The Size Where Sex Problems Start
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Originally posted by Knight@Mar 22 2005, 09:26 PM
Yeah sex with my gf was great. I'm goin round next week for round twoWe did it all night with a condom on but I didnt cum...It was great though I really enjoyed it cos she enjoyed it so much
That's good I was thinking I was lucky finding a girl who could fit it all in and was wondering what it would be like if a girl couldn't get me all in, not that I'm planning on finding a new girl, I was just pondering lol. So yeah its all grrrrrrreat. Thanks for the kind words guys. And gals
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You are apparently blessed with good fortune. Sounds like you had a fine time. To find a lady able to, willing to, and enjoy the first time, with your physical attribute. Most seem, to think you want to rip them apart. Doesnt work for good sex.
blackwood
Just to quote one of our favorite sayings in high school: "I'm 18. It's legal!"
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[/b][/quote]Bri, baby... that "quote" can get you into a world of trouble... Remember... I travel a lot... have frequent flyer miles... WILL TRAVEL, especially if you are legal. :evilgrin: Now, where did you tell me you were located?!?! LOL (you do know I am joking, I hope).
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Oh, I see what you're saying. I agree with it, but then I only have myself as an example. As BB points out, for most women it is more a combination of things that lead to orgasm in women. I swear to god I'm a man trapped in a woman's body!
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[/b][/quote]Jana, you're not the only one. A former girlfriend of mine also had what would stereotypically be called a 'male' attitude towards sex. She had very strong sexual desires and saw nothing wrong with having sex with a guy to satisfy those desires.
I've said it before, I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body!
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Damn... if only you guys were older.... or I was younger.......... :evilgrin:
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[/b][/quote]cough .. cough :evilgrin:
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Congratulation Knight.
Iâm about the same size as you are and have only been with 2 women that had difficulty taking me. Iâve had several that refused to try after seeing me though.
A woman with a high sex drive that can get so horny she can soak the sheets is a truly wonderful thing.
Iâm about the same size as you are and have only been with 2 women that had difficulty taking me. Iâve had several that refused to try after seeing me though.
A woman with a high sex drive that can get so horny she can soak the sheets is a truly wonderful thing.
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Knight,
Wherever "sex problems start" it doesn't sound as if you have anything to worry about; so far as I know many first times are nothing like as good as what you have described.
The way you framed the question highlights a distinction. A problem with insertion is one thing, and it must relate to girth issues, or maybe just the size and shape of your glans if you are talking about just gaining entry at all. A problem with complete insertion to full depth is another matter, and brings in the length issue.
I suppose quite a few gents here with very long penises will be able to give a good guide as to where length problems start, simply from their knowledge of how much they can use, especially if they have had a lot of partners. My own limited experience corroborates what Steve26 said; most men up to 8 inches will be able to use their whole length with many women, but as you go above that length you can increasingly expect to have to hold back. I have a pretty precise idea how much I can use from the 'doughnuts' I wear from time to time when I think I am not going to be able to restain myself. In my case I usually stop at 8" or maybe 8.5" even though I have on occasion gone beyond.
That puts you at pretty well the ideal size.
Initial penetration and girth are another matter. It will depend a lot on the woman and her own experience, and her state of readiness. But also on you, not only your girth but maybe even your shape. Again I would guess (and it is only a guess), that a man over six inches in girth will have to be much slower and much gentler at least to start with. Well experienced women, espcially those who have enjoyed a number of well endowed partners, would be the best people to answer this question. The trouble is, few men (let alone their partners), have a really accurate idea of what their girth actually is.
Yet there are many big men on here who say that they can achieve very deep penetration. It may be they have the good fortune to have found a very receptive partner; there could also be other factors. Some erections have more give in them, maybe they are little more spongy or flexible, or they are curved differently. In the end you can't know until you (gently! try.
Sorry for the long post.
Wherever "sex problems start" it doesn't sound as if you have anything to worry about; so far as I know many first times are nothing like as good as what you have described.
The way you framed the question highlights a distinction. A problem with insertion is one thing, and it must relate to girth issues, or maybe just the size and shape of your glans if you are talking about just gaining entry at all. A problem with complete insertion to full depth is another matter, and brings in the length issue.
