The Secret Fetish of a Black Girl

[VictorV]

This time on the serious side. It's more than refreshing to see people having a positive, level-headed, rational discussion on a race-related topic.

Thanks for that, everyone. LPSG has once again impressed.

 

[Notthe7]

^ I agree Victor.

 

[Penis Aficionado]

There's also a porn site where a bunch of rednecks jizz on a black girl's face, and then give her a stars & bars t-shirt for her trouble.

Just sayin'.

 

[Notthe7]

No... wait... are you serious? link me, now.

 

[EboniGoddess]

Thank you all for your advice. I have yet to find the right guy to ask but when I do I'll make sure to let all of you know.

To be honest, I think I scare men away because I'm so outspoken on things such as gay rights that a lot of men think I'm a lesbian. People who know me in person would be quite shocked to know my fetish since I'm big on equal rights for minorities and such.

I'm still looking. I've decided to look into craigslist for my search. People there are usually less judgmental on fetishes then other places.

 

[Tee&A]

As far as this I don't think a white supremist would have sex with a black person since they're against sex outside their race and especially against mixed race children.

I understand how you'd think that way, but it's just not the truth. There are card-carrying member of the Klan who think it would be an abomination to touch a black woman, but there are plenty of others who wouldn't walk around in public with one, but they'd screw her in private without hesitation.

The most heartbreaking encounter I've ever seen in this area is a girl I was in the Army with. She got to the unit a bit before I did, and took up with a tall, blond guy who lived on the 3rd floor. Dating a white guy is no problem--it's the particular guy she chose that was the problem. Guys who had been in the unit tried to warn her, tried to tell her that he had confederate flags and posters with Nazi propaganda in his room (before he was made to remove them), that he went to Klan meetings disguised as gun shows, that he had been caught on more than one occasion uttering the word 'nigger', etc, etc, etc. But since he'd quote-unquote changed in the month before she got there, she didn't believe them.

Fast forward almost a year later: I'm on my way out for the weekend to meet my fiancee and I hear the loudest, most pitiful crying I've ever heard from down the hall. I run in that direction and fling open her door and there she is, slumped in a pile next to her bed. She was so hysterical I thought she was hurt physically so I was about to call 911. But she caught her breath and told me that Klaus (yes, that was his name if you can believe it) had just broken up with her--after telling her that she was an 'experiment'. I asked her if that was what he specifically said and she just nodded. I'll never, ever forget that. I have dated white men all my life and later that night when my fiancee picked me up, I was so disturbed we had a long talk about what happened to her.

Sorry for the book; just wanted to share because there are plenty of white men who would sleep with a black woman but wouldn't even glance her way in 'real life'.

 

[Skull Mason]

I typically never date white women. All the black women I've been with, girlfriends included, have been turned on by exactly what the original post talks about. Turns me on as well. I also enjoy it when the roles are switched, ie I'm just a punk ass white boy who can't handle what she is putting on me. Love it.

 

[Smallprivate]

Hey Rommette, I definitely share your fetish fantasy...and agree it's not the easiest one to bring up with your partner. I think it's hot.

 

[Dport]

I dated a black women, I never used the n word, but during sex she'd go nuts (in a good way) when I called her 'black bitch'. I thought it was hot. I also thought it was hot when she would say shit like "Eat that pussy white boy!"

Neither of us talked like that outside the bedroom.

 

[B_SeattleYo]

Such a common desire. Fetish isn't really right word.
Women often have the desire to be as maltreated as possible in bed.
There are deep psychological, but also biological reasons for this.
Lots of reproduction has occurred through rape, and many animals, rape is about the only way reproduction occurs.

 

[primalsource]

Ok, now I've stayed away from posting for the last few months. I've logged on to see how everyone is doing but this is something that I absolutely need to post.

Many of you that I've known over the years know that I went to predominately white school. I went into college liking only black men and through a series of horrible experiences with black men and making friends in college with almost all white people I left far different then when I went in. By the time I graduated I had absolutely no sexual attraction to black men and I've only been attracted to whites.

