It's rare that to meet these incredibly goodlooking men at bars or gay events who actually engage in conversation if you aren't in their league lookswise. They are often standoffish, closed, and guarded or with some other equally unattainable guy. It's hard to even strike up a conversation without it feeling unnatural and ill at ease. In the last 6 months I've grown to know an incredibly goodlooking guy, the kind that turns heads everywhere he goes, and after a while when he realized I wasn't after sex (although that was the reason I initially sought him out), he confided that being so goodlooking isn't all that it's cracked out to be. I thought he was joking at first. He said that most everyone who approaches or befriends him is angling for sex and that you just get jaded and end up keeping everyone at arm's length as he doesn't always like the attention. He said it's been hard having platonic gay friends or any friendships because that sexual attraction always gets in the way. I've always secretly wondered if these guys aren't infact most times than not...lonely.