I suppose quite a few gents here with very long penises will be able to give a good guide as to where length problems start, simply from their knowledge of how much they can use, especially if they have had a lot of partners. My own limited experience corroborates what Steve26 said; most men up to 8 inches will be able to use their whole length with many women, but as you go above that length you can increasingly expect to have to hold back. I have a pretty precise idea how much I can use from the 'doughnuts' I wear from time to time when I think I am not going to be able to restain myself. In my case I usually stop at 8" or maybe 8.5" even though I have on occasion gone beyond.
That puts you at pretty well the ideal size.
Initial penetration and girth are another matter. It will depend a lot on the woman and her own experience, and her state of readiness. But also on you, not only your girth but maybe even your shape. Again I would guess (and it is only a guess), that a man over six inches in girth will have to be much slower and much gentler at least to start with. Well experienced women, espcially those who have enjoyed a number of well endowed partners, would be the best people to answer this question. The trouble is, few men (let alone their partners), have a really accurate idea of what their girth actually is.
Yet there are many big men on here who say that they can achieve very deep penetration. It may be they have the good fortune to have found a very receptive partner; there could also be other factors. Some erections have more give in them, maybe they are little more spongy or flexible, or they are curved differently. In the end you can't know until you (gently!
try.Sorry for the long post.
orionsword57: ..... "A former girlfriend of mine also had what would stereotypically be called a 'male' attitude towards sex."
plus..... MZ's comment about scaring men away...
My current friend/lover has said that about herself. She is very feminine in just about every way one might imagine, AND (not "but") she continues at 68 to have a very healthy sexual appetite combined with an "attitude" that she "deserves" to have it satisfied. I am not daunted by her feeling of self-worth. Too often men are cowed by women who have a greater sense of personal merit than they do.
Antoine de St. Exupery wrote that love is not looking at one another so much as it is looking outward in the same direction. I believe the most important attribute for lovers is to have a shared sense on self-worth, both in their sex and in their selves.
MZ is one of those infrequent goddesses who can probably keep a man "up" all night as much with her wit and conversation as with her sexuality. She MUST know that about herself, and therefore must have a good sense of self. Like all humans, she desires to be satisfied, and fortunately she knows she deserves to be.
plus..... MZ's comment about scaring men away...
My current friend/lover has said that about herself. She is very feminine in just about every way one might imagine, AND (not "but") she continues at 68 to have a very healthy sexual appetite combined with an "attitude" that she "deserves" to have it satisfied. I am not daunted by her feeling of self-worth. Too often men are cowed by women who have a greater sense of personal merit than they do.
Antoine de St. Exupery wrote that love is not looking at one another so much as it is looking outward in the same direction. I believe the most important attribute for lovers is to have a shared sense on self-worth, both in their sex and in their selves.
MZ is one of those infrequent goddesses who can probably keep a man "up" all night as much with her wit and conversation as with her sexuality. She MUST know that about herself, and therefore must have a good sense of self. Like all humans, she desires to be satisfied, and fortunately she knows she deserves to be.
madame_zora
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Wow, Orionsword, I'm stunned. Wow again. You'll probably be surprised to know that your post hit me from clear out of the blue. I've never thought of things in anywhere close to that frame of reference. I've always thought of my sex drive as a curse and something that causes me (though I don't mean to ) to devalue other human beings.
I hear how men with large endowments don't want to be thought of as a walking dick, and I of all people would never want to make anyone feel that way, unfortunately, it IS something I need. Sadly, the requirements only begin there. I also need someone who is an intellectual equal, a creative thinker, politically and socially "left of center", musically oriented, and "up" for the challenge of having sex with me. I am in the infancy stages of a new relationship right now, and I'm so amazed that such a person could even exist outside the confines of this board. You see, in many ways I've been coming to this site to just relieve my brain. There are so many wonderful men here who seem to be all of these things, but you guys are hard to find in real life!
Thanks so much for your kind words, you'll never know how much it's meant.
I hear how men with large endowments don't want to be thought of as a walking dick, and I of all people would never want to make anyone feel that way, unfortunately, it IS something I need. Sadly, the requirements only begin there. I also need someone who is an intellectual equal, a creative thinker, politically and socially "left of center", musically oriented, and "up" for the challenge of having sex with me. I am in the infancy stages of a new relationship right now, and I'm so amazed that such a person could even exist outside the confines of this board. You see, in many ways I've been coming to this site to just relieve my brain. There are so many wonderful men here who seem to be all of these things, but you guys are hard to find in real life!