I should be straightforward and say that I haven't had sex in almost two years. I went through a lot with my last boyfriend a couple of years ago in which I asked many of you for advice. I've talked to white men but recently I've had this fetish.

Now don't judge me for this. What is my fetish? I fantasize of sex with a white guy. But not just "normal" sex with a white guy. I've in fact had sex with TWO white guys I met through LPSG (but those stories are for another time). I however fantasize of having sex with a white guy and he calls me racial slurs. I especially get aroused at the thought of him calling me a Nig**r. You get what I'm saying here. I want him to say this stuff while he's dominant and "man handles" me during sex.

I feel so bad for wanting a white guy to have sex with me and say these things. I've looked over the internet for "race play" porn and I can't find any. I've found some with a white woman and black male but none with a black woman (like myself) and a white male. I think maybe it's too taboo because of slavery and the fact that white men would rape black women because black slaves were considered property of the white man. I did come across some stuff from Mollena. For more info about her and race-play there's an article here: When Prejudice Is Sexy: Inside the Kinky World of Race-Play

When I do get in a relationship with a white guy I have no idea how to tell him I want him to say this stuff to me. I'm even more afraid of what he would think of me. Then there's the issue of what if he says no. Most white men would never go there for fear of being looked at as a racist. I know he wouldn't be racist though.

Now before any of you go off and tell me I have some psychological issues I need to get resolved I will tell you that I don't. If a white guy ever called me a racial slur on the street I would punch him in the face. But in the bedroom it's a different story. I want him to be rough and call me all sorts of names.

I think we all deserve to play out our fetishes in the bedroom. I just wanted to see what you all thought about my fetish. Are lots of guys into this type of stuff. Of course I want to know what you women think of me. Well, advice?

You're definitely not alone. I had a black GF who was submissive with me and enjoyed the verbal humiliation a great deal. I got off on it too. For us it was about her submitting completely. The racial slurs were just one more kink in addition to physical domination, and my regular slew of profanity. I just realized this thread is super old. I'm sure you're over this situation by now. If not, just remember that it's only sex...not that big of a deal.

 

[TantrickLicks]

I have this same fantasy and have lived it out in the bedroom many times. Nothing wrong with it at all!

 

[LeaMurlando]

Hey Rommette,

I`m a mixed girl and I love big white cocks your fantasy turns me on as well somehow

 

[Oxnard]

Ok, now I've stayed away from posting for the last few months. I've logged on to see how everyone is doing but this is something that I absolutely need to post.

Many of you that I've known over the years know that I went to predominately white school. I went into college liking only black men and through a series of horrible experiences with black men and making friends in college with almost all white people I left far different then when I went in. By the time I graduated I had absolutely no sexual attraction to black men and I've only been attracted to whites.

I should be straightforward and say that I haven't had sex in almost two years. I went through a lot with my last boyfriend a couple of years ago in which I asked many of you for advice. I've talked to white men but recently I've had this fetish.

Now don't judge me for this. What is my fetish? I fantasize of sex with a white guy. But not just "normal" sex with a white guy. I've in fact had sex with TWO white guys I met through LPSG (but those stories are for another time). I however fantasize of having sex with a white guy and he calls me racial slurs. I especially get aroused at the thought of him calling me a Nig**r. You get what I'm saying here. I want him to say this stuff while he's dominant and "man handles" me during sex.

I feel so bad for wanting a white guy to have sex with me and say these things. I've looked over the internet for "race play" porn and I can't find any. I've found some with a white woman and black male but none with a black woman (like myself) and a white male. I think maybe it's too taboo because of slavery and the fact that white men would rape black women because black slaves were considered property of the white man. I did come across some stuff from Mollena. For more info about her and race-play there's an article here: When Prejudice Is Sexy: Inside the Kinky World of Race-Play

When I do get in a relationship with a white guy I have no idea how to tell him I want him to say this stuff to me. I'm even more afraid of what he would think of me. Then there's the issue of what if he says no. Most white men would never go there for fear of being looked at as a racist. I know he wouldn't be racist though.

