The reality of being overly goodlooking

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Sadly some are and the ones who arent are completely full of themselves and don't value a persons personalities only the superficial things that shouldn't matter to them.I made the mistake of believing someone who was good looking was vain we are now very good friends.

It just taught me that old familiar lesson : don't judge a book by its cover there are some morons who are vain and full of themselves but not all of them are.


I have a feeling that a fair amount of these guys would probably appreciate a more kinder and appreciative approach and effort: you have a really nice smile you seem like a warm and personable guy also :) Instead of : wow you're hot lets go buttfuck now! :rolleyes::tongue2:



I don't mind looks but I don't really concern myself with that superficial aspect of it to each their own in that area . A persons personality and relatability with me is all that truly matters to me nothing else matters in the end to me anyways.


Another thing to keep in mind is that some of these guys may enjoy being looked at as a piece of meat others though probably do not.I'm sure they'd rather be looked at as human not graded by their looks persay. Interesting thread and subject @ the O.P. :smile:

You're a wise man. I commend you for that.:smile:
 

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I find it more than a little ironic that this thread was started by someone who took down his pictures because he was being hit on too often.:kabong:

I just think I don't like the attention. It doesn't sit comfortably with me. I think my self image and what other's see are vastly different and I don't take compliments well for some reason. Honestly, I don't see myself as particularly attractive either. I guess you can look at a person like Julia Roberts and see that she has big ears, overly large mouth, fat lips and is on the lanky side of thin. When she sees herself in the mirror she sees a goofy and gangly chic because that's been her self image since as far back as she can remember. That's why she could easily marry a guy like Lyle Lovett. I can relate to that.

See, Earlogjam, I consider you to be an "over the top good looking guy." What do you think?.

You're nuts! Thanks tho. lol. You'd change your mind if you've seen me in the morning.

Robert De Niro, but a bit younger.

Whenever I read Rubi's posts I have a mental image of Wally Shawn talking.

when one looks like you...

ummhmmm.
 
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I just think I don't like the attention. It doesn't sit comfortably with me. I think my self image and what other's see are vastly different and I don't take compliments well for some reason. Honestly, I don't see myself as particularly attractive either. I guess you can look at a person like Julia Roberts and see that she has big ears, overly large mouth, fat lips and is on the lanky side of thin. When she sees herself in the mirror she sees a goofy and gangly chic because that's been her self image since as far back as she can remember. That's why she could easily marry a guy like Lyle Lovett. I can relate to that.

You're nuts! Thanks tho. lol. You'd change your mind if you've seen me in the morning.

Take your own advice and accept compliments with grace and trust in the sincerity of the person giving you the compliment. I mean really, do you think your masseur and all the other hot guys you do get including that latest ultra-hottie who turned the tables on you ("Predatory? moi?") would respond to someone who wasn't attractive to them? They sure as hell aren't with you out of pity.

You know what happened after I learned to just say, "thank you," to compliments about my appearance? I actually believed I looked better. It took a while but it worked. I also began to care more about my appearance. Now I use better skin products, pay more attention to my grooming, have a hair style that works (when I have hair), and I've lost 55 lbs in under a year. I have to say that cancer is a sensational diet. You don't feel hungry and the weight comes flying off! Remind me to post some new pics someday. I don't think it's for everyone though. The whole tumor bit kinda makes an infomercial out of the question. Either way, believe it or not, people see me and say I look better than I have in a very long time. I'm not allowed to lift weights or do any exercise with impact, but I can swim and hope that Santa will bring me a membership to the pool in a nearby town. It's in New Jersey but then we all have to associate with undesirables sometimes to accomplish our goals:tongue:.

Now you know straight out that I'm no hottie, but I'm not walking around with a bag over my face either. It would be hard to see out of and impossible to drive. I really want to be more attractive not only to other men :naughty: but to myself as well.

If I can manage to accept my appearance and not be hot, then I know you can. I have enormous faith in that.

Whenever I read Rubi's posts I have a mental image of Wally Shawn talking.

Good God no. William Shawn maybe, Wally Shawn not even close. Rubi's got the voice of a TV anchor.
 

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I am friendly with a few extremely attractive people and I treat them the same way as I do the ugly ones. LOL

With respect.

