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Okay, we all know that some people, who for some reasons known or unknown to perhaps only themselves, come here to lie, fake, provoke, and/or insult.
It bothers many of us because we find in this site opportunities to grow, to share, to confide, and to even inspire others. Our knee jerk reaction is to expose the liars and fakes and to pound on the provocateurs and insulters. Instead, we might consider the benefits of ignoring. They are multiple:
It bothers many of us because we find in this site opportunities to grow, to share, to confide, and to even inspire others. Our knee jerk reaction is to expose the liars and fakes and to pound on the provocateurs and insulters. Instead, we might consider the benefits of ignoring. They are multiple:
- People hate to be ignored, and much of their unacceptable behavior is a misguided attempt to get attention. While the unacceptable attempts may increase as they find themselves ignored, they will eventually moderate their behavior or move on.
- Our own equilibrium is better maintained when we avoid "lowering" ourselves to such levels and maintain our own integrity.
- Sometimes pointing out exactly how we spotted the lie or the fake, the illogic or inconsistency we clue the individuals in to how they can be better at lying, faking, provoking or insulting. It is not always possible or adviseable or conscientious to ignore, but when we do address those with problematic behavior, we should avoid providing them with tips on how to better fool or provoke us.
- Negativity is a magnet, and we can get stuck to it while it saps our energy. Move away from it instead of letting it attract you.