Thanks so much for your kind words, you'll never know how much it's meant.
orionsword57:
Maybe because I'm so old, I don't remember the women I knew that had strong sexual appetites being embarrased about it. Feeling somewhat cursed because of the relative lack of capable partners was certainly there, but I guess that the level of my appetite was sufficient that their having a similar one eliminated a measure of differenciation. If you want to fuck all day and all night and so does your partner, what's there to feel embarrased or shamed about? Not directly to the subject, but germain... is the truth that when one person feels fear, another with the same feeling experiences exhilaration. It is all in how you hold the feeling. The feelings that bring on shame can be turned into ones that evoke pride with a different attitude.
I think the following is the most powerful thing I've ever heard about the attractiveness of a woman. You're sitting there listening to her, and while you want to haul her off to bed and set world records, you just don't want her to stop talking because she's so interesting. I have been incredibly fortunate to have a wife and a couple of past lovers who were like that. That is basically what you said about what you want in a man, MZ, albeit in another way, I believe. Hell, why not?
Maybe because I'm so old, I don't remember the women I knew that had strong sexual appetites being embarrased about it. Feeling somewhat cursed because of the relative lack of capable partners was certainly there, but I guess that the level of my appetite was sufficient that their having a similar one eliminated a measure of differenciation. If you want to fuck all day and all night and so does your partner, what's there to feel embarrased or shamed about? Not directly to the subject, but germain... is the truth that when one person feels fear, another with the same feeling experiences exhilaration. It is all in how you hold the feeling. The feelings that bring on shame can be turned into ones that evoke pride with a different attitude.
I think the following is the most powerful thing I've ever heard about the attractiveness of a woman. You're sitting there listening to her, and while you want to haul her off to bed and set world records, you just don't want her to stop talking because she's so interesting. I have been incredibly fortunate to have a wife and a couple of past lovers who were like that. That is basically what you said about what you want in a man, MZ, albeit in another way, I believe. Hell, why not?
Chicago_Swimmer
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I'm about 7.5" in length. I've not had any trouble ecept for one instance when I went too deep. I've had more troubles with my width (6.25"). Sometimes it takes awhile to take it if we haven't had sex in a few weeks.
Though I may be technically considered large I'm by no means porn star large. I would say that width is going to give you more troubles than length.
Though I may be technically considered large I'm by no means porn star large. I would say that width is going to give you more troubles than length.
KatieR: I was pleased that this site was not just dedicated to guys who love size so decided to join. I checked it out after hearing about some posts about I guy I used to know in the UK who had the largest penis I'd ever seen. I'd expected it just to be a gay site, but pleased to see all interests represented! I think a lot of rubbish is talked (mostly by men) about women 'only being able to take x inches'. Yes there's a limit (! but it varies for each woman. I am with Kat on this. I also use a dildo that is 12inches and find it enormously satisfying. I also like girth. I am not a superficial person and of course it takes more than a big penis in a partner, but I have always searched for size. When I was in my late teens, my family went to live in Zambia and my first partner there was 11 inches long. I found it relatively easy to accommodate him right from day one and it was great. But he told me a funny story that I'm certain was true: it had even appeared in the newspaper - a guy in Lusaka with more than 12 inches got married but his wife quickly filed for divorce on account of his size. When the case was heard, the judge asked to see the guy's penis and gave the woman her divorce, pronouncing the guy's penis to be "an instrument of torture"! Now my thoughts were: "Where was this guy?"!!! Katie
but it varies for each woman. I am with Kat on this. I also use a dildo that is 12inches and find it enormously satisfying. I also like girth. I am not a superficial person and of course it takes more than a big penis in a partner, but I have always searched for size. When I was in my late teens, my family went to live in Zambia and my first partner there was 11 inches long. I found it relatively easy to accommodate him right from day one and it was great. But he told me a funny story that I'm certain was true: it had even appeared in the newspaper - a guy in Lusaka with more than 12 inches got married but his wife quickly filed for divorce on account of his size. When the case was heard, the judge asked to see the guy's penis and gave the woman her divorce, pronouncing the guy's penis to be "an instrument of torture"! Now my thoughts were: "Where was this guy?"!!! KatieI once read a similar story in a local newspaper. Other than the fact that there was no indication as to how big it was.