The ugliness is inside an individual if they feel that way about someone else plain and simple.:smile: Not directing that towards you mind you it's just the truth most of the time for people who feel that way about other people.As someone else here stated so eloquently looks fade eventually all of our looks will fade it happens to us all in the end.Personality and character though last forever . :)
 
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Being attractive and being good looking aren't necessarily the same thing, I think that's almost part of the OP. Being very good looking can make some people seem unattractive to some people.

I think in these cases its the "attitude" thats unattractive, not the package its housed in.
 

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OK, so here we are on LPSG where we all know its NOT about looks, but ALL about Cock.....BIG COCK !!!!! Try visiting the LPSG chat rooms and spend time with drooling strangers fawning over and complimenting the "faceless" biggest cocks in the room. Now if that aint a wake-up call, nothing Is....
 

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Take your own advice and accept compliments with grace and trust in the sincerity of the person giving you the compliment. I mean really, do you think your masseur and all the other hot guys you do get including that latest ultra-hottie who turned the tables on you ("Predatory? moi?") would respond to someone who wasn't attractive to them? They sure as hell aren't with you out of pity.

You know what happened after I learned to just say, "thank you," to compliments about my appearance? I actually believed I looked better. It took a while but it worked. I also began to care more about my appearance. Now I use better skin products, pay more attention to my grooming, have a hair style that works (when I have hair), and I've lost 55 lbs in under a year. I have to say that cancer is a sensational diet. You don't feel hungry and the weight comes flying off! Remind me to post some new pics someday. I don't think it's for everyone though. The whole tumor bit kinda makes an infomercial out of the question. Either way, believe it or not, people see me and say I look better than I have in a very long time. I'm not allowed to lift weights or do any exercise with impact, but I can swim and hope that Santa will bring me a membership to the pool in a nearby town. It's in New Jersey but then we all have to associate with undesirables sometimes to accomplish our goals:tongue:.

Now you know straight out that I'm no hottie, but I'm not walking around with a bag over my face either. It would be hard to see out of and impossible to drive. I really want to be more attractive not only to other men :naughty: but to myself as well.

If I can manage to accept my appearance and not be hot, then I know you can. I have enormous faith in that.



Good God no. William Shawn maybe, Wally Shawn not even close. Rubi's got the voice of a TV anchor.


Thanks for the compliment. I'm fortunate that my looks appeal to some guys but needless to say most of the time I get more than my share of rejection. It's a far stretch to think I can easily hook up with any guy because of my looks. It just isn't the case. The hotties are very few and far between if that. Although I don't think I'm ugly or unattractive I just wouldn't want to have sex with someone who looked exactly like me.


Rubi has a voice of a TV anchor and looks like a younger Robert DeNiro? Yikes!
 

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Thanks for the compliment. I'm fortunate that my looks appeal to some guys but needless to say most of the time I get more than my share of rejection. It's a far stretch to think I can easily hook up with any guy because of my looks. It just isn't the case. The hotties are very few and far between if that. Although I don't think I'm ugly or unattractive I just wouldn't want to have sex with someone who looked exactly like me.


Rubi has a voice of a TV anchor and looks like a younger Robert DeNiro? Yikes!


All this discussion of your looks is most intruiging, it's so frustrating we can't judge for ourselves if you're right or not :redface::wink:
 

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All this discussion of your looks is most intruiging, it's so frustrating we can't judge for ourselves if you're right or not :redface::wink:


Maybe Earl is like Norma Desmond, and just not ready for his "closeup" yet ? On the other hand, if we did see what Earl lloked like, we would all be disputing whether or not we thought he was as goodlooking as he claimed to be. Thats a whole nother Thread. LOL
 

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Maybe Earl is like Norma Desmond, and just not ready for his "closeup" yet ? On the other hand, if we did see what Earl lloked like, we would all be disputing whether or not we thought he was as goodlooking as he claimed to be. Thats a whole nother Thread. LOL

I've seen his picture and he is actually better looking than he claims to be. It's permanently downloaded in my memory.
 