Now before any of you go off and tell me I have some psychological issues I need to get resolved I will tell you that I don't. If a white guy ever called me a racial slur on the street I would punch him in the face. But in the bedroom it's a different story. I want him to be rough and call me all sorts of names.

I think we all deserve to play out our fetishes in the bedroom. I just wanted to see what you all thought about my fetish. Are lots of guys into this type of stuff. Of course I want to know what you women think of me. Well, advice?

I am understand your guilt over your racial dating choices, because I also feel guilty.

Like a lot of Asian-Americans, I have a mother from the old country, and a complex and difficult relationship with her that includes emotional abuse. I have never dated an Asian woman. I have never even had a one night stand with one. It helps (or hurts depending on how you look at it) that I am in a social environment that is almost entirely white people, but when an Asian woman flirts with me, I think of my mother and feel revulsion. When it gets really bad, flirtation from an Asian woman makes me feel fear. When the fear really gets bad, I imagine having children with the woman and imagine her abusing the children the same way I was abused.

Intellectually, I know that it is completely unfair to judge Asian-American women this way, as many of them have equally unpleasant relationships with their own mothers and would probably not treat husbands nor children that way, but fears do not respond well to reason.

And yes, all of this makes me feel guilty as fuck.

If you were to date me, I would not think less of you for asking this of me, but I also would not do it. I will not call any woman slut nor whore nor any racial slur. If I am having sex with you, you are pretty much the last human being on Earth I could ever say such things about.

If you were to ask this of me, I would not think any less of you, but I would be very angry at society.

I understand that different people each have their own kink preferences. On some things, I am more than willing to violate my own kink preferences if it is something that turns my partner on, but I just don't think I could do this, especially not with the Black Lives Matter thing going on right now.

 

[Oxnard]

Although I agree with most of your post I disagree with what I've placed in bold. I believe a person's fantasies/fetishes are more than just about someone's imagination. Some fantasies are deeply rooted in a person's psyche and a reflection of internalized issues that more than likely developed in childhood. There's some strong studies that agree with this view. The feelings/fantasies Rommette has expressed here could well be the result of unresolved issues, most likely concerning important men in her childhood, that now play out in her adult life through a subconscious need/feed.

This thread is a total eye opener for me. I just can't imagine a black woman wanting to be treated in such a manner. I'm shocked really. But I guess it's just another form of sexual submission and degradation. In this case on a racial level. Again, I never knew this type of thing existed.

As people have already stated, as long as no one is getting hurt then have at it. If you want to play in your own yard who am I to look over the fence and tell you not to. But you called out publicly to have me/us look over that fence and I can honestly say, I don't like what I see. Not because I'm judging you but because I think there's more to this than just a fantasy. My concern is for you and how you arrived to a point in which you want white men to say things to you that society has deemed completely unacceptable. That your own race would be appalled by.

I'm just going to throw this out there (mostly because I just don't have a personal filter and say what's on my mind), Do have a problem with being black? Is there some inner shame? Also, how do you feel when it comes to your own father?

Why should you be surprised?

Is her fetish really any different from women who want to be called a slut or similar names during sex?

Yes, fetish preferences probably are rooted in psychology. I can't do domination submission games, and there likeliest explanation for that is that my mother was and is extremely domineering/authoritarian.

I can't call women sluts or whores during sex, probably because most of my childhood happened in the 1970s during the height of women's liberation and I come from a very liberal family where I was taught that sex is natural and good, but can have serious consequences. People who indulge this fetish have probably internalized Victorian attitudes that liking sex makes someone shameful; I simply do not share that background.

Given that society genuinely mistreats African-Americans, should it surprise you that this fetish exists? Honestly, I would be more surprised if it didn't.

