I am in the end process of starting a thread relating to the reasons male victems of rape do not come forward and the lastign effects on interpersonal relationships (ok i have been at that end stage of it for 3 months now, *sigh* lol)
As the victim of rape, I can tell you that I felt uber alone. I saw how the cops treated domestic disputes amoung gays and the cavalier attitude they had. It prevented me from coming forward and reporting my rapist. Years later I told a few freinds. Some were sympathetic, some wondered, very openly, why I didn't stop it, others wondered how i let myself get in that position. One actually gave the impression that it was my fault (friend of a friend).
Had I been female, the support would have been there in greater quantities. Never mind the support services. I had a psychologist be dismissive of it. Made me seem less than (yeah i stopped seeing him after the second visit, right after he started that line of crap)
The fact that society at large treats people this way...appalls me.
Not to discount the pain and trauma women go through (my Sis was raped when she was really young by a creep in the neighborhood) but at least they have th support services, and community support (in general, there are asshole communities out there)