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It's been my tremendous misfortune to have friends and family who are all ridiculously attractive. The upside is that people treat them better, are nicer to them, they tend to get great jobs which they might not otherwise have gotten, people are very friendly toward them-- even do unbidden favors for them. It's a bit unreal.
Talk about hitting the proverbial nail on the proverbial head (as You so consistently do Jason).
Boo fucking hoo.
...And this is my exact response to anyone who could possibly find a reason to betch about being too beautiful.

There's no such thing as too beautiful - and there's no such thing as it being a hinderance. At the very least one who is attractive should have the decency to thank God for small miracles and keep the whining in check.

Bottom line is that looks (like money) is a cushion which makes the lives of those who have them all the easier. I cannot feel sympathy for the heartaches of the privileged. Me - if I'm gonna be miserable either way, then I'd rather be gorgeous and miserable than fugly and miserable any day of the week.
 

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Talk about hitting the proverbial nail on the proverbial head (as You so consistently do Jason).
...And this is my exact response to anyone who could possibly find a reason to betch about being too beautiful.

There's no such thing as too beautiful - and there's no such thing as it being a hinderance. At the very least one who is attractive should have the decency to thank God for small miracles and keep the whining in check.

Bottom line is that looks (like money) is a cushion which makes the lives of those who have them all the easier. I cannot feel sympathy for the heartaches of the privileged. Me - if I'm gonna be miserable either way, then I'd rather be gorgeous and miserable than fugly and miserable any day of the week.
I don't think anyone is whining or complaining about it. However as I eluded to before, whether it's the way you look, your intellect, your personality or your social position in life; each come with advantages and some disadvantages at times.
 

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Boo fucking hoo.

"Oh no! I'm super beautiful and a bunch of people want to have sex with me! Whatever shall I do!"

Fuck those people. Someone only liking you for your beautiful body is better than no one liking you for your ugly body.

Haha! I wish I had that "problem" too! :biggrin1: I mean, I'm not ugly or anything, but it's not like I have guys fawning over me all the time because I'm so hot (no matter how much I dream about that very thing happening to me!) I think I'm average looking. I've actually been told by some people that I'm ugly, but I've ALSO been told by other people that I'm pretty. Go figure...

To be honest, that's my feeling too.

It sounds like Paris Hilton complaining that she has so much money she needs to hire accountants to understand her bank statement. Boo-fucking-hoo. I'll let you know when I feel some fucking sympathy, it might be some time after the apocalypse, so don't hold your fucking breath.

And yes, I am thoroughly average looking and used to be pretty damned ugly, and frankly, I'd prefer to be beautiful and jaded from people tripping over while gawking at me, than ugly and jaded from the insults.

However, I do understand this - everybody has something to moan about. Bill Gates can moan about his average looks and bad reputation, Warren Buffet can moan about the financial crisis and his weight, Donald Trump can moan about his shit haircut, it's just the more privileged you get, the more petty the moaning becomes. And that's common to everyone - as you run out of things to moan about, you come up with new things to be unhappy about. It's because our expectations tend to be set higher than reality.

I'd like to have the "problem" that Paris Hilton, Bill Gates, Warren Buffett and Donald Trump have too - that is, being SOOOOO rich! :biggrin1: In fact, right now I'd even take that over being overly good looking! (Probably because I'm in a financial bind right now, and will have to move in with a roommate, which I'd really rather not have to do, nothing against said roommate, it's just that I want to either live alone or with a guy I'm married to or in a serious relationship with - NOT live with a roommate because of financial problems!)

Oh relax, didn't anyone tell you 50 is the new 30? Thirty is the new... you are barely legal here and have nothing to worry about.

I'll keep that in mind for when I turn 50 in a few years (fewer than I'd like to think about!!!)
 

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it's a pretty sad testament when someones looks are more valued and important then whats inside of them .To me the interior far outweighs anything about the exterior if you know what humility means have a good personality and heart and show good character then I dont understand why anything else would matter in the first place.To each their own though some of these comments ive seen though are an eye opener and sadly not in a positive way.

I think I look damn perty by the way specially those braids in meh hair.:rolleyes::tongue22:
 
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Neither are everything by a longshot... but they sure help.


True. But being "comfortable" isn't really happiness, is it? There are poor, ugly people who are much happier than rich, beautiful people. Happiness is elusive and not always what we think it is.