 

[Oxnard]

I'm not a chatter when it comes to bedroom banter. Much more on body movement, action. Maybe props, setting a scene, nothing to extravagant. Maybe a novel, rather than trying to look at the porn side, that contains similar fantasies left about. Sometimes guessing is half the fun. Or just come straight out and talk about it. Sounds to me like you may have found someone though.

Please consider changing your mind.

When I was younger, both I and my partners didn't say much during sex. It took me far too long to learn that words can make things sexier.

Sex is something that happens between two minds; the bodies are just a medium. Words give you an additional way to interact with the other person's mind.

 

[Oxnard]

Hey everyone, thank you for the advice. Many of you seem to have questions whether something in my past has triggered this fetish. I can say that nothing has. I fantacize about being called dirty names during rough sex so why should certain degrading names be off guard?



As far as this I don't think a white supremist would have sex with a black person since they're against sex outside their race and especially against mixed race children.

Mentally wise I'm tough as nails but if it made me feel uncomfortable I'd just ask him to stop calling me the N word and we'd continue sex.

And NiceNYDick, the second paragraph made me lol



My fetish isn't for everybody. Some people may feel hurt but that's no different then if someone being called a slut and getting their feelings hurt during sex. Some people are just able to handle certain names better then others.

That is not a safe assumption. I've met racist men and women who fantasize about it. Since sex is "bad" and certain minorities are "bad," then the two are not necessarily exclusive if that makes any sense.

 

[Oxnard]

Thank you all for your advice. I have yet to find the right guy to ask but when I do I'll make sure to let all of you know.

To be honest, I think I scare men away because I'm so outspoken on things such as gay rights that a lot of men think I'm a lesbian. People who know me in person would be quite shocked to know my fetish since I'm big on equal rights for minorities and such.

I'm still looking. I've decided to look into craigslist for my search. People there are usually less judgmental on fetishes then other places.

If being outspoken scares men away, you're around the wrong men.

I happen to like smart women, and what's the point of being attracted to a woman for her mind if she doesn't occasionally give me a piece of it?

I react very badly to domineering behavior and do not seek to be submissive, but strong opinions from a woman are a good thing. It shows that she is smart enough to have her own opinions and is confident enough to share them with others.

 

[185248]

Please consider changing your mind.

When I was younger, both I and my partners didn't say much during sex. It took me far too long to learn that words can make things sexier.

Sex is something that happens between two minds; the bodies are just a medium. Words give you an additional way to interact with the other person's mind.

Thank you for the advice young fella. I'm not speech or hearing impaired, I just don't waffle on with pointless babble in the bedroom . It does raise a point though. How would deaf-mute people reach that higher level of interaction you speak of?

I'm more of a scent, sense and touch kind of guy. Always have been, I'm just wired or more attuned to body movement. I can chat sex and dirty talk with another forever, yet if my senses are not tingling with their body movements, those of which they are not aware themselves. Their touch on my arm, their close proximity, their scent, causes my body to behave with it's own unconscious movements and need, all the chat in the bedroom will not change anything. I sometimes use bedroom chat as a little distraction to observe a bodily reaction and work from there.

Your mind helps you explore your sexual fetishes and boundaries, unlike chat, your body will always tell you whether you enjoy it or not.

 

[Oxnard]

Thank you for the advice young fella. I'm not speech or hearing impaired, I just don't waffle on with pointless babble in the bedroom . It does raise a point though. How would deaf-mute people reach that higher level of interaction you speak of?

I'm more of a scent, sense and touch kind of guy. Always have been, I'm just wired or more attuned to body movement. I can chat sex and dirty talk with another forever, yet if my senses are not tingling with their body movements, those of which they are not aware themselves. Their touch on my arm, their close proximity, their scent, causes my body to behave with it's own unconscious movements and need, all the chat in the bedroom will not change anything. I sometimes use bedroom chat as a little distraction to observe a bodily reaction and work from there.

Your mind helps you explore your sexual fetishes and boundaries, unlike chat, your body will always tell you whether you enjoy it or not.

Fair enough.

It's just that when I finally started doing it, I felt stupid for not trying that sooner.