The reality of being overly goodlooking

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  1. earllogjam

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    It's rare that to meet these incredibly goodlooking men at bars or gay events who actually engage in conversation if you aren't in their league lookswise. They are often standoffish, closed, and guarded or with some other equally unattainable guy. It's hard to even strike up a conversation without it feeling unnatural and ill at ease.

    In the last 6 months I've grown to know an incredibly goodlooking guy, the kind that turns heads everywhere he goes, and after a while when he realized I wasn't after sex (although that was the reason I initially sought him out), he confided that being so goodlooking isn't all that it's cracked out to be. I thought he was joking at first.

    He said that most everyone who approaches or befriends him is angling for sex and that you just get jaded and end up keeping everyone at arm's length as he doesn't always like the attention. He said it's been hard having platonic gay friends or any friendships because that sexual attraction always gets in the way.

    I've always secretly wondered if these guys aren't infact most times than not...lonely.
     
  2. wallyj84

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    Boo fucking hoo.

    "Oh no! I'm super beautiful and a bunch of people want to have sex with me! Whatever shall I do!"

    Fuck those people. Someone only liking you for your beautiful body is better than no one liking you for your ugly body.
     
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    Sadly some are and the ones who arent are completely full of themselves and don't value a persons personalities only the superficial things that shouldn't matter to them.I made the mistake of believing someone who was good looking was vain we are now very good friends.

    It just taught me that old familiar lesson : don't judge a book by its cover there are some morons who are vain and full of themselves but not all of them are.


    I have a feeling that a fair amount of these guys would probably appreciate a more kinder and appreciative approach and effort: you have a really nice smile you seem like a warm and personable guy also :) Instead of : wow you're hot lets go buttfuck now! :rolleyes::tongue2:



    I don't mind looks but I don't really concern myself with that superficial aspect of it to each their own in that area . A persons personality and relatability with me is all that truly matters to me nothing else matters in the end to me anyways.


    Another thing to keep in mind is that some of these guys may enjoy being looked at as a piece of meat others though probably do not.I'm sure they'd rather be looked at as human not graded by their looks persay. Interesting thread and subject @ the O.P. :smile:
     
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    An XGLSG would be in order.
     
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    Looks may have many perks but they do not absolve anyone from all of life's problems. Just because someone is attractive does not mean that they are outgoing or even have what it takes to develop or sustain a relationship. Often people are not at all sympathetic to someone who is very attractive making assumptions that they have it made and not only do not need to be treated with genuine kindness and compassion but often quite the contrary they are given no support when in trouble. They are often set upon by those who wish to bask in the allegedly glory of the person's physical attractiveness. Looks fade but we continue to be that same person we were from the beginning inside.
    There may be those who are shallow ,arrogant and obnoxious because they have been catered to for their physical beauty, but then do you really want to be with that anyway? Besides, there are plenty who are not as good looking with those traits as well.
     
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    1. No matter how goodlooking and charming someone is, there is someone out there who is sick of their bullshit.

    2. Some people will always find something to be unhappy about, regardless of how many good things they have going for them.
     
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    To be honest, that's my feeling too.

    It sounds like Paris Hilton complaining that she has so much money she needs to hire accountants to understand her bank statement. Boo-fucking-hoo. I'll let you know when I feel some fucking sympathy, it might be some time after the apocalypse, so don't hold your fucking breath.

    And yes, I am thoroughly average looking and used to be pretty damned ugly, and frankly, I'd prefer to be beautiful and jaded from people tripping over while gawking at me, than ugly and jaded from the insults.

    However, I do understand this - everybody has something to moan about. Bill Gates can moan about his average looks and bad reputation, Warren Buffet can moan about the financial crisis and his weight, Donald Trump can moan about his shit haircut, it's just the more privileged you get, the more petty the moaning becomes. And that's common to everyone - as you run out of things to moan about, you come up with new things to be unhappy about. It's because our expectations tend to be set higher than reality.
     
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    Now what is XGLSG again?

    Haha



    Honestly, can any of the over the top good looking people here on LPSG chime in on this to enlighten us on what your experience has been on this topic?
     
  9. naughty

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    I want to hear what Nudeyorker has to say.The may can still almost stop traffic and I am sure in his youth caused 10 car pile ups!
     
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    Extremely Good Looking Support Group presumbly..... :tongue:
     
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    womens issues:
    ladies only, how many of you have walked into a lampost while looking at a xgl guy?
     
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    Yes, we are.
     
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    I am friendly with a few extremely attractive people and I treat them the same way as I do the ugly ones. LOL

    With respect.
     
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    I think sometimes people make judgements about others who seem to have the qualities that they aspire to. However at the end of the day if all you have are good looks or intelligence, or have a great personality, or money you will look to others with envy. In the cold gray light of dawn we all know what we have on the surface and hold on the inside and may be afraid to share based on the way we have been treated by others based on those qualities. But if you have the ability to transcend all of that then you have won the race. Someone once said to me beauty fades, dumb is forever.
     
  15. earllogjam

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    Ah, yes. Another preposterous site with fakers. Of course it would be overrun by men posing as women....

    Why can't you just fess up that you are drop dead gorgeous? And give us all the sorid details.
     
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    I have to give this some thought. I'm blonde remember? There are sordid details and everything that goes with it. Including the harsh glare of maturity.
     
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    spill!
     
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    I find it more than a little ironic that this thread was started by someone who took down his pictures because he was being hit on too often.:kabong:

    It's been my tremendous misfortune to have friends and family who are all ridiculously attractive. The upside is that people treat them better, are nicer to them, they tend to get great jobs which they might not otherwise have gotten, people are very friendly toward them-- even do unbidden favors for them. It's a bit unreal.

    On the whole though, I have to say that many people look upon LPSG as being the same sort of thing. How on earth can the well hung have any real problems with it? Well you hang out here enough you discover that they do. Sometimes they're quite serious problems which cause relationships to end or sex to be less than satisfying or being relentless teased or envied or treated like a piece of meat.

    It's the same way with attractive people. Many times I've heard some of my more astute attractive friends wonder if they aren't being liked only because others find them attractive. Fortunately, none of my attractive friends are stupid and they know there's always an element of physical beauty which tends to sway people and situations in their favor, though sometimes they don't realize just how attractive they are and tend to discount what is plainly obvious to me and everyone else who aren't all that beautiful.

    Yes, nudeyorker is pretty damn stunning in-person. So are quite a few other people I've met from LPSG. In fact, I'd say there's an inordinate number of attractive people here. Looks, however, can only get you so far though sometimes that can be pretty damn far. In the end, I have to say that being very good looking, even stunning enough to silence rooms when you enter (as Hedy Lamarr did) is a much better thing than being plain or ugly despite the possibility that you'll be discounted for not being bright or have an interesting personality. All those things can be proved after the initial favorable impression. That's true here too. Of the really good looking people here at LPSG, I tend to notice that they're intelligent, well-spoken, interesting, and educated. I look at it this way. It really doesn't matter if I know you've got a 10" dick because I'm not going to judge you on your dick unless all I'm interested in is your dick and only then because it's big. It's the same with looks. You get used to being around attractive people and then you wonder what's underneath. I dunno, maybe I've read too much Francois Sagan.
     
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    That was a great answer , Jason.
     
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