The Orgasm Loop

[deleted356736]

Sounds pretty cool. I think the arrangement you had with your Goddess would be legal if she were a registered sex therapist in the States.

I did a bit of reading about Tantric philosophy - I found the methods for breath control and energy flow/visualization to be very useful in orgasm control. My problem is that I can only get the whole body orgasm is via blowjob, but that might be a function of my partner and her approach to sex.

I think one problem is that when you're having intercourse you're involved in a number of actions and sensations, whereas when receiving oral sex you're passive and limited to one sensation. What helped me was that I had been taught and was practicing meditation, using the Buddhist approach of creative visualisation. The Goddess remarked on how quickly I picked up on the techniques relative to other men, and guessed it was about meditation. Also, my lessons with the Goddess where quite intimate, so I had to deal with that (and she was hot) during my learning process.

The first few times, I let my wife run things in the cowgirl position, which was more passive for me. Once I mastered this (first time actually), I was able to use other postions without any dramas.

Your partner could make a difference, as my wife is quiet and relaxed during sex. Actually, she sort-of meditates on my cock, and when talking about this she said the best part of sex is feeling me inside her, and feeling how much I fill her. She gets very distracted if I touch her clit or anything like that, she just wants me inside her for as long as possible.

In Australia, the Tantric Goddess was a sex worker, although that doesn't matter because sex work is legal here.

 

[Drifterwood]

I reckon the woman on the front cover is faking

Who cares? uttahere:

 

[B_subgirrl]

In Australia, the Tantric Goddess was a sex worker, although that doesn't matter because sex work is legal here.

Glad you classified that! I was starting to wonder what weird stuff you were doing that would make it illegal (but legal here?!?). I do think it's strange that prostitution isn't legal in some US states.

 

[deleted356736]

I think prostitution is illegal in almost all of the US, and even more bizarre is that the law is enforced to a degree. I do know some escorts in a personal sense, and they recount stories of American business travellers thinking that our sex industry is too good to be true. But it isn't.

In Australia, prostitution has moved from legal to illegal and back again, but the law was rarely, if ever, enforced. This is why it was legalised. It's a victimless crime: the woman is willing to sell her services and the man is willing to buy. Other victimless crimes include currently illegal drugs, and gambling. And both are proving impossible to enforce.

 

[RawDog]

In a few parts of Nevada, outside of Vegas, prostitution is legal:

Prostitution in the United States - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

(Disclaimer: I hate Wikipedia, but the gyst of the info is legit, as far as I know)

 

[deleted356736]

I don't mind wiki myself, and I was right that it was brothels only in parts of one State. This didn't prevent a glossy card of escort services being displayed in my hotel room in Colorado when I was there briefly on business, nor does it prevent Internet discussion forums on the relative merits of various independant sex workers (incall, outcall).

Generally, making it illegal opens women at the lower end of the market up to exploitation. Think of what's required in my city to get into the sex industry: go to a brothel with your Id (drivers licence) and sign up, working for a percentage of your gross earnings. Alternatively, work from home by registering yourself (again id required), and then taking an advertisement in the newspaper. All it takes is a bed and a mobile phone. No pimps, no drugs, no exploitation.

The upper-class independant escorts here have their own websites (which is why I know a bit about the sex industry, as I designed or re-designed a few).