for years. I really don't have a lot of regrets there. I chose them because I genuinely adored them, as great friends, and there was a mutual attraction, and a mutual respect.

    One, actually the best one night stand of my entire life, the sex was absolutely amazing, remained a one night stand because I felt that the guy treated me disrespectfully by being indiscreet, so we never slept together again, even though I really wanted to sleep with him again and I knew that he really wanted to because he tried to seduce me again. I told him off and didn't speak to him for over a decade, he made me so mad. He recently sent me a message on Facebook apologizing for making me angry and thanking me profusely for unrelated acts of friendship that helped him that I did for him around the same time that he says probably changed his life. He thanked me for being such a great friend to him and for looking out for his best interest and expressed his regrets about how eveything ended. I still don't know if I did the right thing, but I don't react well to indiscretion from men I sleep with, which I've always interpreted as extremely disrespectful. I may have over-reacted because he message was unexpectedly warm, sincere, beautifully written, and very moving. Looking back, maybe I should have given him another chance. Who knows what would have happened?

    Sleeping with a friend does permanently alter the relationship. Whatever existing sexual tension there is in the relationship increases forever, the possibility of sleeping together is greater than before. Some of my friendships suffered because of it, others seemed nearly unaffected, except the flirtation in the relationship increased. The ones I regret sleeping with are the ones who seemed unable to really be friends instead of constant potential lovers.
     
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    Aw, c'mon, y'all...isn't it better to have fucked and walked than not to have fucked at all?
     
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    I think the OP was purely a question directed towards women, but what they hey I'll put in my two cents:
    In my book, a one night stand is the equivalent of a tease. Just one night? Just sex? I need much more than that for satisfaction. Excuse me if that's asking for too much.
     
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    well i've had 2.... didn't like it that much.

    It was more awkward than anything. You never know what is going to be turned down. Like for instance i had a girl turn down her being on top even after i had been on top, and done doggy style for about 20 minutes and she had came atleast 4 times. She just plain out right said, "i don't do that."

    1 girl tried to refuse oral sex from me, while the other girl didn't want to give oral sex cause she said she didn't really know how.

    It's too awkward, cause u don't know whats a "go" and when u have to think about what u can and can't do... it's not worth it
     
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    I've had my fair share of one night stands. Only a few were with strangers; the rest were with acquaintances. Sometimes what started as a one night stand became a weekend long fuck fest or even a relationship. A few have provided for fantastic sex. A few were abysmal. The rest were in between.

    How they happen is like this: I get insanely horny and decide to go get myself a piece of tail without pretense. This has worked at birthday parties, plays, restaurants and bars. I have a couple drinks, scan the possibilities, select my target and make my play.

    What was the guy doing: He was floating my boat. He would have to be funny, charming, intelligent, witty, at least moderately good looking and available. If after making contact he turned out to be arrogant or too much of a player, I'd walk away to either choose another target or go home. I didn't always find what I was looking for.
     
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    I had a one night stand once.

    I was with girl I had met a few weeks earlier online. This was our second time meeting. The first time we ate dinner together and while the food was nice, there was no spark on my part. I found her unattractive, due to her weight, and more than a little bit boring. But, being the lonely person that I am, I decided that being with her was better than being alone. So the second time we got together, we watched a movie at my place and then had sex.

    This was one more in a long list of sexual regrets. The sex was horrible and extremely awkward for both of us because I didn't want to have sex with her and didn't hide that fact as well as I should have. We never met again after that night.

    What's more, some of my friends saw us together and made fun of me for having a fat gf.
     
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    That's what many men would think, but this is a question for women. Although this is a question for women, I've come to the opinion that one-night stands suit some people and not others. You probably need to be an extrovert for it to happen at all, and you truly need to be a sexual extrovert for the sex to be any good. The majority of the population are introverted.
     
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    Mmmm...I may have to rethink my stand on one-night-stands.

    And, uhm, what bar do you frequent?
     
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    Well, by 63 I've had many one night stands. Sometimes I didn't even know the girl's name and we had to introduce ourselves in the morning. Some were great. Some not. I never look for a one night stand - but I never rear.
     
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    I take ambien, and a side effect of it is sleep sex. So technically, i have to be reminded what the hell we did lastnight the next morning. So i have one night stands once or twice a week.....with my husband.
     
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