The rules of kissing in the gay community

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Wouldn't really call it a "rule", but either the sexual electricity is incredible between you and your boy(girl)friend or it isn't. If the sexual electricity is real when you kiss it will feel wondeful if it isn't, kissing won't be much fun.
 

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I don't know, I was inexperienced until recently but that didn't change the fact that I really enjoyed kissing, even during a NSA hook-up. It makes the moment and adds to the experience, I think.

Oh I wasn't saying all inexperienced guys weren't into kissing, but in the cases where the guys I was with weren't into it they were either inexperienced or in the closet.

I think this is changing somewhat, but when I was younger there really wasn't much or any visible male intimacy in everyday life. You didn't see it on tv and we didn't have the internet back then. Seeing male/male PDAs was rare. My first experience with a guy was nothing but kissing and lots of it. It was exciting and I loved it. However, I will also admit it felt somehow foreign. Pretty much all the kissing I'd seen in my life had been between a man and a woman and I felt very conscious of that fact throughout. It sure as hell didn't stop me, but it was there in my mind that I was doing something that wasn't considered normal. I wonder if some guys are still dealing with that and are afraid of letting go.
 

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I had an experience with a guy years ago who wouldn't kiss, or fuck. I found him so attractive that I thought no big deal. Wrong. While the sex was really good, the intimacy of the sex act was missing for me. From then on, I swore I would only sleep with someone who liked kissing as much as I do. Imagine my surprise, when years later, I run in to the guy and decide to give it another try, and he's sticking his tongue down my throat. My reasoning of why? I think when I first met him he was truly bisexual, and was lacking in experience with guys. Prob had more experience with women. Years later, and a lot of experimenting with guys, he was more confident, sexually with guys. Now, he can do both. He can be inside a guy, and kiss him at the same time. What a bonus......
 

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I think it's mostly guys that haven't come to terms with their sexuality that won't kiss or don't want to kiss. Kind of the mind set that it's ok to get a bj cause that's just a couple of bros needing to get off, but we can't kiss because that makes it GAY! haha
 

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There should be some basic common sense rules...

#1 - Brush your fucking teeth and use some mouth wash once in a while.
#2 - Refer to rule number 1.
#3 - Kissing is done with your lips and tongue. Unhinging your jaw and trying to get half of my face in your mouth is honestly a little creepy. Use those talents for cock sucking instead. If I wanted slobbered on, I would let the dog kiss me.
 

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I think it's mostly guys that haven't come to terms with their sexuality that won't kiss or don't want to kiss. Kind of the mind set that it's ok to get a bj cause that's just a couple of bros needing to get off, but we can't kiss because that makes it GAY! haha

Yep, that's exactly what my gay friends tell me.

Kissing is very intimate for me. In a group situation, if I'm not really into a guy, but perhaps we end up having sex, I won't kiss him. I mean, sex with a condom really isn't that intimate for me, but having someone stick his tongue in my mouth sure as hell is.
 
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I think there is something so very sexy about a guy asking to kiss you. A really smart guy would position in a way that would almost guarantee a kiss. ;)
 

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I think it's mostly guys that haven't come to terms with their sexuality that won't kiss or don't want to kiss. Kind of the mind set that it's ok to get a bj cause that's just a couple of bros needing to get off, but we can't kiss because that makes it GAY! haha
I agree 100%
 

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No one mentioned facial stubble. This must be an issue for women who don't like feeling itchy when an otherwise clean-shaven guy who needs a shave wants to vigorously kiss. Well, when there are two guys who need a shave, there certainly can be some skin irritation to try to avoid....
 

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I can chime into this sucking but not kissing. For some people sucking cock is not about being gay it is more of a dick fetish. i personally do not find kissing a man erotic in any sort of way.
 

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So, does it stem down to guys who have intimacy issues, is it a rule that I should learn, or is it just some kind of stereotype?

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i have always had intimacy issues with kissing
me Gay as they cum, but i hate kissing ha always have, a HUG is about the most intimate i get ish hah true..

Again, we seem to be rather similar. :) Our reasoning differs but the point's the same. *hugs*
I'm not turned on by much internal. Mouths are internal. I'd much rather kiss, lick, suck, tongue-lash the body than another mouth.
 

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My experience is that there is a category of gay guys who don't like to kiss.

It's too intimate and they are just out for the sexual experience of the moment and not into exploring any emotions that kissing might evoke.

It's up to each individual to decide if he wants to be with that kind of guy, but it's probably a danger signal if you are trying to find a long-term relationship.
 

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To me, it is a very important component of being with someone. Kissing is a part of intimacy between us and only enhances the experience of us being together. If they don't like kissing then I wouldn't even allow the idea of sex occur between the two of us.
 

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I think kissing creates an emotional bond between the two people - even strangers. I love kissing but in some cases I just want to have sex, get off and go. Some guys I just don't want to kiss because I'm not attracted to them in some way (strange that I want their cock but not their lips).

On another note, what do you do when a guy is a lousy kisser? One guy was good in bed but just the worst kisser. I am avoiding him because of that! I'm thinking that if we hook up again, I might politely tell him or show him how to kiss.

Another guy I met was THE BEST kisser ever and I keep wanting to see him again but he's moving and doesn't want to get too close. Damn!

P.S. I noticed with my ex, that there was a point in our relationship that he stopped kissing me. I mean, not the good night peck but kissing while having sex. I think I now see that that was a clue that things were changing emotionally for him.
 

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There are no rules... some guys just kiss to say hi. Hell some of the bars I go too...a gay handshake is grabbing someones crotch. :) It's up to you to take offense or not...and depends on what kind of kiss. Some people are just wound too tight. Also, for me, if interested sexually in a guy... if they can't kiss...a screw is pretty much out of the question.
 
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When I top, I like my bottom on his back. That way it's easier to play with his cock and feel it hard against my abs when I lean against him. Most important is that we can kiss. Once I'm balls deep inside him, I want my tongue deep in his mouth exploring. It's such a fucking turn-on to be inside him in two places