that's exactly what i'm talking about.
i'm sorry you had to put up with so much.
thank you for sharing your experience.
Thank you Ms D. I just hoped to shed some light on this. A lot of guys who have been through this have faced similar. People need to be made aware, especially when there reactions to being told can have either a wonderful positive, or depression spawnning negative, effect.
Oh, Nico! You are exactly the kind of man I was talking about - truly brave and truly strong. You have to be so much stronger and braver in order to get support or to get justice. What is also amazing is that you have stayed a genuine, kind and good human being.....can't wait to meet you one day! *big smooshie hugs*
Just wish I had gone for the justice aspect. That is the orther part:guilt that the bastard who did it to me most likely was free to do it to someone else. I will carry that with me forever. And that's another aspect that people can be callous when inquiring about the "how could you let him walk to be free to do it again" people.
Sending you a huge hug Nico.
Thank you so much for being brave and sharing your story with us.
It's such a humbling experience to be trusted with something that has cause you so much pain.
You are a wonderfully strong guy.
Thank you.
Your very welcome, though I don't see myself as being all that wonderful or strong. I am just me. and this is something that needs to be discussed. Othrwise nothing is ever going to change. It just won't.
I am truly so sorry for your experience and its aftermatch. I didn't realize that the attitudes in society would be that bad. I wish I knew someone like you in real life so I wouldn't have been so carefree about making a post in the women's issues forum about men being raped (although it concerned a situation in which woman was being the rapist). But as AlteredEgo said, rape is rape. I wish I wasn't so ignorant to understand the full effect of what was said to me in that thread.
I suppose I am too immature to look at societal behavior beyond how I personally would feel or react, because I would never be so judgmental toward a person who was raped, no matter the gender or race or sexuality or age.
My thoughts on you being a great and strong person are only reinforced by this (as LaFemme mentioned), but I'm genuinely sorry you had to experience it at all.
Catharses, you have always been aces in my book. Takes alot to admit to a mistake. That in and of itself shows just how NOT immature you are. Your a good guy. :hug: And as for knowing someone "in real life"? First can i say i hate that term, "real life"? I refer "offline". Nothing stopping you from getting to no me. May be online life, but I assure you I am very much real, and any association would be real too:wink:. Now as for your offline life and having made a faux pass online? Just be the kind person you are, and you will ake a difference to anyone going through this. And that is wonderful difference indeed. :hug:
:hug: back.
i viewed your post because, after your comment in the other thread, i wanted to see what you had to say.
you don't seem so immature right now.
it takes a big man to make a post like that and mean it. it was genuine and from the heart.
i'm glad for you that you have taken something positive from his terrible experiences, that you can start to understand the impact of society's attitudes on the victims.
not that it's important, but would like you to know that i've taken you off ignore. you've impressed me. you're a better person than you were yesterday.
He's a good kid (sorry to refer to you as a kid Catharses, i don't mean it in a belittling way but an in endearing way:redface
wish i had known him when it had happened to me.
You heard my thoughts on this some time ago, but I wanted to join in the hug fest :biggrin1:. You deserve every single one of those hugs :hug:.
I too am horrified by the lack of support and understanding for men who have been through rape or sexual abuse. An ex of mine was sexually abused as a child, as were many of my female friends and family members. From my discussions with all these people, it does indeed seem as though males have it much worse.
You and Dante were the firt people who got the full story. I will be sharing that with the LPSG membership t large fairly soon. Gives me the not so nice queezies, but i think it could possibly help.
You are another person I wish I had known back then. :hug: Glad to know you NOW. :kiss: