The Relationship Is Over. Are The Nudes To Be Deleted?

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I was reading this
The Ethical Debate Over Saving an Ex's Nudes

And I wondered, are nude photos gifts, or loans?

I shot some really interesting things during my time with the traveling musician.
He shot some too.
I’m in process of culling his shots from my locker/vault album. And shots with both of us will go away, too.
Shots I took of me stay in mine.
I’m not sure how I feel about the ex keeping the pix. I sort of feel I gave them to him.
I have to concerns of revenge porn crap. He’s a better man than that. Plus, I have him.
So personally, I’m just in “ I’ll ignore it.” I do not want to picture him re-enjoying the images.

How does the new generation handle this? Lol
 
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You had me until the “new generation”. But I’ll post my opinion anyway! Lol!

Nude pics are a loan. For use during the length of the relationship. Should be deleted as soon as the relationship is over. I’ve asked exes to delete my pics. I don’t know if they complied, but I asked.
 

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If nudes were sent and the relationship ends, it's time to sit down together with both screens visible to both parties and everyone can see the deletion process.

Copies could exist, so there's never really any way to deal with the fact that someone could use them against you later. I was taught that if you share pictures digitally, they aren't a thing you can truly take back. So my decision to send nudes on the rare occasion I have is one I've always been prepared in the back of my mind to come up at some point. I know I've sent them to my fella, but I really don't remember sending any to anyone but him. I don't *think* I have, but I know it's possible I did and just forgot.

I'm lucky that the people in my life know who I am and don't judge me for being a sexual being. Of course I wouldn't prefer my parents or someone in my family to see pics of me, but I wouldn't be ashamed and neither would they. And, at work my boss is very open minded and fully feels that if ones personal life doesn't impact their work in any way then there's no reason to judge. If someone tried to black mail me at my work with nudes of me they'd get asked to leave and I wouldn't get fired.

Fully aware that I'm in the minority when it comes to this.
 

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I've never sent nudes to anyone but my husband. And they were the classy kind. But knowing him he probably has no idea where they are. He's always wanted to take a photo of me in flagrante delicto, but I steadfastly refuse!

I want to control things like that.

But if I break up with someone then all of me breaks up with him. And everything resorts back to their rightful owner. That includes pics, and I wish sometimes memories. But those are lessons learned.

I've never kept a ring or anything of value from any of my exes. I even returned a cheesy Christmas sweater.

And I've never had a weenie pic to return because it would have been deleted immediately upon delivery.
 

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All parties needs should be respected.

My former lady-friend has more than a few art prints featuring both of us nude. As far as I know, one still hangs on her bedroom wall. We're both cool with that. My copies are bound into a beautiful album on my bedroom bookshelf. It's private, for my eyes only.

Now days? With a new partner? Delete.

For true, with too many people's very casual relationship with respect and thinking of other's first? Not sure I would ever share nudes. Something is missing in people, not getting caught seems to negate the betrayal and disrespect. A breakup seems to end a former partner's basic rights.

The boy... mutual phone scroll, deleting as requested. I trust him. I also trust us to never get to the point where animosity would override character.